Re: Jane, Gwynne and Kids in today's world

[Guest guest]

Gwynne

Speaking of kids....aren't you just so overwhelmed by how far yours have

come? Just another part of the entire miraculous experience on top of

the transplant on your birthday is that your daughter was there with

you, the night before, preparing to celebrate your birthday.

Now my editorial. When I was young, parents talked about how much more

difficult they had it, some true, some not. But, none of us faced what

young people do today. The pressures, the stress, dealing with issues

before they are ready or should have to. Then just add on top of that

all the temptations including those they meet. I have never bragged

about making good choices in my teens or early twenties, because I

didn't really make choices. I didn't have to. I wasn't exposed to things

which would force it. Companies were loyal and you thought jobs were

long-term. People didn't work the hours they do now. It was a different

world.

>

> Your comment about Eddie being your problem child may

> well be true, but also cute. Many times I have had to use

> as a mantra: " let life happen to " my kids, when I was

> tempted to criticize or distrust them to make decisions

> for themselves. They have to live and learn from their

> mistakes, and the goal shouldn't be to be copies of

> their parents. We all have different styles and speeds.

> I hope Eddie can learn to think along those lines, and

> that can speak up for herself in an assertive but

> non-threatening way that Eddie will hear in the spirit

> in which it is intended. Hopefully it'll help for him to

> watch your example. We all want our children to be

> confident, and that can't happen if we send them the

> message that we don't trust them to live their own lives

> (i.e., that they aren't capable). Worst of all, we enable

> them to let US do things for them, and that isn't the goal

> at all. I admire you for the hard work you are all doing

> at this point, and have no doubt you'll work it out.

> You go, Mom! Hugs to you.

>

> Hugs and blessings,

> Gwynnie 57 Single-lung Transplant on 4-3-08 at

> UTHSC - San , TX

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you, Gwynne! Everyone has been so supportive this week and tonight we are all together at home and everyone is being very kind toward each other. Gwynne, Eddie is coming with me to San on May 2nd.

Toodles!

Jane UIP/IPF 12/1998 Dalton, Georgia aka pianolady_musicgirl> >> > Your comment about Eddie being your problem child may> > well be true, but also cute. Many times I have had to use> > as a mantra: "let life happen to" my kids, when I was> > tempted to criticize or distrust them to make decisions> > for themselves. They have to live and learn from their> > mistakes, and the goal shouldn't be to be copies of> > their parents. We all have different styles and speeds.> > I hope Eddie can learn to think along those lines, and> > that can speak up for herself in an assertive but> > non-threatening way that Eddie will hear in the spirit> > in which it is intended. Hopefully it'll help for him to> > watch your example. We all want our children to be> > confident, and that can't happen if we send them the> > message that we don't trust them to live their own lives> > (i.e., that they aren't capable). Worst of all, we enable> > them to let US do things for them, and that isn't the goal> > at all. I admire you for the hard work you are all doing> > at this point, and have no doubt you'll work it out.> > You go, Mom! Hugs to you.> >> > Hugs and blessings,> > Gwynnie 57 Single-lung Transplant on 4-3-08 at> > UTHSC - San , TX> >>