Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 I will be typing about them alot sense they are usually the major source of my stress/ pain. My oldest just turned 18 on Sunday but he moved out last April. I could no longer emotionally or physically handle him in my house. He has been in therapy sense age 4, the soonest they would take him. We went through alot of Dr.s and therapists and dx and meds. His current official diagnosis Bipolar 1 mixed, I thought I knew what bipolar was until we got this diagnosis explained, and it really explained to me why my son was who he was. Bipolar 1 mixed in a nutshell means that his depression and his mania were cycling so fast that it's like they are both running at the same time. He is so angry most of the time, he sucks the life out of most rooms. Before he left he had put huge holes in my walls that are still there, I can't afford to fix them. The verbal abuse was the worst of it mostly for my younger son,constantly being screamed at just for being within his sight. My younger son and I stayed shut in my bedroom most of the time. The final straw was the fighting with his then pregnant girlfriend. He is now doing a little better he is living in an indepentent living program, working, and somewhat helping to take care of my beautiful 8 month old Grandaughter. I know this sounds awful but his Birthday felt like a huge weight lifted from my sholders. I never have to let him come home. I love him with all my heart, but he's so much easier to deal with from a distance. My younger son is dxed w/ bipolar but his is textbook, the problem is that so many years of verbal and physical abuse from his brother has caused major emotional scars, so every day is less of a struggle but it is still a struggle. Wow I'm going to stop b4 I write a whole book. For those who pray please remember my sons when you think of them. Thanks, Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 oh, I can so relate. this is my 16 year old son to a t. even the pregnant girlfriend! and I too let him move out. she is with her and her family. I did give them a serious heads up on his behavior. he was so violent that he physically and sexually abused my younger two. he was arrested and then put in a youth program for anger and another for sex offenders. he is much more able to control himself now, but he still has a long way to go. I have scars...emotional and physical, from raising this child. it is nice to know I am not alone. -ang My Sons > I will be typing about them alot sense they are usually the major > source of my stress/ pain. My oldest just turned 18 on Sunday but he > moved out last April. I could no longer emotionally or physically > handle him in my house. He has been in therapy sense age 4, the > soonest they would take him. We went through alot of Dr.s and > therapists and dx and meds. His current official diagnosis Bipolar 1 > mixed, I thought I knew what bipolar was until we got this diagnosis > explained, and it really explained to me why my son was who he was. > Bipolar 1 mixed in a nutshell means that his depression and his mania > were cycling so fast that it's like they are both running at the same > time. He is so angry most of the time, he sucks the life out of most > rooms. Before he left he had put huge holes in my walls that are > still there, I can't afford to fix them. The verbal abuse was the > worst of it mostly for my younger son,constantly being screamed at > just for being within his sight. My younger son and I stayed shut in > my bedroom most of the time. The final straw was the fighting with > his then pregnant girlfriend. He is now doing a little better he is > living in an indepentent living program, working, and somewhat > helping to take care of my beautiful 8 month old Grandaughter. I know > this sounds awful but his Birthday felt like a huge weight lifted > from my sholders. I never have to let him come home. > I love him with all my heart, but he's so much easier to deal with > from a distance. My younger son is dxed w/ bipolar but his is > textbook, the problem is that so many years of verbal and physical > abuse from his brother has caused major emotional scars, so every day > is less of a struggle but it is still a struggle. Wow I'm going to > stop b4 I write a whole book. For those who pray please remember my > sons when you think of them. > Thanks, > > > > 1. While it is wonderful to share our experiences with everyone on the > list as to what treatments do and don't work for us, pls always check with > your dr. Some treatments are dangerous when given along with other meds > as well as to certain health conditions or just dangerous in general. > > 2. If you are in a difficult situation (doesn't matter what it is) pls > don't be afraid to ask for help. It is the first step to trying to make > that situation better. > > 3. To unsubscribe the e-mail is: > Fibromyalgia_Support_Group-unsubscribe > > 4. Also, it is not uncommon for more than one member to be feeling bad at > the same time when it comes to flares and b/c of that potentially take > something another member says the wrong way. And that includes the things > that one member may find funny (even if it's laughing at fibro itself) > even though we who deal with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple > illnesses try to keep a sense of humor. > > 5. Pls let's be gentle with each other, and if you are having a bad day > pls let us know so that we can do our best to offer our support. > > Have a nice day everyone. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 Wow, , you just discribed my grandson. I went to visit my son and his family this last Oct. My 10 yr old grandson was totally out of control most of the time. He is dx'd the same as your oldest son. Whenever he totally lost control, I went to the room I was staying. It was so hard to see all this. He is on meds but both my son and daughter-in-law feel that they aren't working. He picks on his 2 younger siblings but leaves the older ones alone. He even threw something and hit his mother in the head. My son and daugher-in-law don't know what to do. He swearing is beyond. I know this is off topic. I just wanted to respond to your post and let you know that I totally know what you have gone thru. D in CA --------------------------------- Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo! Search. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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