Re: The non believing nurse.... at work

[Guest guest]

I am in the same kind of situation. My best friend is a nurse and has stated to

my husband " fibromyalgia does not exist, it is just a made up disease " Now keep

in mind I have not been diagnosed yet but my doctor (who did my hysterectomy)

mentioned this as a possibility and I have alot of the symptoms, so I am on the

road trying to get an answer. I specifically asked my husband not to discuss

what is going on with me to his friend/business partner (husband of my friend)

as I do not need anyone thinking I am making it up or being a baby.

A little back ground about me: I was born at 29 wks gestation (36 yrs ago), I

fought and survived that, grew up in Detroit (just voted the most miserable city

LOL) had to pretty much raise myself because of my mothers illness, joined the

Navy, served during desert shield desert storm, flying more missions than I can

count. Found out I had stage 4 endo and could not have children, the endo

blocked off 95 % of my bowel for 8 yrs while doctors told me it was just IBS (no

one would listen to me ) went through 3 failed adoptions, became a foster

parent, adopted 6 special needs children, had a hysterectomy with bowel

resection 3 months ago. I am not telling you this for kuddos or anything like

that just to say I am a fighter, always have been, I never give up and to have

your best friend just dismiss what you are feeling is a true slap in the face!

Thanks for letting me rant

To: Fibromyalgia_Support_Group@...: ladybug75901@...:

Tue, 12 Feb 2008 08:02:37 -0800Subject: The non believing nurse.... at

work

I know I have told most of you about the nurse I work with. We have been on the

same shift for about 4 months now. She is a wonderful nurse and I really like

working with her. I feel like she is a friend..... except for the fibromyalgia.

She told me the first week we worked together about a " friend " she has with

fibro. She said she does not talk to her anymore because she is on too many

drugs and is just wanting someone to feel sorry for her all the time. (this did

hurt my feelings because she knows I have FM). I have mentioned fibro in passing

to several people... she goes dead silent. She says nothing. Silence is probably

worse than someone just saying " you are full of shit " . Anyway, another nurse

came to work for us. I found out she has fibromyaglia. We started talking about

it at the desk the other day. My " friend " went silent again. The other woman and

I talked about it for several minutes. I think that this nurse who dumped her

friend would have to face the fact that fibro is real if she believed me. That

might be too much for her to handle because she would have to admit to herself

that she threw her friend away for an imaginary disease that is actually

REAL.Well, just venting again.hugs,Debra

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[Guest guest]

She just doesn't understand. If she could live in our bodies for just

five minutes, she'd probably scream from the pain.

I really do hope that being around so many will help her to gain some

wisdom and a little compassion.

I still deal with people that act weird when I mention it. I figure

it's THEIR problem, not mine. Right?

I rarely even talk to my best friend about it at all. In fact last week

when I was having my crying kick, she called right in the middle of my

sob fest. I gained my composure and answered the phone trying to sound

normal, I honestly did NOT want to talk about why I was upset. I know

she doesn't understand. But she was crying too! I said what's wrong,

she said " I'm having the worst day EVER! " Being there for her helped

yank me out of my own sob fest and then I felt better about things. But

anyway I was glad I didn't have to try and explain why I was crying, she

had no idea.

Hugs,

Melody

debra van ness wrote:

> I know I have told most of you about the nurse I work with. We have been on

the same shift for about 4 months now. She is a wonderful nurse and I really

like working with her. I feel like she is a friend..... except for the

fibromyalgia.

>

> She told me the first week we worked together about a " friend " she has with

fibro. She said she does not talk to her anymore because she is on too many

drugs and is just wanting someone to feel sorry for her all the time. (this did

hurt my feelings because she knows I have FM). I have mentioned fibro in

passing to several people... she goes dead silent. She says nothing. Silence

is probably worse than someone just saying " you are full of shit " .

>

> Anyway, another nurse came to work for us. I found out she has

fibromyaglia. We started talking about it at the desk the other day. My

" friend " went silent again. The other woman and I talked about it for several

minutes. I think that this nurse who dumped her friend would have to face the

fact that fibro is real if she believed me. That might be too much for her to

handle because she would have to admit to herself that she threw her friend away

for an imaginary disease that is actually REAL.

>

> Well, just venting again.

>

> hugs,

> Debra V.

>

[Guest guest]

I truly hope these people who are so insensitive to another's chronic pain

disease such as fibro never have to suffer chronic pain. The best thing I do in

these situations is ignore people like that.

I am so sorry that you are being treated like that.

hoping you have a pain free day,

D in CA

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