Re: Telling NADA about the support group

[Guest guest]

Oy. Sounds like my nada when I wanted to go to therapy as a teen. " Why? So

you can make ME look like a bad mother?! "

It's ALWAYS about them and them maintaining whatever mask they're putting on

for the public.

Mia

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> I am actually the daughter-in-law, but I've managed to get my husband to

> start reading this site and the information here has been great and you all

> have been so supportive.

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> Hubby had quite the discussion with his nada the other day and I just had

> to share. First of all, let me say, hubby is learning how to separate

> himself. He has done an amazing job in so many ways. When she called and he

> was getting ready to call her back, he knew what he was in for and we went

> over how to handle it. But, he still gets sucked in. So, the call didn't go

> well, to say the least and it was an hour and a half of the same old stuff

> she always throws at him.

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> But here's the best part - when she was mad at him for not doing this or

> that, he casually mentioned that he had joined a support group and that it

> was helping him deal with their estranged relationship. He said he was doing

> it to better understand it and to help him deal with it.

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> Well, she completely lost it! Her response was " But they don't know MY

> side! " " How can you tell other people about me? I don't get a chance to

> defend myself. "

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> He explained the support group was for HIM, not her. She wouldn't hear any

> of it. She went on and on.

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> It honestly made me laugh. (What else can I do, right?) Classic nada. Just

> had to share.

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