Re: Please offer some advice.

August 26, 2006

Hi

I had surgery on 7-10-06. The psych nurse at my facility warned us that we

can have a reaction like you are experiencing. It's totally normal for you to

have these feelings. The good news is that it will pass. The nurse said the

common feelings people go through immediately after surgery are denial,

wondering if it was a huge mistake, anger, grief, and finally resolve. It's a

huge

deal to lose our old friend " food. " Don't worry, it gets better and easier,

and once you start seeing that scale move, it will make it all worth it. The

first 2 weeks were the hardest for me, because I had to get used to the idea

that I cannot physically eat things I think I want. It's going to get better,

and you are going to do great!

Dana

In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:13:13 PM Pacific Standard Time,

claireadams55@... writes:

I am pretty new to the group, and I just had the gastric bypass on

Aug. 21st. I am home now, and going through the most severe

depression I have ever felt. I know that I was addicted to food, and

that is what got me in the shape I am in, but I can't understand why

all I seem to do since I have been home is obsess about it and cry. I

am dreaming about it! I know how insane that is. I guess everything

with the surgery has just hit me pretty hard. I wasn't expecting to

be in as much pain as I have been in, and I guess I thought all those

cravings were just going to drift away. I am soooo hungry, and I have

never liked broth or jello which is all my diet consists of now and

for the next week and half. My husband is gone taking our three year

old to the two birthday parties I couldn't take her today, because of

my recovery, and that has just made me sadder to think I am already

missing out on something fun to experience with my daughter. I know

all of this may seem a little silly to you guys, but I am really

struggling and wondering if I made a huge mistake. Any counseling I

can get from someone that has gone through it would help greatly!!

August 26, 2006

Thanks for your response. I guess I just thought I would jump out

of the hospital and life would be peachy!! I know I have to get

these emotions in check. I have 3 year old who keeps asking me why

I keep crying. I don't need to give her anything to worry about. I

didn't get to talk to a psych nurse, but I wish I could have.

Thanks again,

>

> Hi

>

> I had surgery on 7-10-06. The psych nurse at my facility warned us

that we

> can have a reaction like you are experiencing. It's totally normal

for you to

> have these feelings. The good news is that it will pass. The nurse

said the

> common feelings people go through immediately after surgery are

denial,

> wondering if it was a huge mistake, anger, grief, and finally

resolve. It's a huge

> deal to lose our old friend " food. " Don't worry, it gets better

and easier,

> and once you start seeing that scale move, it will make it all

worth it. The

> first 2 weeks were the hardest for me, because I had to get used

to the idea

> that I cannot physically eat things I think I want. It's going to

get better,

> and you are going to do great!

>

> Dana

>

> In a message dated 8/26/2006 4:13:13 PM Pacific Standard Time,

> claireadams55@... writes:

>

> I am pretty new to the group, and I just had the gastric bypass on

> Aug. 21st. I am home now, and going through the most severe

> depression I have ever felt. I know that I was addicted to food,

and

> that is what got me in the shape I am in, but I can't understand

why

> all I seem to do since I have been home is obsess about it and

cry. I

> am dreaming about it! I know how insane that is. I guess

everything

> with the surgery has just hit me pretty hard. I wasn't expecting

to

> be in as much pain as I have been in, and I guess I thought all

those

> cravings were just going to drift away. I am soooo hungry, and I

have

> never liked broth or jello which is all my diet consists of now

and

> for the next week and half. My husband is gone taking our three

year

> old to the two birthday parties I couldn't take her today,

because of

> my recovery, and that has just made me sadder to think I am

already

> missing out on something fun to experience with my daughter. I

know

> all of this may seem a little silly to you guys, but I am really

> struggling and wondering if I made a huge mistake. Any counseling

I

> can get from someone that has gone through it would help greatly!!

>

August 26, 2006

Hi ,

Well, I haven't gone through it yet, but just think about all the things you

WILL be able to experience with your daughter once you lose the weight! That is

the reason I am having the WLS (God willing the insurance co. agrees)! I have a

two year old daughter and am having a very hard time keeping up with her. I want

to be able to take her swimming, and horseback riding and teach her to

rollerskate. None of that I can do at this weight! I want to be here to see her

graduate high school, go to college, get married and someday have children of

her own. If I don't have this surgery, I will never make it long enough to see

my grandchildren! And even if I did I would probably be in a wheelchair and

unable to do the things MY Mom does with her granddaughter! There will be other

birthday parties to go to! Lots and lots of them. This will pass!

Patti in upstate NY

Please offer some advice.