Re: Re: Off fibro topic/

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Dear ,

Your post touched me in such a personal way. I lost my very best friend from

grade school to cancer in '88 at the young age of 35. She was a friend just as

you described, distance and time could separate us, but we could always pick

right back up where we left off. She was my maid of honor and I was hers. We

had always wanted to travel somewhere together when we were still in H.S.

Finally in '80, Pat and I with our husbands took a trip to Mexico. Shortly

after our trip her husband called to let me know Pat was in the hospital with

breast cancer. Everyone thought that she had kicked it. A few years had passed

and she divorced while going back to college. She graduated and found someone

new and they moved to Lousianna. It was a sad farewell, but I knew that the

distance would not effect our friendship. While she was living in Lousianna,

she became very ill which she thought was the flu. Her fiance took her to the

hospital, I don't know all the details, but she

had an exploritory surgery and she was full of cancer. She passed within a few

days on Dec. 21, 88'. I didn't know she had died. On the 22nd I drove by her

Mothers house and saw her car in the driveway. I couldn't stop, because I had

so much to do running xmas errands and needed to get to my own parents house.

As soon as I got to my parents house I called her mothers house, her brother

answered the phone and must of thought I was a prank caller. I had so much

excitement in my voice that Pat was home for Christmas, when I asked for her,

her brother said, " SHE'S DEAD " . This is how I found out I had lost my best

friend. Much of that moment is still a blur to me, I know I had dropped the

phone and couldn't speak. My Mom didn't know what was wrong, and my poor little

boy (4), I know I must of frighten him so. I was not consolable. All the days

until her funeral I don't remember. Some days, weeks had passed, I really don't

know. I was in such a state. The last

time we spent together she had asked if I ever heard the song by Kenny ,

Twenty Years Ago. I hadn't ever heard it. One of the days after her death, I

was just sitting on my steps off the kitchen still grieving and crying, the

words came from the radio~~~Life was so much easier twenty years ago~~~ Now

please don't think I'm crazy, but at that moment her spirit passed through me,

and I felt such a sense of peace and that she was at peace, and saying good-bye.

To grieve no longer.

I can't say to this very day that I don't miss her deeply. And I can't say

that I never cried my eyes out many, many more times and still do. I still

wonder how much she was suffering with her illness and her divorce that the

words of that song were so important to her. I thank God, that we shared a

friendship that not many people experience. And not even in death can it be

taken.

In time , I know you will feel this too. You have my sympathy.

God Bless, Judy

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with illness whether one such as fibro or multiple illnesses try to keep a sense

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