Re: Indulging without food

[Guest guest]

So, you are looking for relaxation, and simply not finding it in food anymore,

right? If so, maybe it's time to develop new techniques? I search for them all

the time, to be honest. There were times after I stated IE when I would just sit

on the couch feeling like I am in complete vacuum. Now I let myself play video

games, read blogs, do some creative writing.. it's not all so much about

sensations, more like indulging a rabid desire to waste time, I guess

Have you considered massage? Swimming? Sauna? Guided meditation, on a CD

perhaps? These were listed in some of the IE-related books.

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> Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little

food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and

having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps

the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece of

chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids

are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I

exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I do

or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over

ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more to

eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that

either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual,

perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself do

as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some form. I had a bath last night,

and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent.

Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work it

out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at

night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We

just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch tv

in bed, so perhaps that will work.

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> Hope all are doing well, Dawn

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[Guest guest]

Hi, Dawn,

Yeah, the food was always such an easy go-to, wasn't it? It sounds to me like maybe you're a little bored, and that's a hard thing (for me at least) to deal with, because everything sounds sort of ho-hum at those times.

It's easy for me to remember how nice it was to have that easy food go-to, but hard for me to keep in mind the backblow from it. And there *was* a terrible backblow. For me, it was each morning with a food hangover in the shower grabbing my stomach flab and telling myself that TODAY I had to get control, look at me, how disgusting I was! Sometimes tears, always new resolve to "get control of myself," which lasted, oh, maybe until lunch time, when I'd start getting hungry. And then the whole rest of the day, sinking deeper and deeper into how badly I was failing with an "I'll just have this and then watch it the whole rest of the day," and an "I might as well have that, since I already had this," and finally giving up out of despair and bingeing again at night to try to comfort myself because I was such a total failure, again, and then awaking the next morning with another food hangover and remembering how badly I'd failed and another session in the shower, clutching my stomach fat and hating myself.

Well...I tell myself that maybe I *can* handle a little boredom now and then, rather than go back to this.

Hope this helps,

Laurie

Indulging without food

Grr. Along the lines of the times we find ourselves frustrated at how little food it takes to satisfy, well right now, I'm wanting to indulge myself and having trouble doing it. Once upon a time, I'd make a cup of tea (or perhaps the apple cider that's in the fridge,) settle down with a cookie, or a piece of chocolate, the tv, computer, book, all three, and just be. I mean, the kids are in bed. The house is semi-clean, the husband is working tonight, I exercised already, I mean come on. The problem. I don't want to. Well, I do or I wouldn't be typing, but I mean. I've already exercised, frankly, I over ate a bit at dinner (fundraiser,) and so I'm not inclined to really want more to eat, I don't and do want to exercise again, but I don't want to overdo that either, and it is past 8, and since I'd like to go to bed earlier than usual, perhaps that's not a good idea. But I don't really know what to let myself do as a treat if it doesn't involve food in some for m. I had a bath last night, and I showered after my workout, so that feels more wasteful than indulgent. Well, I don't expect any answers, needed to get it out though, perhaps work it out in my head as I did. I will probably have that cuppa tea. I often do at night. Toss the dogs outside earlier than normal and snuggle up in bed. We just put a tv in there a few months ago and that still feels sinful to watch tv in bed, so perhaps that will work.

Hope all are doing well, Dawn