Knows about my surgery: It's showtime for him/need your help

[Guest guest]

All -

A heartfelt thank you to each of you in replying to my " telling him about

surgery posting. "

Truly ... you are the best ...

I don't know where all this will end up, but I do know one thing for sure

.... I want to share my life with someone who will love me for who I am

(past, present and glorious future). I've already gone through hell in

dealing with my weight, I do not want to go through the hell of knowing that

my partner in life cannot accept me.

Many of you have voiced your legit concerns over the internet element -- I

am right there. I am going to tell him that he cannot possibly " love " me ...

he can -- in the realm that we know each other, but not real love. That

comes with being with a person, near the person, touching, laughing, getting

pissed off at each other and " seeing and experiencing " those warts which we

all have. This is the HUGE drawback of internet meetings.

You see ... he is a man from the same faith that I profess. There are not

too many in my area, so I've had to search further out (he lives in the

Intermountain West.) Now I'm faced with the possibility of a long distance

relationship. We both agree that a meeting MUST happen soon if this is going

to go any further. Our meeting will clinch EVERYTHING ... if we click or

not. He has his history (and it's a doosey), so now we both have our

histories and can deal with them ... together ... if we choose.

I am going to speak with him soon and lay it out on the line (painful and

risky as it is). I will tell him if he has any hesitancy with my weight

history then I am ready to walk. My life and weight loss accomplishments is

of the utmost of importance to me and any relationship I find myself in. To

be honest, I will be heartbroken ... plain and simple ... but I want him to

love me fully.

Last night, he asked me, " when and if I'm ready " that he would like to hear

my story. Why I chose to have the surgery, how I feel now and so forth. I

know this will open up more forum between us ... which is good.

BUT ... it's " showtime " for him ... I don't want to be pointing my finger

and poking him saying, " you better prove yourself buddy or I'm outta

here... " He needs to show me through his love and devotion ... but now is

the time.

This is where I need your wisdom folks ... My mind is swimming too much

right now ... what sort of questions should I ask him .... if any?

Thanks dears,

Jeanne

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Knows about my surgery: It's showtime for him/need

your help

> All -

>

> A heartfelt thank you to each of you in replying to my " telling him about

> surgery posting. "

> Truly ... you are the best ...

>

> I don't know where all this will end up, but I do know one thing for sure

> ... I want to share my life with someone who will love me for who I am

> (past, present and glorious future). I've already gone through hell in

> dealing with my weight, I do not want to go through the hell of knowing

that

> my partner in life cannot accept me.

>

> Many of you have voiced your legit concerns over the internet element -- I

> am right there. I am going to tell him that he cannot possibly " love " me

....

> he can -- in the realm that we know each other, but not real love. That

> comes with being with a person, near the person, touching, laughing,

getting

> pissed off at each other and " seeing and experiencing " those warts which

we

> all have. This is the HUGE drawback of internet meetings.

>

> You see ... he is a man from the same faith that I profess. There are not

> too many in my area, so I've had to search further out (he lives in the

> Intermountain West.) Now I'm faced with the possibility of a long distance

> relationship. We both agree that a meeting MUST happen soon if this is

going

> to go any further. Our meeting will clinch EVERYTHING ... if we click or

> not. He has his history (and it's a doosey), so now we both have our

> histories and can deal with them ... together ... if we choose.

>

> I am going to speak with him soon and lay it out on the line (painful and

> risky as it is). I will tell him if he has any hesitancy with my weight

> history then I am ready to walk. My life and weight loss accomplishments

is

> of the utmost of importance to me and any relationship I find myself in.

To

> be honest, I will be heartbroken ... plain and simple ... but I want him

to

> love me fully.

>

> Last night, he asked me, " when and if I'm ready " that he would like to

hear

> my story. Why I chose to have the surgery, how I feel now and so forth. I

> know this will open up more forum between us ... which is good.

>

> BUT ... it's " showtime " for him ... I don't want to be pointing my finger

> and poking him saying, " you better prove yourself buddy or I'm outta

> here... " He needs to show me through his love and devotion ... but now is

> the time.

>

> This is where I need your wisdom folks ... My mind is swimming too much

> right now ... what sort of questions should I ask him .... if any?

>

> Thanks dears,

> Jeanne

>

>

>

>

> Homepage: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe: mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen soon if this is going to go

any further*******

You hit the nail right on the head here! I have heard of very sucessful

relationships developing out of a long distance romance that started via the

internet. A personal friend of mine actually got married to the man she met

on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh all you want, but they have

been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't remember the exact date) And I

am deeply committed to my significant other, , who I call husband (we

can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with at another time).

and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL It wasn't long distance,

but we went through some of the same things before meeting. First we

emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were sure we wanted to take it to

the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was love at first Date! LOLOL

And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going strong.

So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first, then deside if there is a

future.

Debbie in Gig Harbor

Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

starting weight 320

lowest weight 200

current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

original by-pass 70cm

revision to 170cm

[Guest guest]

***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen soon if this is going to go

any further*******

You hit the nail right on the head here! I have heard of very sucessful

relationships developing out of a long distance romance that started via the

internet. A personal friend of mine actually got married to the man she met

on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh all you want, but they have

been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't remember the exact date) And I

am deeply committed to my significant other, , who I call husband (we

can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with at another time).

and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL It wasn't long distance,

but we went through some of the same things before meeting. First we

emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were sure we wanted to take it to

the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was love at first Date! LOLOL

And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going strong.

So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first, then deside if there is a

future.

Debbie in Gig Harbor

Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

starting weight 320

lowest weight 200

current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

original by-pass 70cm

revision to 170cm

[Guest guest]

1. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

2. Who says a good friendship isn't what you need

right now. Seems like you are at a crossroads. Maybe

this is the time to find yourself and what you want.

Date, have fun, be good to yourself.

--- luvr_of_pink@... wrote:

> Hi all,

> I'm afraid I am catching this all at the back-end as

> I haven't been

> on in a while and trying to play catch up but I have

> to speak up

> because I am finding myself in the same kinds of

> predicaments

> described here.

>

> My story: I separated from my husband in 6/01 and

> we now live 200

> miles apart. He wants to get back together and I do

> visit him about

> once a month (just got back yesterday) but I'm not

> sure I want to get

> back because of the things that happened in the

> past.

>

> In the meantime, I have decided to give the

> personals ad venue a go.

> I've gotten several responses and have my picture

> posted and have

> talked with several. With the first two I mentioned

> my surgery

> within the first week or so (wanting to lay the

> groundwork) and

> boom! They disappeared never to be heard from

> again. Then I met one

> in person and we had a blast so I decided to put him

> to the acid test

> and hauled out before and afters. He wasn't

> horrified or anything.

> However, he is very recently divorced and is a

> single dad to 4 young

> kids and just looking for friends right now (which

> is very smart) so

> there is no potential there in the forseeable

> future. I met another

> one face to face and it was a total disaster!

> Although he wasn't

> mean about it, I could tell I was not what he was

> expecting.

> Needless to say, he dropped off of the face of the

> earth.

>

> Now, I am still writing the one that wants to be

> friends and writing

> one other one who seems very nice but I'm hesitant

> to bring this

> subject up again. Meanwhile, with my husband I know

> he loves me no

> matter what size and I do not feel self-conscious in

> the least

> getting nekkid in front of him and he makes me feel

> like the most

> beautiful, sexy woman in the world. If not for the

> past between us

> things would be perfect, but the past is there and I

> feel the need to

> see what else is out there for me before considering

> letting my

> husband come back but truth is, I've had 3

> rejections in less than a

> month and NONE of them has any idea what horrors lie

> beneath these

> clothes. I am definately of Sharpei decent now.

>

> I'm encouraged by the responses I've seen to these

> lines and take

> comfort in the fact that a) others are dealing with

> it too and

> that what I know in my heart is true. If they can't

> look past the

> outside battle scars and see the beauty of the

> person beneath then

> who needs them?!

>

> Anyway, thanks to all who have bared their souls and

> shared their

> thoughts on this topic. I know I've gotten a lot

> out of it and I

> know others have as well.

>

> Take care,

> e

> VBG 9/30/97

> RNY 5/22/00

>

>

>

> > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> soon if this is

> going to go

> > any further*******

> >

> > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> heard of very

> sucessful

> > relationships developing out of a long distance

> romance that

> started via the

> > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> married to the man

> she met

> > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> all you want, but

> they have

> > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> remember the exact

> date) And I

> > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> , who I call

> husband (we

> > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> at another time).

>

> > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> It wasn't long

> distance,

> > but we went through some of the same things before

> meeting. First we

> > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> sure we wanted to

> take it to

> > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> love at first

> Date! LOLOL

> > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> strong.

> >

> > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> then deside if

> there is a

> > future.

> >

> > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > starting weight 320

> > lowest weight 200

> > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > original by-pass 70cm

> > revision to 170cm

>

>

> Homepage:

> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe:

> mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

1. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

2. Who says a good friendship isn't what you need

right now. Seems like you are at a crossroads. Maybe

this is the time to find yourself and what you want.

Date, have fun, be good to yourself.

--- luvr_of_pink@... wrote:

> Hi all,

> I'm afraid I am catching this all at the back-end as

> I haven't been

> on in a while and trying to play catch up but I have

> to speak up

> because I am finding myself in the same kinds of

> predicaments

> described here.

>

> My story: I separated from my husband in 6/01 and

> we now live 200

> miles apart. He wants to get back together and I do

> visit him about

> once a month (just got back yesterday) but I'm not

> sure I want to get

> back because of the things that happened in the

> past.

>

> In the meantime, I have decided to give the

> personals ad venue a go.

> I've gotten several responses and have my picture

> posted and have

> talked with several. With the first two I mentioned

> my surgery

> within the first week or so (wanting to lay the

> groundwork) and

> boom! They disappeared never to be heard from

> again. Then I met one

> in person and we had a blast so I decided to put him

> to the acid test

> and hauled out before and afters. He wasn't

> horrified or anything.

> However, he is very recently divorced and is a

> single dad to 4 young

> kids and just looking for friends right now (which

> is very smart) so

> there is no potential there in the forseeable

> future. I met another

> one face to face and it was a total disaster!

> Although he wasn't

> mean about it, I could tell I was not what he was

> expecting.

> Needless to say, he dropped off of the face of the

> earth.

>

> Now, I am still writing the one that wants to be

> friends and writing

> one other one who seems very nice but I'm hesitant

> to bring this

> subject up again. Meanwhile, with my husband I know

> he loves me no

> matter what size and I do not feel self-conscious in

> the least

> getting nekkid in front of him and he makes me feel

> like the most

> beautiful, sexy woman in the world. If not for the

> past between us

> things would be perfect, but the past is there and I

> feel the need to

> see what else is out there for me before considering

> letting my

> husband come back but truth is, I've had 3

> rejections in less than a

> month and NONE of them has any idea what horrors lie

> beneath these

> clothes. I am definately of Sharpei decent now.

>

> I'm encouraged by the responses I've seen to these

> lines and take

> comfort in the fact that a) others are dealing with

> it too and

> that what I know in my heart is true. If they can't

> look past the

> outside battle scars and see the beauty of the

> person beneath then

> who needs them?!

>

> Anyway, thanks to all who have bared their souls and

> shared their

> thoughts on this topic. I know I've gotten a lot

> out of it and I

> know others have as well.

>

> Take care,

> e

> VBG 9/30/97

> RNY 5/22/00

>

>

>

> > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> soon if this is

> going to go

> > any further*******

> >

> > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> heard of very

> sucessful

> > relationships developing out of a long distance

> romance that

> started via the

> > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> married to the man

> she met

> > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> all you want, but

> they have

> > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> remember the exact

> date) And I

> > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> , who I call

> husband (we

> > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> at another time).

>

> > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> It wasn't long

> distance,

> > but we went through some of the same things before

> meeting. First we

> > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> sure we wanted to

> take it to

> > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> love at first

> Date! LOLOL

> > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> strong.

> >

> > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> then deside if

> there is a

> > future.

> >

> > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > starting weight 320

> > lowest weight 200

> > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > original by-pass 70cm

> > revision to 170cm

>

>

> Homepage:

> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe:

> mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

1. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

2. Who says a good friendship isn't what you need

right now. Seems like you are at a crossroads. Maybe

this is the time to find yourself and what you want.

Date, have fun, be good to yourself.

--- luvr_of_pink@... wrote:

> Hi all,

> I'm afraid I am catching this all at the back-end as

> I haven't been

> on in a while and trying to play catch up but I have

> to speak up

> because I am finding myself in the same kinds of

> predicaments

> described here.

>

> My story: I separated from my husband in 6/01 and

> we now live 200

> miles apart. He wants to get back together and I do

> visit him about

> once a month (just got back yesterday) but I'm not

> sure I want to get

> back because of the things that happened in the

> past.

>

> In the meantime, I have decided to give the

> personals ad venue a go.

> I've gotten several responses and have my picture

> posted and have

> talked with several. With the first two I mentioned

> my surgery

> within the first week or so (wanting to lay the

> groundwork) and

> boom! They disappeared never to be heard from

> again. Then I met one

> in person and we had a blast so I decided to put him

> to the acid test

> and hauled out before and afters. He wasn't

> horrified or anything.

> However, he is very recently divorced and is a

> single dad to 4 young

> kids and just looking for friends right now (which

> is very smart) so

> there is no potential there in the forseeable

> future. I met another

> one face to face and it was a total disaster!

> Although he wasn't

> mean about it, I could tell I was not what he was

> expecting.

> Needless to say, he dropped off of the face of the

> earth.

>

> Now, I am still writing the one that wants to be

> friends and writing

> one other one who seems very nice but I'm hesitant

> to bring this

> subject up again. Meanwhile, with my husband I know

> he loves me no

> matter what size and I do not feel self-conscious in

> the least

> getting nekkid in front of him and he makes me feel

> like the most

> beautiful, sexy woman in the world. If not for the

> past between us

> things would be perfect, but the past is there and I

> feel the need to

> see what else is out there for me before considering

> letting my

> husband come back but truth is, I've had 3

> rejections in less than a

> month and NONE of them has any idea what horrors lie

> beneath these

> clothes. I am definately of Sharpei decent now.

>

> I'm encouraged by the responses I've seen to these

> lines and take

> comfort in the fact that a) others are dealing with

> it too and

> that what I know in my heart is true. If they can't

> look past the

> outside battle scars and see the beauty of the

> person beneath then

> who needs them?!

>

> Anyway, thanks to all who have bared their souls and

> shared their

> thoughts on this topic. I know I've gotten a lot

> out of it and I

> know others have as well.

>

> Take care,

> e

> VBG 9/30/97

> RNY 5/22/00

>

>

>

> > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> soon if this is

> going to go

> > any further*******

> >

> > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> heard of very

> sucessful

> > relationships developing out of a long distance

> romance that

> started via the

> > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> married to the man

> she met

> > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> all you want, but

> they have

> > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> remember the exact

> date) And I

> > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> , who I call

> husband (we

> > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> at another time).

>

> > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> It wasn't long

> distance,

> > but we went through some of the same things before

> meeting. First we

> > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> sure we wanted to

> take it to

> > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> love at first

> Date! LOLOL

> > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> strong.

> >

> > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> then deside if

> there is a

> > future.

> >

> > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > starting weight 320

> > lowest weight 200

> > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > original by-pass 70cm

> > revision to 170cm

>

>

> Homepage:

> http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

>

> Unsubscribe:

> mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Judy,

I totally agree with number 1 and I see where you are going with

number 2. I AM at a crossroads but I'm also lonely and would like to

spend some quality time with someone of the opposite sex. I'm not

talking sex here but I want to assess my feelings toward my husband

by having something to compare them to. That may sound totally

stupid or not even make any sense but I don't have the words at the

moment to put it any clearer. I jumped out of a bad 11 year marriage

into a relationship with my husband just 6 weeks after I had left the

first marriage. We were married for a total of 15months when I left.

I just want to experience NORMAL, whatever that is.

This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot, but I promise

I'm not. I will say that I DO have A LOT to learn about healthy

relationships and I guess that starts with relationship #1 which is

with myself. I'm working on it and I guess I'll meet someone OR get

back with my husband when the time is right.

Take care,

e

> > > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> > soon if this is

> > going to go

> > > any further*******

> > >

> > > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> > heard of very

> > sucessful

> > > relationships developing out of a long distance

> > romance that

> > started via the

> > > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> > married to the man

> > she met

> > > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> > all you want, but

> > they have

> > > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> > remember the exact

> > date) And I

> > > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> > , who I call

> > husband (we

> > > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> > at another time).

> >

> > > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> > It wasn't long

> > distance,

> > > but we went through some of the same things before

> > meeting. First we

> > > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> > sure we wanted to

> > take it to

> > > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> > love at first

> > Date! LOLOL

> > > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> > strong.

> > >

> > > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> > then deside if

> > there is a

> > > future.

> > >

> > > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > > starting weight 320

> > > lowest weight 200

> > > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > > original by-pass 70cm

> > > revision to 170cm

> >

> >

> > Homepage:

> > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> >

> > Unsubscribe:

> > mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe@y...

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Judy,

I totally agree with number 1 and I see where you are going with

number 2. I AM at a crossroads but I'm also lonely and would like to

spend some quality time with someone of the opposite sex. I'm not

talking sex here but I want to assess my feelings toward my husband

by having something to compare them to. That may sound totally

stupid or not even make any sense but I don't have the words at the

moment to put it any clearer. I jumped out of a bad 11 year marriage

into a relationship with my husband just 6 weeks after I had left the

first marriage. We were married for a total of 15months when I left.

I just want to experience NORMAL, whatever that is.

This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot, but I promise

I'm not. I will say that I DO have A LOT to learn about healthy

relationships and I guess that starts with relationship #1 which is

with myself. I'm working on it and I guess I'll meet someone OR get

back with my husband when the time is right.

Take care,

e

> > > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> > soon if this is

> > going to go

> > > any further*******

> > >

> > > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> > heard of very

> > sucessful

> > > relationships developing out of a long distance

> > romance that

> > started via the

> > > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> > married to the man

> > she met

> > > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> > all you want, but

> > they have

> > > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> > remember the exact

> > date) And I

> > > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> > , who I call

> > husband (we

> > > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> > at another time).

> >

> > > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> > It wasn't long

> > distance,

> > > but we went through some of the same things before

> > meeting. First we

> > > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> > sure we wanted to

> > take it to

> > > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> > love at first

> > Date! LOLOL

> > > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> > strong.

> > >

> > > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> > then deside if

> > there is a

> > > future.

> > >

> > > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > > starting weight 320

> > > lowest weight 200

> > > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > > original by-pass 70cm

> > > revision to 170cm

> >

> >

> > Homepage:

> > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> >

> > Unsubscribe:

> > mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe@y...

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Judy,

I totally agree with number 1 and I see where you are going with

number 2. I AM at a crossroads but I'm also lonely and would like to

spend some quality time with someone of the opposite sex. I'm not

talking sex here but I want to assess my feelings toward my husband

by having something to compare them to. That may sound totally

stupid or not even make any sense but I don't have the words at the

moment to put it any clearer. I jumped out of a bad 11 year marriage

into a relationship with my husband just 6 weeks after I had left the

first marriage. We were married for a total of 15months when I left.

I just want to experience NORMAL, whatever that is.

This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot, but I promise

I'm not. I will say that I DO have A LOT to learn about healthy

relationships and I guess that starts with relationship #1 which is

with myself. I'm working on it and I guess I'll meet someone OR get

back with my husband when the time is right.

Take care,

e

> > > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> > soon if this is

> > going to go

> > > any further*******

> > >

> > > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> > heard of very

> > sucessful

> > > relationships developing out of a long distance

> > romance that

> > started via the

> > > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> > married to the man

> > she met

> > > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> > all you want, but

> > they have

> > > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> > remember the exact

> > date) And I

> > > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> > , who I call

> > husband (we

> > > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> > at another time).

> >

> > > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> > It wasn't long

> > distance,

> > > but we went through some of the same things before

> > meeting. First we

> > > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> > sure we wanted to

> > take it to

> > > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> > love at first

> > Date! LOLOL

> > > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> > strong.

> > >

> > > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> > then deside if

> > there is a

> > > future.

> > >

> > > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > > starting weight 320

> > > lowest weight 200

> > > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > > original by-pass 70cm

> > > revision to 170cm

> >

> >

> > Homepage:

> > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> >

> > Unsubscribe:

> > mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe@y...

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

>>This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot,<<<

OH honey, don't we ALL? Oh yeah, like we KNOW something about how to run

these things! LOL! Ceep has some great ideas, but gads, none of us has a

really great handle on it. (nor did she say so! LOL!)

I met Don under very shady circumstances, but the relationship grew slowly

over time. Neither one of us had anything of substance to offer at the time.

But there was that nebulous " something " there that had to be nurtured, the

BS peeled away, layer by layer (still peeling), still feeding the good,

starving out the bad (mutual, of course). It takes forever.

It's not like sampling a protein where two sips tells the story. You gotta

keep sipping & spitting some out, sipping again, savoring that part. Hard

work.

I don't think you're nuts AT ALL for not being sure what you are doing.

Gads, I'd think you were nuts if you proceeded without due caution!

Thanks,

www.vitalady.com

For info on PayPal, click this link:

https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com

Re: Knows about my surgery: It's showtime for

him/need your help

> Judy,

> I totally agree with number 1 and I see where you are going with

> number 2. I AM at a crossroads but I'm also lonely and would like to

> spend some quality time with someone of the opposite sex. I'm not

> talking sex here but I want to assess my feelings toward my husband

> by having something to compare them to. That may sound totally

> stupid or not even make any sense but I don't have the words at the

> moment to put it any clearer. I jumped out of a bad 11 year marriage

> into a relationship with my husband just 6 weeks after I had left the

> first marriage. We were married for a total of 15months when I left.

> I just want to experience NORMAL, whatever that is.

>

> This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot, but I promise

> I'm not. I will say that I DO have A LOT to learn about healthy

> relationships and I guess that starts with relationship #1 which is

> with myself. I'm working on it and I guess I'll meet someone OR get

> back with my husband when the time is right.

>

> Take care,

> e

>

>

>

> > > > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> > > soon if this is

> > > going to go

> > > > any further*******

> > > >

> > > > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> > > heard of very

> > > sucessful

> > > > relationships developing out of a long distance

> > > romance that

> > > started via the

> > > > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> > > married to the man

> > > she met

> > > > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> > > all you want, but

> > > they have

> > > > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> > > remember the exact

> > > date) And I

> > > > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> > > , who I call

> > > husband (we

> > > > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> > > at another time).

> > >

> > > > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> > > It wasn't long

> > > distance,

> > > > but we went through some of the same things before

> > > meeting. First we

> > > > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> > > sure we wanted to

> > > take it to

> > > > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> > > love at first

> > > Date! LOLOL

> > > > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> > > strong.

> > > >

> > > > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> > > then deside if

> > > there is a

> > > > future.

> > > >

> > > > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > > > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > > > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > > > starting weight 320

> > > > lowest weight 200

> > > > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > > > original by-pass 70cm

> > > > revision to 170cm

> > >

> > >

> > > Homepage:

> > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> > >

> > > Unsubscribe:

> > > mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe@y...

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

>>This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot,<<<

OH honey, don't we ALL? Oh yeah, like we KNOW something about how to run

these things! LOL! Ceep has some great ideas, but gads, none of us has a

really great handle on it. (nor did she say so! LOL!)

I met Don under very shady circumstances, but the relationship grew slowly

over time. Neither one of us had anything of substance to offer at the time.

But there was that nebulous " something " there that had to be nurtured, the

BS peeled away, layer by layer (still peeling), still feeding the good,

starving out the bad (mutual, of course). It takes forever.

It's not like sampling a protein where two sips tells the story. You gotta

keep sipping & spitting some out, sipping again, savoring that part. Hard

work.

I don't think you're nuts AT ALL for not being sure what you are doing.

Gads, I'd think you were nuts if you proceeded without due caution!

Thanks,

www.vitalady.com

For info on PayPal, click this link:

https://secure.paypal.com/affil/pal=vitalady%40bigfoot.com

Re: Knows about my surgery: It's showtime for

him/need your help

> Judy,

> I totally agree with number 1 and I see where you are going with

> number 2. I AM at a crossroads but I'm also lonely and would like to

> spend some quality time with someone of the opposite sex. I'm not

> talking sex here but I want to assess my feelings toward my husband

> by having something to compare them to. That may sound totally

> stupid or not even make any sense but I don't have the words at the

> moment to put it any clearer. I jumped out of a bad 11 year marriage

> into a relationship with my husband just 6 weeks after I had left the

> first marriage. We were married for a total of 15months when I left.

> I just want to experience NORMAL, whatever that is.

>

> This probably sounds like the post of a raving idiot, but I promise

> I'm not. I will say that I DO have A LOT to learn about healthy

> relationships and I guess that starts with relationship #1 which is

> with myself. I'm working on it and I guess I'll meet someone OR get

> back with my husband when the time is right.

>

> Take care,

> e

>

>

>

> > > > ***** We both agree that a meeting MUST happen

> > > soon if this is

> > > going to go

> > > > any further*******

> > > >

> > > > You hit the nail right on the head here! I have

> > > heard of very

> > > sucessful

> > > > relationships developing out of a long distance

> > > romance that

> > > started via the

> > > > internet. A personal friend of mine actually got

> > > married to the man

> > > she met

> > > > on a bulletin board for cats. LOL You can laugh

> > > all you want, but

> > > they have

> > > > been married for 5 or 6 years now. (I can't

> > > remember the exact

> > > date) And I

> > > > am deeply committed to my significant other,

> > > , who I call

> > > husband (we

> > > > can't marry .... a story I can bore you all with

> > > at another time).

> > >

> > > > and I met because I placed an ad on Love@AOL! LOL

> > > It wasn't long

> > > distance,

> > > > but we went through some of the same things before

> > > meeting. First we

> > > > emailed, then we did phone calls. When we were

> > > sure we wanted to

> > > take it to

> > > > the next step, we arranged to meet. For us it was

> > > love at first

> > > Date! LOLOL

> > > > And it has been 2 1/2 years and is still going

> > > strong.

> > > >

> > > > So....my NOT so HUMBLE opinion...... meet first,

> > > then deside if

> > > there is a

> > > > future.

> > > >

> > > > Debbie in Gig Harbor

> > > > Dr. Weber for Original RNY (1/22/1999)

> > > > and Revision (2/16/2001)transected stomach

> > > > starting weight 320

> > > > lowest weight 200

> > > > current weight 219 (down from 265 before revision)

> > > > original by-pass 70cm

> > > > revision to 170cm

> > >

> > >

> > > Homepage:

> > > http://groups.yahoo.com/group/Graduate-OSSG

> > >

> > > Unsubscribe:

> > > mailto:Graduate-OSSG-unsubscribe@y...

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >