Re: Off fibro topic

[Guest guest]

>

> I have spent much of my time the past week or so attempting to get

> info on the condition of one of my friends who called me several

> weeks to go to say that she is at end stage cancer. I had not

> expected her to call and tell me that and I was so caught of guard

> that I really don;t even remember what I actually said nor do I

> remember all that she said to me about how much she had valued our

> life long friendship, support and fun times. For the past week or

> so, I have been calling other members of our grade school class

whom

> I have numbers for and asking if they have heard anything --- but

> it's strange because we have decided that her only surviving sister

> is at her home, I tried to talk to her husband yesterday and he was

> his usual curt and rude self. I really had hoped that her sister

> would answer the phone and that she might let me know so that all

of

> her friends from her childhood are thinking about her. And I was

so

> shocked when she called, that I didn't even think to send flowers --

-

> I know her garden had been one of her favorite activities --- and I

> should have sent flowers that day. But it hit me on Tuesday that I

> should send her some.

> But I feel so ghoulish and crass because the only way for any of us

> to know when she has left us is to check the obituaries in 2

> different newspapers.

> During one of our many conversation over the past year, when she

knew

> time was no longer on her side, she said she really wanted to make

> one more trip --- she was single for years, had a nice salary, and

> had travelled to between 60 and 70 countries --- ones some people

> have never even heard of. But she had thought she might like to go

> to the Grand Canyon and she had asked her husband to go with her!

> This is another reason I did NOT want to talk to him yesterday ---

he

> told her HE did NOT want to go to the Grand Canyon but would go as

> far as Las Vegas. (that was when I realized they are not that far

> from each other!) She had never been to the Grand Canyon and after

I

> got off the phone, I thought about it and realize, I've never been

> either and I either called her back or sent her an email saying

that

> I would be happy to make that trip with her --- and respecting her

> desire for privacy, we could get separate rooms. She never

answered

> me about that.

> But this week, I have decided that when it gets close to our

> birthdays --- two Taurus Bulls, that I will fly to Las Vegas, see

if

> I can find a tour to the Grand Canyon and in memory of Kasey, leave

> some rosemary -- the symbol of remembrance. But I have not been

> reading any posts here because I have been in very depressed at

> loosing someone who is so unlike my other friends and who has

always

> been someone with whom we could walk out of each others lives for

> years at a time and then bump into each other and it was as if no

> time had passed since we were last together. We did so many silly

> things and had so much fun in the early 1970's until my ex-husband,

> who had been a distant friend step over the line with her and

> destroyed that relationship for more than 18 years. I don't mean

to

> get so upset, but it's as if there is no other place to spill this

> pain of her loss!

> Please pray for her that she will soon be pain free --- she has

been

> battling cancer since 1998!

>

>

I just want to add that I didn't write that to take away from the

fibro but that this just seemed to be the right place to share

something that is very painful for me and that I AM NOT ASKING FOR

anyone's pity.

[Guest guest]

- I'm sorry you are grieving the loss of your friend. I think that's

neat that you want to take a trip to the Grand Canyon in her honor. I

believe she will know about this once she passes to the other side. You and

she are in my prayers. Take care.

Jeanne in WI

>I have spent much of my time the past week or so attempting to get info on

>the condition of one of my friends who called me several weeks to go to say

>that she is at end stage cancer. I had not expected her to call and tell

>me that and I was so caught of guard that I really don;t even remember what

>I actually said nor do I

remember all that she said to me about how much she had valued our life

long friendship, support and fun times. For the past week or so, I have

been calling other members of our grade school class whom I have numbers for

and asking if they have heard anything --- but it's strange because we have

decided that her only surviving sister

is at her home, I tried to talk to her husband yesterday and he was his

usual curt and rude self. I really had hoped that her sister would answer

the phone and that she might let me know so that all of her friends from her

childhood are thinking about her. And I was so

shocked when she called, that I didn't even think to send flowers ---

> I know her garden had been one of her favorite activities --- and I should

> have sent flowers that day. But it hit me on Tuesday that I should send

> her some.

> But I feel so ghoulish and crass because the only way for any of us to

> know when she has left us is to check the obituaries in 2 different

> newspapers.

> During one of our many conversation over the past year, when she knew time

> was no longer on her side, she said she really wanted to make one more

> trip --- she was single for years, had a nice salary, and had travelled to

> between 60 and 70 countries --- ones some people

have never even heard of. But she had thought she might like to go to the

Grand Canyon and she had asked her husband to go with her! This is another

reason I did NOT want to talk to him yesterday --- he told her HE did NOT

want to go to the Grand Canyon but would go as

far as Las Vegas. (that was when I realized they are not that far from

each other!) She had never been to the Grand Canyon and after I got off the

phone, I thought about it and realize, I've never been either and I either

called her back or sent her an email saying that I would be happy to make

that trip with her --- and respecting her desire for privacy, we could get

separate rooms. She never answered me about that.

> But this week, I have decided that when it gets close to our birthdays ---

> two Taurus Bulls, that I will fly to Las Vegas, see if I can find a tour

> to the Grand Canyon and in memory of Kasey, leave some rosemary -- the

> symbol of remembrance. But I have not been reading any posts here because

> I have been in very depressed at loosing someone who is so unlike my other

> friends and who has always been someone with whom we could walk out of

> each others lives for years at a time and then bump into each other and it

> was as if no time had passed since we were last together.