Secret VS Personal

[Guest guest]

I think everything I have said is being taken the wrong way by some people.

Here's some clarification.....This is not a " secret. " This is a very private

personal decision that I have made. This is not people outside my homes

business nor will it ever be. I have asked someone who may know my husband to

please not say anything because these are my wishes to be able to keep my

life PERSONAL. As far as my mother in law....I'm already called " fat and

gross " I do NOT need anything else added to these comments as " failure " etc.

If someone wants to scream from a rooftop that they had this surgery...more

power to you. If someone, as myself, wants this to stay in their home...even

more power to you. I do not wish that MY business is put out there by anyone

other than myself. If at any time I choose to tell someone it will come from

me....not from someone who " heard " it through the grape vine. I live in a

very small town on the Cape...a place where my husband was born and raise and

then same with his parents. It seems as if they know everyone and as far as

my mother in law and her mouth....it can be and has been very damaging for

me. I don't mean to rage on, but I feel as if I have been laughed at for MY

choice in not telling this whole damn town my personal business and I wont

stand for it. I know none of you know me...except for one person on this

list, so it wouldn't hurt me at all to leave. As far as the meetings...I'd

come and go to my one and never go again. I don't feel that anyone should

ever make someone feel this way, but they have...and that's a shame. I hope

in later times people don't make the mistake of making something " personal "

the same thing as a " secret. " I can't believe I actually lost sleep over this

crap...