Be careful what you wish for...

[Guest guest]

<< Do you mind if I ask *how* you tell the difference? Everything seems

threatening to me if I don't already know the man involved. If I do, then

it's not a problem.

>>

All I can tell you is that it took a lot of therapy and opening up how I felt

threatened and having the therapist help me discern whether or not I was

really being threatened. I, too, have been raped, abused and stalked. I am

probably overly cautious about locking my car doors immediately and watching

my back....but that is what it takes for me to feel " safe " in public. I take

sensible precautions, of course, but no longer have an anxiety attack if a

man smiles at me!! I share this response with the list from a private email

i received from someone less than one year out from her surgery. She thought

perhaps someone else lurking would be helped if I would do that. :-)

dawn

[Guest guest]

I know, I know, I'm behind again! I had to fly to St. Louis for my Grandma's

emergency surgery (yes, everything is fine, btw). I just had to comment on

this thread, even though by now it's probably really old.

I had my first legitimate " stalking " experience in St. Louis. Ewwwww, that

feels really creepy. I always thought that looking like a supermodel would

be such an easy life (kidding). Anyway, I'm glad that it ended well, but

this just reinforces how much I hate St. Louis (sorry to all of you St.

Louisan's out there. Just remember, I'm from St. Louis, too, I just was

lucky enough to get out, haha).

In a message dated 9/28/00 9:12:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Graduate-OSSGegroups writes:

Edited only for the moderators (haha):

<<more male attention, piece of meat, an object. weight is gone, happening

again, uncomfortable,

men checking me out! feel scared, awkward, need to " hide out "

choose to smile back, to not provoke something else or ignore. have learned

to discern " positive " attention from threatening behavior. neither am I

careless if I sense real threat.>>

Felicia

Lap RNY 6/2/99 Dr. Champion. 5'8 " @ 250+ (now: 5'9 " @ 134 lbs.)

http://hometown.aol.com/felicialee/myhomepage/index.html

[Guest guest]

I know, I know, I'm behind again! I had to fly to St. Louis for my Grandma's

emergency surgery (yes, everything is fine, btw). I just had to comment on

this thread, even though by now it's probably really old.

I had my first legitimate " stalking " experience in St. Louis. Ewwwww, that

feels really creepy. I always thought that looking like a supermodel would

be such an easy life (kidding). Anyway, I'm glad that it ended well, but

this just reinforces how much I hate St. Louis (sorry to all of you St.

Louisan's out there. Just remember, I'm from St. Louis, too, I just was

lucky enough to get out, haha).

In a message dated 9/28/00 9:12:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Graduate-OSSGegroups writes:

Edited only for the moderators (haha):

<<more male attention, piece of meat, an object. weight is gone, happening

again, uncomfortable,

men checking me out! feel scared, awkward, need to " hide out "

choose to smile back, to not provoke something else or ignore. have learned

to discern " positive " attention from threatening behavior. neither am I

careless if I sense real threat.>>

Felicia

Lap RNY 6/2/99 Dr. Champion. 5'8 " @ 250+ (now: 5'9 " @ 134 lbs.)

http://hometown.aol.com/felicialee/myhomepage/index.html

[Guest guest]

I know, I know, I'm behind again! I had to fly to St. Louis for my Grandma's

emergency surgery (yes, everything is fine, btw). I just had to comment on

this thread, even though by now it's probably really old.

I had my first legitimate " stalking " experience in St. Louis. Ewwwww, that

feels really creepy. I always thought that looking like a supermodel would

be such an easy life (kidding). Anyway, I'm glad that it ended well, but

this just reinforces how much I hate St. Louis (sorry to all of you St.

Louisan's out there. Just remember, I'm from St. Louis, too, I just was

lucky enough to get out, haha).

In a message dated 9/28/00 9:12:21 AM Eastern Daylight Time,

Graduate-OSSGegroups writes:

Edited only for the moderators (haha):

<<more male attention, piece of meat, an object. weight is gone, happening

again, uncomfortable,

men checking me out! feel scared, awkward, need to " hide out "

choose to smile back, to not provoke something else or ignore. have learned

to discern " positive " attention from threatening behavior. neither am I

careless if I sense real threat.>>

Felicia

Lap RNY 6/2/99 Dr. Champion. 5'8 " @ 250+ (now: 5'9 " @ 134 lbs.)

http://hometown.aol.com/felicialee/myhomepage/index.html