I'm a total newbie

[Guest guest]

I made the choice to start therapy this past year to figure out why things were

going so wrong with all my close relationships and surprise, surprise, found out

my mom is a textbook BP and everything in my life came into focus. I'm sure it

sounds familiar. I am a quarter of the way into Stop Walking on Eggshells so I'm

getting an education.

I want to end my relationship with my mother; however, she still has my mentally

challenged 19 year old brother (half brother) at home with her and she is my

only connection to him. My mom raised us as a single parent and I grew up as a

replacement parent for my brother--I think of him as my first child. I am very

concerned about his future and his care.

To make a long story short, my mother knows I want to be and should be his legal

guardian in case something would happen to her but hasn't lifted a finger to do

so.

I am looking for any advice or information on obtaining guardianship, partial

custody, any type of information on the rights of siblings.

I have made peace with my lack of a real mother but my brother is living in a

very unstable environment and will NEVER be able to leave the situation unless

someone steps up. She knows that I have to go through her to see him and she's

dangling it like a carrot. I need to take this power away from her and ensure

that I at least have a safety plan for my brother. They live in a different

state and he has no other stable relatives near him--he doesn't even know how to

call me on the phone.

I look forward to learning a lot through this group. Thanks for your time!

weezerannie

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the Group, Weezer.

I'm betting that some members here will probably have some first-hand experience

with your situation and can give you some good advice RE gaining legal custody

of your brother.

The only thing I can think of to offer is that this sounds like something you

need to consult a lawyer about; probably a family-law attorney. If your bpd

mother is unwilling to be cooperative and is balking at transferring custody to

you, then, I have a feeling its not going to be pretty.

Best of luck to you, I think its very noble and compassionate of you to want to

rescue your brother and give him a better life. I hope you can.

-Annie

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> I made the choice to start therapy this past year to figure out why things

were going so wrong with all my close relationships and surprise, surprise,

found out my mom is a textbook BP and everything in my life came into focus. I'm

sure it sounds familiar. I am a quarter of the way into Stop Walking on

Eggshells so I'm getting an education.

>

> I want to end my relationship with my mother; however, she still has my

mentally challenged 19 year old brother (half brother) at home with her and she

is my only connection to him. My mom raised us as a single parent and I grew up

as a replacement parent for my brother--I think of him as my first child. I am

very concerned about his future and his care.

>

> To make a long story short, my mother knows I want to be and should be his

legal guardian in case something would happen to her but hasn't lifted a finger

to do so.

>

> I am looking for any advice or information on obtaining guardianship, partial

custody, any type of information on the rights of siblings.

>

> I have made peace with my lack of a real mother but my brother is living in a

very unstable environment and will NEVER be able to leave the situation unless

someone steps up. She knows that I have to go through her to see him and she's

dangling it like a carrot. I need to take this power away from her and ensure

that I at least have a safety plan for my brother. They live in a different

state and he has no other stable relatives near him--he doesn't even know how to

call me on the phone.

>

> I look forward to learning a lot through this group. Thanks for your time!

weezerannie

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[Guest guest]

Thank you very much for the support. What I would like to see happen is getting

my brother into a good group facility so he can have some independence and so

mom and I can see him separately. There is no life for him with her. Recently

she tried to exploit him for money and I had to deal with that. If anyone knows

of a good family lawyer in NE pennsylvania I would appreciate it. Thanks

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> > I made the choice to start therapy this past year to figure out why things

were going so wrong with all my close relationships and surprise, surprise,

found out my mom is a textbook BP and everything in my life came into focus. I'm

sure it sounds familiar. I am a quarter of the way into Stop Walking on

Eggshells so I'm getting an education.

> >

> > I want to end my relationship with my mother; however, she still has my

mentally challenged 19 year old brother (half brother) at home with her and she

is my only connection to him. My mom raised us as a single parent and I grew up

as a replacement parent for my brother--I think of him as my first child. I am

very concerned about his future and his care.

> >

> > To make a long story short, my mother knows I want to be and should be his

legal guardian in case something would happen to her but hasn't lifted a finger

to do so.

> >

> > I am looking for any advice or information on obtaining guardianship,

partial custody, any type of information on the rights of siblings.

> >

> > I have made peace with my lack of a real mother but my brother is living in

a very unstable environment and will NEVER be able to leave the situation unless

someone steps up. She knows that I have to go through her to see him and she's

dangling it like a carrot. I need to take this power away from her and ensure

that I at least have a safety plan for my brother. They live in a different

state and he has no other stable relatives near him--he doesn't even know how to

call me on the phone.

> >

> > I look forward to learning a lot through this group. Thanks for your time!

weezerannie

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