Re: No more hope-- ENERGY TRANSFER

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I agree with this. I have never really known how to put it. I think that is a

great way of explaining it. Also I know that some people harbor negative energy

all around them. They tend to put negativity in the air without even trying.

Kind of like what I say when I say " anxiety is contagious " .

Ok... flashback to my childhood here. My Mother had the most negative energy

of any human being I have ever known. I loved her very much. I know she loved

me. But the woman could never let up on bitching. She would ruin every family

function with her griping, she was always on pins and needles about the littlest

things, and saw the world through some kind of darkness. She did not trust

anyone. She never let anyone into her world...especially in later years. I was

her sounding board for years and years. I got it all because I was the youngest

child and the last one in the house with her. I don't recall my mother EVER

being happy about anything. I suppose that has contributed to my ingrained

depression and anxiety.

My gosh, I am rambling here.

Well,

love and hugs,.... positive energy to you all,

Debra V.

Jeanne and Dave wrote:

I think this is a very interesting philosphy, makes total sense to me.

Jeanne in WI

> I have a kind of weird theory about love, and energy. I think that

> love/energy (same thing?) is a force that is supposed to flow from person

> to person. YMMV, this is probably totally screwy, take it with a large

> saltshaker, result of too much caffeine, the gerbil in my head has been

> on the treadmill too long, etc. etc.

>

> There are people who the energy flows into, and flows back out into the

> next person. This is as it should be. They're balanced, neither running

> on a deficit, nor keeping it selfishly to themselves.

>

> There are people who the energy flows into, and they keep it. That means

> that the people around them are starved of this force/love/energy that

> should go to them.

>

> There are people who the energy bounces off of. They're also starved.

> They don't know how to take it in.

>

> There are people who it flows into, and it flows out, along with any that

> they may have stored up. They will eventually run on a deficit.

>

> There are people who don't get enough coming in, but put out the the

> normal amount anyway. They'll also eventually run into a deficit.

>

> There are people who suck all of the energy from everyone around them and

> keep it.

>

> I've noticed, especially with moms, that they often are putting out

> without receiving enough in return. It's important for people with high

> output to find ways of being nurtured and receiving, and not always

> giving. For example, taking care of kids and hubby, working,

and then on Sunday teaching Sunday School and being in charge of this,

that, and the other thing at school is probably too much. There has to be a

place where Mom is sitting and taking in some nurturing.

>

> I remember a time in my life when I was very, very lonely and very, very

> needy. I figured out that in order to maintain contact with people, I

> had to put aside my neediness and begin to relate to people without asking

> anything of them. It was difficult especially at

first, because I was running on a severe deficit, but I could not give into

the temptation to pull from other people, because then I would lose them as

they became depleted. Sounds weird, but I know what I mean. ;D As I slowly

built up friendships based on friendship, not need, I found that I *could*

ask of people, but I try to be very careful about it. I also found that

people were

unfailingly generous. And some people, I absolutely will not ask things

of; they're putting out too much as it is and I want to be one person who

doesn't take from them.

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