Re: looking for advice~Darlyn

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I do not know what state you live in, but here in TX the spouse has to pay child

support, spousal support and anything else the court may deem necessary until

you are divorced. Look up legal aid in your area and get yourself some counsel.

I would also suggest you apply for welfare and food stamps. I know this must be

hard and stressful, but maybe you will be better off. I am here if you need

someone to talk to.

Hugs,

Jeanne and Dave wrote:

Sorry I don't have any advice, but I think Angie gave you some really good

suggestions. Just know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.

Jeanne in WI

> My husband has desisded he does not want to be with a sick person anymore.

> he has seen me fighting this,go thru a few surgeries and he now said he is

> leaving. i have no one no income waiting the endless wait on disability.

> i can not even pack my things . he says he is just wanting to go out and

> do thing , i have for years begged lets do

something i need to get out of here he always had the excuse that he did

not feel like it or to tire. i am so hurt lost and lonely i do not know

what to do or where to turn for help the lawyer says the wait is at least

another year. any advice it is getting he so down and needless to say what

all this stress is adding to me. for the last month he is not coming home

till very late at nite if then taking all the money out of the bank -but

he has said i promise you will have insurance and half my paycheck when i

leave. i am in shock and hurting so bad. is there anywhere i can turn to

for so money to get by. i can't even eat from the stress for weeks now

without getting very sick. Please help me.

> Darlyn

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[Guest guest]

Since I work with the courts on a daily basis, let me mention some things.

Yes, the non-custodial parent should have to pay child support, but (and I

know this part stinks), if your ex is a vicious person, he could also say that

because of your disability you are unable to care for your children, therefore

he can seek primary physical custody or even sole custody. Fortunately, sole

custody is rarely granted unless the court can verify that the parent is abusive

or neglectful. In order for him to prove this, the court would have to send in

a social worker.

Spousal support is not in effect in every state, either. If your spouse has

worked while you stayed at home and took care of the kids, etc., then you may be

able to ask for it.

I agree with getting legal aid. Unfortunately where I live, I did not qualify

because they had to have the entire household income. Well, my ex made a LOT

more money than I did so I didn't qualify.

Also, make notes, maybe in an online diary, somewhere he can't get to. Put in

the notes what he said, date, time, etc. Be as specific as possible. Take all

the information you have to the legal aid office. Bring in copies of your

utility bills, his check stubs, car payments, insurance, etc.

If you have any questions, you can email me. I can help you as much as I can.

in NM

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