Re: Tough Time Today

[Guest guest]

Sorry to hear you are having a bad day. It's really tough when our family

members do not understand us. Do you see a counselor? Maybe your hubby

could go with you sometime to handle some of these couple issues with a

moderator there. I would hate satin pj's too. They sound hot, and

potentially itchy where the stitching is. It sounds like he is trying and

succeeding at making you angry and hurt. Well, I hope it helped that you

vented. Don't know what else to say, but am here to listen. Take care.

Jeanne in WI

> I'm really having a hard time today. I just got over the flu last week

> after being in bed for almost 10 days. Finally feeling better and getting

> out in the sun (even though it was really cold ). Then wham, I wake up

> yesterday morning like a mack truck had run me down.

> Then my DH says, I can't remember the last time you felt good on the

> weekend. I just said I can't remember the last time I felt good. I get

> really tired of him complaining. I do my best to not complain around him.

> If he doesn't want to know how I feel, then he shouldn't ask me. Last

> night he offered to rub my back, but his idea of fun is

to hold the cold lotion up and let it drop onto my back. I asked him to

please not to do that and he got mad. He rubbed my back anyway, but

complained the whole time that I always had to be serious and could never

take a joke. He just doesn't get that doing that isn't funny to me, it

hurts; along with some other things that he does.

> Then he comes home from Walmart today and says he saw something he wanted

> to get me but was afraid to cuz he knew I'd get pissed. I asked him was it

> something he knew I would like or something he liked? He said it was

> something he wanted me to have. He said it was satin pajamas, which he

> knows I won't wear, for some reason, they bother me. His idea of gift

> giving is to buy what he likes, not what I like. Anyway, I didn't mean to

> ramble, I'm just really having a bad pain day, and so everything is

> getting on my nerves. Plus my younger daughter is here with her fiance

> watching football and doing laundry,

> so we have an extra dog here, too.

> Thanks for listening.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the encouragement! I was beginning to think nobody read my

post. Yea, he did succeed at making me angry and hurt. I need to

remember not to let him have that power! We were going to counseling,

he won't go back. Says he felt too beat up. Yes, the venting did

help. Sometimes just getting it all out is the best cure.

>

> Sorry to hear you are having a bad day. It's really tough when our

family

> members do not understand us. Do you see a counselor? Maybe your

hubby

> could go with you sometime to handle some of these couple issues

with a

> moderator there. I would hate satin pj's too. They sound hot, and

> potentially itchy where the stitching is. It sounds like he is

trying and

> succeeding at making you angry and hurt. Well, I hope it helped

that you

> vented. Don't know what else to say, but am here to listen. Take

care.

> Jeanne in WI

>

>

> > I'm really having a hard time today. I just got over the flu last

week

> > after being in bed for almost 10 days. Finally feeling better and

getting

> > out in the sun (even though it was really cold ). Then wham, I

wake up

> > yesterday morning like a mack truck had run me down.

> > Then my DH says, I can't remember the last time you felt good on

the

> > weekend. I just said I can't remember the last time I felt good.

I get

> > really tired of him complaining. I do my best to not complain

around him.

> > If he doesn't want to know how I feel, then he shouldn't ask me.

Last

> > night he offered to rub my back, but his idea of fun is

> to hold the cold lotion up and let it drop onto my back. I asked

him to

> please not to do that and he got mad. He rubbed my back anyway, but

> complained the whole time that I always had to be serious and could

never

> take a joke. He just doesn't get that doing that isn't funny to me,

it

> hurts; along with some other things that he does.

> > Then he comes home from Walmart today and says he saw something

he wanted

> > to get me but was afraid to cuz he knew I'd get pissed. I asked

him was it

> > something he knew I would like or something he liked? He said it

was

> > something he wanted me to have. He said it was satin pajamas,

which he

> > knows I won't wear, for some reason, they bother me. His idea of

gift

> > giving is to buy what he likes, not what I like. Anyway, I didn't

mean to

> > ramble, I'm just really having a bad pain day, and so everything

is

> > getting on my nerves. Plus my younger daughter is here with her

fiance

> > watching football and doing laundry,

> > so we have an extra dog here, too.

> > Thanks for listening.

> >

> >

>