Re: Help, Can't Sleep, Help/ and that's just the 1/2 of it. don't know what to do

February 5, 2008

Saw my Rh and he put me back on lyrica. I've never went into this part of my

life, but here goes......I get home from my appt. and my husband is just sitting

here stewing waiting to tear into to me. I didn't even say a word, and he

starts yelling that he's sick of it being all about me. I'm nothing but a witch

and a liar. That I should support my own lazy ass. And get my own insurance.

And it went on and on, saying his mother didn't like me. (we have been very

close and I'm the one who takes her to bingo, her eye appts., gave her

injections when she was released from the hospital, and so on. He's even told

me in the past, how much his mother loves me. He recently quit taking paxil, I

believe because he thought I was getting too much attention because of the side

effects I'm having with the withdrawal when my doctor took me off of paxil.

Anyway, it's a sad situation i'm in. I take care of my 85 yr old mother with

alzheimers. I've checked in to getting SSD, but I'm not eligible because I have

not worked in the last ten years. It was a joint decision that I not work and

help with our rental property, care for my Mom, volunteer at school and church

etc etc. I have always worked but I guess not in a way that counts for anything

in anyone's eyes. I feel so trapped, so alone, so unloved, so unappreciated.

My whole body feels so full of tears that won't come. I feel like i'm headed

for a total breakdown. I don't know what to do. Judy

Judy Thurow wrote:

I see my Rh today. I need to discuss with him the awful lack of sleep because

of the pain. (really bad)

I started cymbalta Jan. 16. 30 mg. increased to 60 mg in less than a week.

I stopped paxil, amitriptiline, and lyrica at that time. Weaned off of paxil for

a week.

When I call about my pain at night and unable to sleep, I'm told I have to give

it time. Finally my GP told me to take tylenol pm. That has helped me to sleep

about 4 hrs.

The improvement I'm seeing with cymbalta is weight loss and less apetite.

My mind seems clearer even with lack of sleep. Amitriptiline made me so groggy

all day.

I need some suggestions of what helps you sleep??? I'm getting desparate.

Hugs, Judy/Wi

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February 5, 2008

It sounds to me like you need a break. Is there any way you can get

away for a while just to clear your head. There is no way you're

going to sleep with oll of that going on.

God Bless and Keep you,

> I see my Rh today. I need to discuss with him the awful lack of

sleep because of the pain. (really bad)

> I started cymbalta Jan. 16. 30 mg. increased to 60 mg in less than

a week.

> I stopped paxil, amitriptiline, and lyrica at that time. Weaned off

of paxil for a week.

> When I call about my pain at night and unable to sleep, I'm told I

have to give it time. Finally my GP told me to take tylenol pm. That

has helped me to sleep about 4 hrs.

> The improvement I'm seeing with cymbalta is weight loss and less

apetite.

> My mind seems clearer even with lack of sleep. Amitriptiline made

me so groggy all day.

> I need some suggestions of what helps you sleep??? I'm getting

desparate.

> Hugs, Judy/Wi

>

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February 5, 2008

Judy - I'm sorry to hear about your hubby's rant. Sounds like he shouldn't

be going off his Paxil just to prove a point. You need to get someone to

help with your mom sometimes so you can get a break. Call a hotline for

social services or domestic help line or something. I mean your hubby is

verbally abusing you and it doesn't sound like his normal behavior. I know

you and I are practically neighbors. If I felt better, I'd call you and

offer whatever support I could. Maybe your mother could get some other kind

or care. I know that moving alzheimer's patients is very difficult for

them, but you might have to consider it. I'll keep you in my thoughts and

prayers.

Please check in tomorrow again so we don't worry.

Jeanne in WI

> Saw my Rh and he put me back on lyrica. I've never went into this part of

> my life, but here goes......I get home from my appt. and my husband is

> just sitting here stewing waiting to tear into to me. I didn't even say a

> word, and he starts yelling that he's sick of it being all about me. I'm

> nothing but a witch and a liar. That I should support my own lazy ass.

> And get my own insurance. And it went on and on, saying his mother didn't

> like me. (we have been very close and I'm the one who takes her to bingo,

> her eye appts., gave her injections when she was released from the

> hospital, and so on. He's even told me in the past, how much his mother

> loves me. He recently quit taking paxil, I believe because he thought I

> was getting too much attention because of the side effects I'm having with

> the withdrawal when my doctor took me off of paxil.

> Anyway, it's a sad situation i'm in. I take care of my 85 yr old mother

> with alzheimers. I've checked in to getting SSD, but I'm not eligible

> because I have not worked in the last ten years. It was a joint decision

> that I not work and help with our rental property, care for my Mom,

> volunteer at school and church etc etc. I have always worked but I guess

> not in a way that counts for anything in anyone's eyes. I feel so

> trapped, so alone, so unloved, so unappreciated. My whole body feels so

> full of tears that won't come. I feel like i'm headed for a total

> breakdown. I don't know what to do. Judy

February 5, 2008

Kleenex and " truly madly deeply " by Alan Rickman.

I watched my mum go through this mentality, you can't change it voluntary work

is different to " real " work in their eyes. They see child rearing as a

" nothing " . So cry your eyes out, dust yourself off and pretend it never

happened, else start planning your new life without him.

Bonnie

Re: Help, Can't Sleep, Help/ and that's just the 1/2 of it. don't

know what to do