Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 I go no matter how bad I feel. I refuse to let this thing run me! Melody wrote: I still have such a hard time making plans. My neighbor just emailed me asking if I wanted to go with her to the mall on Friday afternoon and my heart kind of started to race a bit. I have no idea how I'm going to FEEL that day! Do you all do that too? We live 45 miles from the nearest mall too. I'm the type to suck it up and not cancel, then go and be in pain, because I have a hard time letting others down. My neighbor is sympathetic to my fibro so I know I'll probably say yes to going and if I hurt then she will be patient with me if I'm being slow or whatever. But still, sometimes when I have a bad fibro day I just want to stay home in comfy clothes. What if I feel bad on Friday? I hate how unpredictable this thing is. I usually prefer to make plans a day before, because usually I can get a feel of what I might feel like the next day. I always make it worse by not being able to sleep the night before, too. Then I ache from lack of sleep. Frustrating!!!! Melody -- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 Thanks . I replied to her and said I'd go. So far I've never regretted going, but I still get a little anxiety in the days before hand. I'm really trying to face my issues and not let it run me as well. I've been baby stepping this past year to overcome a little bit of social phobia too. There are so many social things I now do that a year ago I'd never even think about. wrote: > I go no matter how bad I feel. I refuse to let this thing run me! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 > > I still have such a hard time making plans. My neighbor just emailed me > asking if I wanted to go with her to the mall on Friday afternoon and my > heart kind of started to race a bit. I have no idea how I'm going to > FEEL that day! Do you all do that too? We live 45 miles from the > nearest mall too. > That's very a very strange coincidence as I was just wondering if I could ask a member of this group to help me set small goals for myself each day and encourage me to keep them! And I think the first one I need to set is to start clearing my bedroom! Would be great to walk around the whole tiny room instead of just going from the door straight to the bed. But I can see the connection between you and your delimna about making a commitment for Friday --- we all have this fear that " oh, no, that might be a bad day! " My only response to my own comment was when my doctor just came right out and asked me what would make me happy last summer and I said " going home " -- that meant a 6 or 700 mile drive! I did it, spent an extra day at one hotel because of an adverse reaction to meds. And had another while husband and I out there over Christmas --- but he understands how that can happen. But there is also the fact that you could say yes and if your friend understands your condition, she would not be hurt if you called and said you were having a bad day! But then, there is the positive thought of something you enjoy doing that could give you the strength to go! I know, it's 1/2 dozen of one and 1/2 dozen of the other! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 10, 2008 Report Share Posted February 10, 2008 LOL you would never survive going somewhere with me then Melody!! I make plans MONTHS in advance. For example, not only do we almost have out plans finalized for the trip to the ren faire in April, I almost have all the plans finalzed for a three day trip to Dallas at the first of June so I can take 10 teenagers to the A-Kon animation convention there. Guess I've just never been one to do stuff at the last minute lol lisa n. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 12, 2008 Report Share Posted February 12, 2008 If I make the plans, I will stress myself out about it so much, that I WILL feel too ill to participate in the activity. At least it used to be that way. This is why I've given up on going to church, because the worrying about can I go or not stresses me too much. Now a planned outing with family or whatever, I will try to keep a positive attitude so I don't have to cancel, but it doesn't always work. Jeanne in WI >I still have such a hard time making plans. My neighbor just emailed me >asking if I wanted to go with her to the mall on Friday afternoon and my >heart kind of started to race a bit. I have no idea how I'm going to FEEL >that day! Do you all do that too? We live 45 miles from the nearest mall too. I'm the type to suck it up and not cancel, then go and be in pain, because I have a hard time letting others down. My neighbor is sympathetic to my fibro so I know I'll probably say yes to going and if I hurt then she will be patient with me if I'm being slow or whatever. But still, sometimes when I have a bad fibro day I just want to stay home in comfy clothes. What if I feel bad on Friday? I hate how unpredictable this thing is. I usually prefer to make plans a day before, because usually I can get a feel of what I might feel like the next day. I always make it worse by not being able to sleep the night before, too. Then I ache from lack of sleep. > Frustrating!!!! > > Melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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