Re: Info on failure to thrive

January 25, 2001

My son was diagnosed with failure to thrive at about 2 weeks old. He was

admitted into the hospital where there were social workers that would come in to

see how mother and baby were bonding. They then suggested that we weren't

feeding him right making me feel very inadequate as a mother when I had tried

everything I could think of plus what they had suggested. This went on for about

a week and a half when finally a new nurse had been assigned to the pediatric

floor and decided to give him one of his feedings out at the nurses station so I

could go get something to eat. Mind you every nurse that had been on that floor

had tried to feed him thinking it was my fault. This new nurse started feeding

him and knew right away what was wrong with him. Everything that he drank could

not empty from the stomach because the muscle at the bottom of the stomach was

closed too tight.( Pyloric Stenosis) She called the doctor and told him what she

thought my matthew had and the doctor ordered a stomach x-ray. By the time I had

gotten back to the hospital they were getting him ready for the test. The x-ray

confirmed that the nurse was right. I truly believe that if that nurse had not

been transferred to that floor they would have never found what it was and Matt

would not be here today. That was 11 years ago so I don't know if the thinking

has changed any in the medical profession or not. But my experience with this

was awful and I never ever got an apology from anyone up there. I know I didn't

help you much but I thought I would share my experience with this to show they

can diagnose this and there can be a physical reason for it not caused by

anything the mother is doing or not doing.

Kim mom to Matt 11 years old

nikki charlton wrote:

> Hi All,

>

> I am talking to a friend on the phone, who was mentioning her girlfriend 's

> child who is labled failure to thrive. Her ped. is an evil woman from hell,

> and told her it's her fault that her child is not growing. Has made threats

> to take her child out of daycare if she cannot get him to meet the goals she

> has set for the child.

>

> The term failure to thrive has been described to me by her as a vicous (?sp)

> cycle- the mother and child cannot bond so that the child cannot thrive due

> to the lack of bond between the two. Also, they have not even tried to send

> him to a geneticist or endo. to figure out if there could be something else

> underneath it all. I was so mad when I was told this, tried to explain

> that we do not live in the stone ages, and am waiting for this mother to

> contact me so that i can get some more information on her child and try to

> get my ped. to see her. My ped is a saint, and I know will do everything to

> see that the child is properly diagnosed. Has anyone else heard of this

> description for failure to thrive, or does someone have a real medical term

> for this.

>

> Getting frustrated with narrow minded docs.

>

> Sorry for the vent, hope you can help.

>

> Take care all

>

> Nikki-mom to 6, and Nala the cat

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January 26, 2001

Hi Nikki,

OK, you got my blood pressure up pretty good. I can't say what I am really

thinking. I think they put people in jail for that.

I don't have any specific info on failure to thrive except for RSS.

The only thing I could suggest is if you could get in touch with your friend's

friend and maybe descibe your child and how RSS is often consideredd FTT. Then

maybe suggest a second opinion with your doctor.

I hope others can give you more guidance that I can.

Good Luck

Ken M

" nikki charlton " on 01/25/2001 06:23:42 PM

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Hi All,

I am talking to a friend on the phone, who was mentioning her girlfriend 's

child who is labled failure to thrive. Her ped. is an evil woman from hell,

and told her it's her fault that her child is not growing. Has made threats

to take her child out of daycare if she cannot get him to meet the goals she

has set for the child.

The term failure to thrive has been described to me by her as a vicous (?sp)

cycle- the mother and child cannot bond so that the child cannot thrive due

to the lack of bond between the two. Also, they have not even tried to send

him to a geneticist or endo. to figure out if there could be something else

underneath it all. I was so mad when I was told this, tried to explain

that we do not live in the stone ages, and am waiting for this mother to

contact me so that i can get some more information on her child and try to

get my ped. to see her. My ped is a saint, and I know will do everything to

see that the child is properly diagnosed. Has anyone else heard of this

description for failure to thrive, or does someone have a real medical term

for this.

Getting frustrated with narrow minded docs.

Sorry for the vent, hope you can help.

Take care all

Nikki-mom to 6, and Nala the cat

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January 26, 2001