Re: I'm sorry; I need to rant

[Guest guest]

Jo, I attended Al Anon for a few years, changing over to an adult children of

alcoholics group later on. I and a few others seem to find plenty of similar

'difficulties' with dysfunctional-ism and disordered eating. I would certainly

recommend that you give it a try to see if it has anything for you. I learned

LOTS from it plus it helped me be ready for next steps I needed to take for

myself. If you like, you can email me directly as I don't want to get too off

topic discussing this here.

ehugs, Katcha

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> I am so angry I was about to go to the kitchen and fill myself with whatever I

could but instead I came here. I hate my family. That is a strong statement

but it's true and I'm not apologizing for saying it. I found an Alanon meeting

that I may go to. Has anyone had positive experiences with Alanon? I have two

brothers one is a drug user, the other a pathetic alcoholic who I have finally

seen him for what he is a liar and a user. My father is an alcoholic who is

trying to manipulate me to get money but he has prime lake front property. My

mother is extremely negative and bitter and tries to get me to let her move in

with me. My uncle tells me about his sex life even when I've told him to stop.

My father-in-law is also an alcoholic who is mean to his son, which is my

husband (who is a wonderful man). I am ready to move to Hawaii to get as far

away from them as I possibly can. I don't want to see them or talk to them

anymore. My in-laws have been dumping on my husband and me for almost a year

now because they lost some property that they never owned but leased. I'm to the

point where I just can't take them anymore. Baths have been helping me lately,

however, today when I went to have one there seemed to be a problem with the hot

water.

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> Thanks,

> Jo.

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[Guest guest]

Good for you for directing your anger at the people who earned it, and not towards yourself! I think that's really powerful. And I suspect its something most of us struggle with : if we only ate when hungry we probably wouldn't be here.

So no apologies needed!

 

I am so angry I was about to go to the kitchen and fill myself with whatever I could but instead I came here. I hate my family. That is a strong statement but it's true and I'm not apologizing for saying it. I found an Alanon meeting that I may go to. Has anyone had positive experiences with Alanon? I have two brothers one is a drug user, the other a pathetic alcoholic who I have finally seen him for what he is a liar and a user. My father is an alcoholic who is trying to manipulate me to get money but he has prime lake front property. My mother is extremely negative and bitter and tries to get me to let her move in with me. My uncle tells me about his sex life even when I've told him to stop. My father-in-law is also an alcoholic who is mean to his son, which is my husband (who is a wonderful man). I am ready to move to Hawaii to get as far away from them as I possibly can. I don't want to see them or talk to them anymore. My in-laws have been dumping on my husband and me for almost a year now because they lost some property that they never owned but leased. I'm to the point where I just can't take them anymore. Baths have been helping me lately, however, today when I went to have one there seemed to be a problem with the hot water.

Thanks,

Jo.

[Guest guest]

Jo,I had a friend who found Alanon very helpful. Her family wasn't as crazed as yours sounds like it is though. I am so sorry you are going through this. When I was really angry at my family, I found that nature really helped - if I could go to a park, or a pond, or the beach, or on a drive through mountains, or whatever that it helped me find some peace before the next round of difficulties. - GeorgiaTo: IntuitiveEating_Support Sent: Tue, January 5, 2010 10:55:43 AMSubject: I'm sorry; I need to rant

I am so angry I was about to go to the kitchen and fill myself with whatever I could but instead I came here. I hate my family. That is a strong statement but it's true and I'm not apologizing for saying it. I found an Alanon meeting that I may go to. Has anyone had positive experiences with Alanon? I have two brothers one is a drug user, the other a pathetic alcoholic who I have finally seen him for what he is a liar and a user. My father is an alcoholic who is trying to manipulate me to get money but he has prime lake front property. My mother is extremely negative and bitter and tries to get me to let her move in with me. My uncle tells me about his sex life even when I've told him to stop. My father-in-law is also an alcoholic who is mean to his son, which is my husband (who is a wonderful man). I am ready to move to Hawaii to get as far away from them as I possibly can. I don't want to see them or talk to them anymore. My

in-laws have been dumping on my husband and me for almost a year now because they lost some property that they never owned but leased. I'm to the point where I just can't take them anymore. Baths have been helping me lately, however, today when I went to have one there seemed to be a problem with the hot water.

Thanks,

Jo.

[Guest guest]

Hi Jo, sounds like you are at wit's end! And I can certainly appreciate that with the family issues you are currently experiencing! It is far healthier for you to vent than to take out your anger and frustration on yourself as some of us do.

My father was also an alcoholic. When he decided to clean himself up, my mother sought support for herself and went to Alanon. It did a world of good for her! Of course, it is up to you but may I suggest you try it out at least once.

All the best,

Jeanne