Re: Overeating this weekend

[Guest guest]

Styxia,What if you just give yourself permission to eat? I think fighting that urge sounds terribly exhausting. Go ahead and eat, is my advice, but try to do so consciously... see what comes up for you. I think you will learn something from the experience.

Best,Abby

 

I'm currently eperiencing a diffcult weekend concerning overeating. I'm

watching my drive to overeat this weekend, feeling tired and thoughtful

about so many things.

I'm so tired of fighting the urge to overeat all the time. It makes me

feel even more exhausted after a busy week.

I'm also tired of dreading potentially overeating triggering situations

(there will be a few within the next two weeks).

Yes, this was mainly just a rant, I admit it. At the moment it feels

like I should get back to square one and focus on hunger and fullness as

I get more and more often confused if I'm now eating because of

emotional issues or just because I didn't eat enough during the day.

Best wishes

styxia

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That was a quick answer, and yes it was helpful. :-)

I'm trying exactly that this weekend: IF I'm overeating anyway I might

as well enjoy it.

I will also try to shift my focus when going to the gym again. I started

going to the gym very often because it relaxed me after work but I

noticed that the focus gradually changed over the last weeks. I will

concentrate on the relaxing and endorphine producing qualities again

next week.

I'm already dreading that I won't be able to go to the gym the week

after that because I'm gone for a 5-day seminar and that raised some red

flags in my mind. Also that there will be a rich breakfast buffet and I

will most likely go to a restaurant every evening that week and that

there will be a lot of snacks available and that I'm kind of panicking

about this raises more red flags.

I'm back in full-blown diet mode and hating it.

Best wishes

s.

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Abigail Wolfson wrote:

> What if you just give yourself permission to eat?

I'm afraid I will just eat and eat and eat and EAT and... like a dam

that will break. Might be a completely irrational fear but then again I

look back on a history of broken dams and bingeing for MONTHs in a row

and gaining tons of weight...

> I think fighting that urge sounds terribly exhausting.

It is.

> Go ahead and eat, is my advice, but try to do so consciously... see what

> comes up for you. I think you will learn something from the experience.

I'm trying (rather half-hearted though) to give myself permission. Did

so a few times today already but right now I'm resisting again.

Best wishes

s.

[Guest guest]

Also, try some full-on sympathy for yourself.pretend you are your exhausted child, who is just plumb worn out, and doesn't know where to turn. what would you tell her?

what kind of tender loving sympathy could you devote to her?abby

 

Abigail Wolfson wrote:

> What if you just give yourself permission to eat?

I'm afraid I will just eat and eat and eat and EAT and... like a dam

that will break. Might be a completely irrational fear but then again I

look back on a history of broken dams and bingeing for MONTHs in a row

and gaining tons of weight...

> I think fighting that urge sounds terribly exhausting.

It is.

> Go ahead and eat, is my advice, but try to do so consciously... see what

> comes up for you. I think you will learn something from the experience.

I'm trying (rather half-hearted though) to give myself permission. Did

so a few times today already but right now I'm resisting again.

Best wishes

s.

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When i start thinking about exercise for burning calories instead of for

strengthening my body, i stop and realise how pitifully small the amount of

calories burned actually are for the effort and time put in. For example, when I

walk a mile at my normal " get there " pace according to my treadmill i only burn

approx 200 calories. So back in diet mode my head would get very discouraged

when i realized how long/ far i 'd have to walk to see any results. In Ie mode i

figure that little burn isn't worth the effort it takes to think about it.

However what i do see as results fairly quickly is my endurance level increases

each time i do take that walk. To me that helps me in many ways. I see i 'm

getting stronger which i equate to healthier and that's what i really want.

As far as going to restaurants everyday for a week sounds very exciting to me.

What a perfect opportunity for making sure I'll get to eat anything I really

want without worrying about what ingredients i have at home. I hope this helps a

bit.

Sunny

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> That was a quick answer, and yes it was helpful. :-)

>

> I'm trying exactly that this weekend: IF I'm overeating anyway I might

> as well enjoy it.

>

> I will also try to shift my focus when going to the gym again. I started

> going to the gym very often because it relaxed me after work but I

> noticed that the focus gradually changed over the last weeks. I will

> concentrate on the relaxing and endorphine producing qualities again

> next week.

>

> I'm already dreading that I won't be able to go to the gym the week

> after that because I'm gone for a 5-day seminar and that raised some red

> flags in my mind. Also that there will be a rich breakfast buffet and I

> will most likely go to a restaurant every evening that week and that

> there will be a lot of snacks available and that I'm kind of panicking

> about this raises more red flags.

>

> I'm back in full-blown diet mode and hating it.

>

> Best wishes

> s.

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Sunny Arruda wrote:

> As far as going to restaurants everyday for a week sounds very exciting to

> me. What a perfect opportunity for making sure I'll get to eat anything I

> really want without worrying about what ingredients i have at home. I hope

> this helps a bit.

There was a time when I thought like this. Now that I seem to be back in

full-blown diet mode it scares the hell out of me.

Best wishes

styxia

[Guest guest]

So what do you need to bring you back to IE mode and how can we help you get

it?? Let's talk it out. What changed for you to put you back in dietland??

Sunny

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> Sunny Arruda wrote:

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>> As far as going to restaurants everyday for a week sounds very exciting to

>> me. What a perfect opportunity for making sure I'll get to eat anything I

>> really want without worrying about what ingredients i have at home. I hope

>> this helps a bit.

>

> There was a time when I thought like this. Now that I seem to be back in

> full-blown diet mode it scares the hell out of me.

>

> Best wishes

> styxia

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