Thanks

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Hi,

I appreciate this group. I've learned a lot in a short time. My mom has BPD,

is fanatically religious and has the tendency to be very judgemental. This

causes a lot of problems for me in that being religous and judgemental are

counterproductive. To me being religious means that you love a higher entity and

you don't judge others.

In growing up, I hated going to a place of worship because my mom believes in

appearances. I was always chastized because I moved around too much in church or

I wore the wrong clothes. I always felt she was putting on airs. I was treated

like was an extension of her, which was annoying. My mom was causing trouble

with other members and as a result, we could not really connect with the church

community because we would have change churches.

I really hated going to church and I never made an atttempt to find a church

home. Until today. I think it's because this group has alerted me to conflicts

in thought, like the conflict between being religious and judgemental. I

realized that I do have to look at the world that way. I went to church,

enjoyed myself and actually stayed for the entire service.

Thank you guys so much,

Sue