Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 We make trip plans etc, but it's the individual weekly like " wanna go shopping Friday " kind of plans. Plans with hubby are no big deal because he's understanding, so he and I can make plans just the two of us all the time. Plans with a friend I get a little anxious about my fibro and how it might make me no fun to be around, etc. Melody Mystic wrote: > LOL you would never survive going somewhere with me then Melody!! I > make plans MONTHS in advance. For example, not only do we almost have > out plans finalized for the trip to the ren faire in April, I almost > have all the plans finalzed for a three day trip to Dallas at the first > of June so I can take 10 teenagers to the A-Kon animation convention > there. Guess I've just never been one to do stuff at the last minute > lol > > lisa n. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 Thanks . I guess I just hate being the party pooper and I usually will not cancel due to pain unless it has me on the couch unable to move, like last night. I've had to overcome this need to make sure everyone else was happy before taking care of myself. It's hard to not fall into old habits, it's kind of a one day at a time type of thing. I got to where I became less social because of how hard it was for me to say no or to put my needs first. I'm still working on those issues, but haven't give up. The housework - ugh, I do that based on how I feel that day. No plans there. I say 'this week if I can I'm going to __ " and insert chore there. I have to look at one task at a time, but I see the big picture - the whole house - and get overwhelmed and fatigued. So I say " clean the cat boxes, vacuum the dog room. " and once I do those, I stop or have my hot bath, then go from there. If we ever moved into a bigger house, I'd hire a maid. > That's very a very strange coincidence as I was just wondering if I > could ask a member of this group to help me set small goals for > myself each day and encourage me to keep them! And I think the first > one I need to set is to start clearing my bedroom! Would be great to > walk around the whole tiny room instead of just going from the door > straight to the bed. But I can see the connection between you and > your delimna about making a commitment for Friday --- we all have > this fear that " oh, no, that might be a bad day! " My only response > to my own comment was when my doctor just came right out and asked me > what would make me happy last summer and I said " going home " -- that > meant a 6 or 700 mile drive! I did it, spent an extra day at one > hotel because of an adverse reaction to meds. And had another while > husband and I out there over Christmas --- but he understands how > that can happen. > But there is also the fact that you could say yes and if your friend > understands your condition, she would not be hurt if you called and > said you were having a bad day! But then, there is the positive > thought of something you enjoy doing that could give you the strength > to go! > I know, it's 1/2 dozen of one and 1/2 dozen of the other! > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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