Re: My Sons

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That sounds very tough to deal with. My 10 year old

Daughter was recently diagnosed with Aspergers syndrom

(in the Autism spectrum) She is an overly bright

staight A student, but her symptom is mostly about

behavior. When I read about your 18 yr old it made me

think of her. She learned how to curse in school and

is very verbally abusive to us at home. We dont curse

in our house so its extremely hard to handle. She has

also kicked holes in our walls.

I wish you well.

in NY

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> I will be typing about them alot sense they are

> usually the major

> source of my stress/ pain. My oldest just turned 18

> on Sunday but he

> moved out last April. I could no longer emotionally

> or physically

> handle him in my house. He has been in therapy sense

> age 4, the

> soonest they would take him. We went through alot of

> Dr.s and

> therapists and dx and meds. His current official

> diagnosis Bipolar 1

> mixed, I thought I knew what bipolar was until we

> got this diagnosis

> explained, and it really explained to me why my son

> was who he was.

> Bipolar 1 mixed in a nutshell means that his

> depression and his mania

> were cycling so fast that it's like they are both

> running at the same

> time. He is so angry most of the time, he sucks the

> life out of most

> rooms. Before he left he had put huge holes in my

> walls that are

> still there, I can't afford to fix them. The verbal

> abuse was the

> worst of it mostly for my younger son,constantly

> being screamed at

> just for being within his sight. My younger son and

> I stayed shut in

> my bedroom most of the time. The final straw was the

> fighting with

> his then pregnant girlfriend. He is now doing a

> little better he is

> living in an indepentent living program, working,

> and somewhat

> helping to take care of my beautiful 8 month old

> Grandaughter. I know

> this sounds awful but his Birthday felt like a huge

> weight lifted

> from my sholders. I never have to let him come home.

> I love him with all my heart, but he's so much

> easier to deal with

> from a distance. My younger son is dxed w/ bipolar

> but his is

> textbook, the problem is that so many years of

> verbal and physical

> abuse from his brother has caused major emotional

> scars, so every day

> is less of a struggle but it is still a struggle.

> Wow I'm going to

> stop b4 I write a whole book. For those who pray

> please remember my

> sons when you think of them.

> Thanks,

>

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