Anyone else ever wanted to change their name?

[Guest guest]

Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

desire to legally change my name to something I like.

I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

Mia

[Guest guest]

Me too... I have a 'little girl's name' (not Lynnette.)

And my Nada has pounded into my head for as long as I can remember, " I always

tripletts... x, y, and z... but I only got YOU... "

Um... how to feel about that? A lot? Nothing? Confused?

Depends on the day and on the situation.

Lynnette (sorta)

>

> Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

>

> I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> desire to legally change my name to something I like.

>

> I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

>

> Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

>

> Mia

>

[Guest guest]

Why not! Authors sometimes use " pen names " to write under, and actors often

create " stage names " for themselves (Cary Grant's real name was Archibald

Leach), so why not create a new name for yourself that you love?

Go for it!

-Annie (not my real name either!)

>

> Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

>

> I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> desire to legally change my name to something I like.

>

> I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

>

> Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

>

> Mia

>

[Guest guest]

Oh, yes. I have the same middle name as my BPD mother and my bipolar

grandmother. Never have changed it...but if I have a little girl, I won't be

passing it (or any of their psycho crap) on to her!

> >

> > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> >

> > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> >

> > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> >

> > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> >

> > Mia

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, I think about changing my name all the time. The last name (my dad and

nada's name) i'd like to dump all together. If I ever get over my marriage

and commitment issues, I would take my boyfriends name in a heartbeat. Kind

of an easy out. And then I Love my first name () and I'll keep that. My

middle name I would change. My mother did something very trashy and gave me

only the initial K with no period after as my middle name. It stands for

Katrina. Why not just be Katrina???? I think I'll do that when I get

around to it.

I think its a great idea. A huge symbol.

>

>

> Oh, yes. I have the same middle name as my BPD mother and my bipolar

> grandmother. Never have changed it...but if I have a little girl, I won't be

> passing it (or any of their psycho crap) on to her!

>

>

>

> > >

> > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> > >

> > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > >

> > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > >

> > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > >

> > > Mia

> > >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Since Fada has moved in with us I hate my maiden name. I used to use it for a

lot of passwords and have now gone to something else. I've lost all pride in the

heritage tied to that name. I'm sure grandfada was an abusive BPD and is why

Fada is such a helpless Waif with hermit tendencies and entitled Queen elements.

I hate my maiden name and the fact that it ties me to such a helpless worthless

Waif.

Kay

> > > >

> > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> > > >

> > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > >

> > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > >

> > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > >

> > > > Mia

> > > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Wow, I'm surprised how many people have had the same thoughts on this. I

guess I shouldn't be... seems like every time I post a question about " do

you guys ever... " I get responses similar to how I feel! I think if I were

to decide to legally change my name, I'd want to do it before I get my

nursing license. I mean, it's a huge pain in the arse to change your name

when you get married or divorced... I can imagine how much worst it is for

something like this, plus add in licensing for nursing & other

accreditations? Yuck.

Still, wouldn't mind doing it. Would just need to pick a name that I like

and feel suits me. Like I said, I love the name Mia (If I had ever had

children and a daughter, I would have named her that), but I do NOT look

like a Mia. Mia is IMO a very feminine name and reminds me of someone

attractive... I do not find myself physically attractive in the least!

Mia

>

>

> Since Fada has moved in with us I hate my maiden name. I used to use it for

> a lot of passwords and have now gone to something else. I've lost all pride

> in the heritage tied to that name. I'm sure grandfada was an abusive BPD and

> is why Fada is such a helpless Waif with hermit tendencies and entitled

> Queen elements. I hate my maiden name and the fact that it ties me to such a

> helpless worthless Waif.

> Kay

>

>

> > > > >

> > > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like

> it.

> > > > >

> > > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this

> weird

> > > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > > >

> > > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name

> I'll

> > > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > > >

> > > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > > >

> > > > > Mia

> > > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

From your posts on here,the sweet person who writes them,the name Mia really

suits you

That's a lovely name for a lovely spirit.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like

> > it.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this

> > weird

> > > > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name

> > I'll

> > > > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > > > >

> > > > > > Mia

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

[Guest guest]

Mia, what's wrong with taking the name that is about how you feel and want to be

rather than what you are?

As far as I'm concerned, you're Mia.

aka Lola.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like

> > > it.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name.

It's

> > > > > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this

> > > weird

> > > > > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name

> > > I'll

> > > > > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my

mind

> > > > > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > > > > >

> > > > > > > Mia

> > > > > > >

> > > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > > >

> > > >

> > > >

> > > >

[Guest guest]

I don't have a middle name because nada nad fada didn't " believe in " middle

names so I've been stuck with my first name.I think I'm going to keep it because

for years it made me wince (the way it's pronounced in the region where I'm from

sounded like contempt to me for a long time but when I went abroad the way

people pronounced it sounded much nicer and gentler and I learned to like

it)--and I want to keep my name to reclaim my right to respect,to not have to

wince at the sound of my own name.

Nada almost named me Dolphin.Like I really needed that in addition to

everything else!

(whose real name is is what nada thought was the Austrian

version of that to match my last name,which I might still change one of these

days)

>

> Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

>

> I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> desire to legally change my name to something I like.

>

> I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

>

> Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

>

> Mia

>

[Guest guest]

Good grief. " ...Dolphin?... " Maybe a judge might have taken you away from her

if she'd done that? We'll never know.

-Annie

> >

> > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> >

> > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> >

> > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> >

> > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> >

> > Mia

> >

>

[Guest guest]

LOL...*nada's* real name is Dianne and when *she* was a teen she wanted to

rename herself " Dolphin " .

> > >

> > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> > >

> > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > >

> > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > >

> > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > >

> > > Mia

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi, I'm new to your group, raised by a BPD/NPD/ASPD mother and a probable NPD

father who was also passive aggressive. Both were violent and abusive.

I saw the thread about changing your name and I am here to tell you I did it. I

picked an unusual first and middle name, and kept my surname. Actually, my

middle name, which is French, has been in my family for centuries. My

grandmother helped me do this several decades ago in Michigan by swearing that

my birth certificate was wrong. She thought I would regret it, but I never

have. The name my parents gave me reminded me of their abuse, so I re-defined

myself. They knew I wasn't using it, but may not have known I had it legally

changed.

BTW, I assume fada and nada are some acronym for PD parents? What does it

mean?

Cricket

[Guest guest]

Dolphin?! Wow... now that would be bizarre! As if you weren't borderelined

enough... then to have that as a name, oy vey!

Mia

On Wed, Feb 9, 2011 at 12:33 AM, christine.depizan <

christine.depizan@...> wrote:

>

>

> I don't have a middle name because nada nad fada didn't " believe in " middle

> names so I've been stuck with my first name.I think I'm going to keep it

> because for years it made me wince (the way it's pronounced in the region

> where I'm from sounded like contempt to me for a long time but when I went

> abroad the way people pronounced it sounded much nicer and gentler and I

> learned to like it)--and I want to keep my name to reclaim my right to

> respect,to not have to wince at the sound of my own name.

>

> Nada almost named me Dolphin.Like I really needed that in addition to

> everything else!

>

> (whose real name is is what nada thought was the Austrian

> version of that to match my last name,which I might still change one of

> these days)

>

[Guest guest]

Ah, OK. (Why am I not surprised...?)

Lol!

-Annie

> > > >

> > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> > > >

> > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > >

> > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > >

> > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > >

> > > > Mia

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Just happy to ditch the last name as that after my dad died, everyone with the

name Lavalle was CREEPY

proflaf

Subject: Re: Anyone else ever wanted to change their name?

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, February 9, 2011, 2:17 AM

 

Ah, OK. (Why am I not surprised...?)

Lol!

-Annie

> > > >

> > > > Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

> > > >

> > > > I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

> > > > also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

> > > > desire to legally change my name to something I like.

> > > >

> > > > I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

> > > > be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

> > > > disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

> > > >

> > > > Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

> > > > it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

> > > > once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

> > > >

> > > > Mia

> > > >

> > >

> >

>

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Cricket

Nada refers to a biological mother who does not act like a mother. Fada is the

father version of it. I don't know exactly how or why it is nada but essentially

it is " not a mother " .

 

Felicia Ward

Remember that people often have different perceptions of the same reality. You

can both be right, and no one has to be wrong, if each of you is willing to let

the other person have his or her perceptions and if both of you are willing to

compromise. 

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Tue, February 8, 2011 9:58:44 PM

Subject: Re: Anyone else ever wanted to change their name?

 

Hi, I'm new to your group, raised by a BPD/NPD/ASPD mother and a probable NPD

father who was also passive aggressive. Both were violent and abusive.

I saw the thread about changing your name and I am here to tell you I did it. I

picked an unusual first and middle name, and kept my surname. Actually, my

middle name, which is French, has been in my family for centuries. My

grandmother helped me do this several decades ago in Michigan by swearing that

my birth certificate was wrong. She thought I would regret it, but I never have.

The name my parents gave me reminded me of their abuse, so I re-defined myself.

They knew I wasn't using it, but may not have known I had it legally changed.

BTW, I assume fada and nada are some acronym for PD parents? What does it mean?

Cricket

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Hi Cricket & welcome! How hard was the process for chainging your name,

just curious. Also wondering if there are any fees (I would guess yes)? I

will research it myself soon but since you did go through it, I thought I

would ask =)

Nada is the word we use for our personality disordered mothers, as in " nada

real mother " (not a real mother). Fada is a spin off of that for our PD'ed

fathers.

Mia

>

>

> Hi, I'm new to your group, raised by a BPD/NPD/ASPD mother and a probable

> NPD father who was also passive aggressive. Both were violent and abusive.

>

> I saw the thread about changing your name and I am here to tell you I did

> it. I picked an unusual first and middle name, and kept my surname.

> Actually, my middle name, which is French, has been in my family for

> centuries. My grandmother helped me do this several decades ago in Michigan

> by swearing that my birth certificate was wrong. She thought I would regret

> it, but I never have. The name my parents gave me reminded me of their

> abuse, so I re-defined myself. They knew I wasn't using it, but may not have

> known I had it legally changed.

>

> BTW, I assume fada and nada are some acronym for PD parents? What does it

> mean?

>

> Cricket

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I did legally change my surname years ago cos I wanted to broke a chain of

sickness in my family and somehow it seems it works

Sent via BlackBerry

Anyone else ever wanted to change their name?

Obviously, my real name is not Mia. I kind of wish it was, I like it.

I really don't like my real name. Particularly my middle name. It's

also my nada & grandnada's middle name. I have always had this weird

desire to legally change my name to something I like.

I'm certainly not naive enough to think " Gee, if I change my name I'll

be a whole new person & my past & all current problems will just

disappear! " , but I still have this desire to change my damn name.

Just wondered if anyone else had ever thought about that. For me,

it's not something I think of very often at all, it crosses my mind

once in a while and I think " Gee, I'd love to do that " .

Mia

[Guest guest]

I was in Michigan at the time, and this might not hold true in all states. I

asked and was told I'd have to hire a lawyer and go to court. So I looked up

the law myself and saw that, if a family member who was an adult and in close

proximity when you were born would swear that there was a mistake on your birth

certificate, you could have it " corrected " . My grandmother said she had never

seen me so determined about anything, and she did it for me. It didn't cost

much, certainly less than $50, and required a form to be notarized and then

filed with the state. Six weeks later, I had a new birth certificate. Had I

gone to court, my parents would have been notified and could have objected.

Cricket

>

> >

> >

> > Hi, I'm new to your group, raised by a BPD/NPD/ASPD mother and a probable

> > NPD father who was also passive aggressive. Both were violent and abusive.

> >

> > I saw the thread about changing your name and I am here to tell you I did

> > it. I picked an unusual first and middle name, and kept my surname.

> > Actually, my middle name, which is French, has been in my family for

> > centuries. My grandmother helped me do this several decades ago in Michigan

> > by swearing that my birth certificate was wrong. She thought I would regret

> > it, but I never have. The name my parents gave me reminded me of their

> > abuse, so I re-defined myself. They knew I wasn't using it, but may not have

> > known I had it legally changed.

> >

> > BTW, I assume fada and nada are some acronym for PD parents? What does it

> > mean?

> >

> > Cricket

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>