vent about hubby again~GRRR

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Hubby was back to his old tricks again last night. has not spoken more than " 2

word sentences " to me in days. All because Paypal took money out of his bank

account to satisfy a negative balance due. You see a few months back he decided

to get my paypal account closed, by telling them I did not have permission to

use his debit card , which was untrue, so the account was closed. When he closed

it, it left a negative balance and they have been after it ever since. He said

that it was not his responsibility to pay it, so they just took it. well he

decided when he saw they money gone from the bank account that I had made a

purchase of some sort. {I wrote him a note explaining what happened} but he

still blames me for the money gone. He started this mess by closing my account

and leaving it with the negative balance. I use paypal for online purchases.

Mostly herbs and vitamins for my fibro. I am allowed so much per payday. This

charge added to what I already spent this payday.

well anyhow, he yelled at me in front of Mel, called me names, would not listen

to reason or any explaination. Cut me off from looking at the bank account, cut

off the debit card I use and now I have to ask for money when I need something

and I will recieve cash only. It is bad enough he closed our joint account last

year and I have had to use his debit card since, but now he has gone too far. He

also took out a 200$ withdrawal of cash out of this paycheck for something not

to do with bills or necessity, but that is ok. this is all about control, abuse

and his anger issues. I am the easy target. But having a conversation of finger

pointing , name calling and threats of divorce, etc are non-productive. he is a

" right-fighter " ,so I have no chance of winning even if I am right. This time it

left me in tears, shaking and miserable. Oh and he also told me that my job is

the cooking, cleaning, laundry, pet care, etc because I owe it to him because he

supports the house with

money. I already do this as much as I can, but with fibro I have my bad days

too. TG is here to help me. She is an awesome daughter. Oh then he tell

me How great of a hubby he is because he does this. yes it is awesome that he

support us with money, but the rest of his bs is too much to deal with. wonders

why he gets no cooperation on our part. Gee I wonder. We receive no love,

kindness, friendship, compassion etc from him. what does he expect? Then he

started in about not having intimate contact in years. Who would want to? He

sleeps in the recliner at night, not in bed. Oh and as far as my health issues

go, I was told that he could care less about it. I am so over this crap. I

really am. It is affecting 's health and well being as well as my own. I

will never beat this flare with this going on here. I need help. Please pray for

us, if you believe in prayer. We need all we can get. Tysm for listening and as

always feel free to make any suggestions you may

have.

Hugs,

One of God's arrangements is that after winter there should come beautiful

spring days. It happens every year and it happens in every life.

Father ph (Submitted by LotusSong)