Guest guest Posted January 11, 2008 Report Share Posted January 11, 2008 I understand Marti. Of course you have more to deal with having sarcoidosis. I am so sorry sweetie. Melody, I guess I don't want people to give me sympathy but I do want them to believe me and understand this to some degree. I would like for them to at least acknowledge it once in a while. I just think they don't believe I have anything " that bad " . I look like crap almost all the time. I hate it. But if I even mention a word about the fibro, most people just don't act like I said a word. I hate that too Marti.... when they ask if I am all better from something else. It is like ...well they don't give a shit that I am here at work all the time with this fibro and feel like crap but when I get something else or someone around me gets a " virus " .... it is acknowledged. Like getting over some virus that hung on for a few days makes me all better. They just don't realize what I go through on a day to day basis. I don't expect anyone to change my job description or make accomadations on my schedule because of it. I just want to be believed. Thanks, love and hugs, Debra V. Marti Boguski wrote: Dear Debra and Melody, I do like it when someone asks how I'm feeling, just like you Debra. I know I look terrible. I am so pale and it took a lot to make me paler since I'm already blond, blue eyed and pale. Even when I wear make up I look just a smidge better. It's not like I can wear anything dark enough to make me look a nice warm color. It would look fake as could be. But I do put some on sometimes when I feel like it. Then there's the Sarcoidosis that makes my eyes red and watery, which is so attractive - not. I too am healthy most of the time, except now when I have pneumonia complicated by Sarcoidosis. I don't catch many colds or flus. So I don't like it when someone acts like I'm sick and asks if I'm better or well yet. They know I have fibro and it's a constant condition and it's like asking if any disabled person is better or well. Both of you take care, Marti Melody wrote: Hubby's Mom was asking how I was feeling when he talked with her on Christmas. That just made me feel funny. I hate sympathy, pity, or to be looked at like I'm 'sick.' Because I'm not sick, I rarely get viruses/bugs, I just hurt. I consider myself healthy but someone who 'deals with' fibro. I told Jim that, I said " I don't want your Mom to think of me as sick " he said I don't think she does, I think she was just wondering how you were doing. I'm queen of dismissing how I really feel though. If someone asks how I feel, I'll say fine. I don't like to draw attention to 'it' because I feel like I give 'it' power. debra van ness wrote: > I have the same problem with looking pale all the time. If I don't wear make up I look like death warmed over. Of course no one says anything but I look like crap most days even with make up. > The thing that gets me is they know I have FM...... yet they never ackowledge it or even ASK how I am feeling. They know I look like shit... yet they don't believe that " fibro is that bad " . Go figure. > hugs, > Debra V. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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