Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 I wanted to say to everyone (why am I apologizing?!), that part of my joy in being a part of this group is observing. I see so many fleas that I wasn't even aware of, but as you discuss them I see it clear as day....including my apologizing for just being mostly an observer here. I have learned a lot about myself. A lot. Has anyone found a consolidated list of fleas? A part of me is sickened when I realize a new flea or realize that I am flea-ridden. It makes me sad. It makes me sad, but also aware so that I can attempt to change. Latasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 A consolidated list of fleas is a good idea! I'd never thought of it but I think we all have a lot of fleas in common. My bi-polar son points out that I apologize for everything even if I was not responsible for whatever it is I'm apologizing for. I live with two mentally ill people fada who is bpd and my son who is bi-polar. I will take bi-polar any day, at least he takes his meds and sees a T and wants to get well. So apologizing for everything I'd put that as #1 on the list who wants to add #2? Kay > > I wanted to say to everyone (why am I apologizing?!), that part of my joy in being a part of this group is observing. I see so many fleas that I wasn't even aware of, but as you discuss them I see it clear as day....including my apologizing for just being mostly an observer here. I have learned a lot about myself. A lot. Has anyone found a consolidated list of fleas? A part of me is sickened when I realize a new flea or realize that I am flea-ridden. It makes me sad. It makes me sad, but also aware so that I can attempt to change. > > Latasha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 #2.. i used to be afraid.. of my own shadow even.. Â still have lots of fears.. ann Subject: Re: Being an observer To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Thursday, February 17, 2011, 9:04 PM Â A consolidated list of fleas is a good idea! I'd never thought of it but I think we all have a lot of fleas in common. My bi-polar son points out that I apologize for everything even if I was not responsible for whatever it is I'm apologizing for. I live with two mentally ill people fada who is bpd and my son who is bi-polar. I will take bi-polar any day, at least he takes his meds and sees a T and wants to get well. So apologizing for everything I'd put that as #1 on the list who wants to add #2? Kay > > I wanted to say to everyone (why am I apologizing?!), that part of my joy in being a part of this group is observing. I see so many fleas that I wasn't even aware of, but as you discuss them I see it clear as day....including my apologizing for just being mostly an observer here. I have learned a lot about myself. A lot. Has anyone found a consolidated list of fleas? A part of me is sickened when I realize a new flea or realize that I am flea-ridden. It makes me sad. It makes me sad, but also aware so that I can attempt to change. > > Latasha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 Jgar's post about mothers brought out another flea- 3. Having to justify or remind ourselves that what we suffered happened and that we aren't crazy.... Sometimes this happens... " maybe I just don't remember it correctly " ... " I was small. She might've just seemed imposing, because I was small " . Nada never owns up to anything. She now pulls out her Bible and makes it seem like we are demons accusing her of ???? Afterall, she sacrificed and made us who we are. *gag* And because I am so self-sufficient, responsible, smart all the other golden child characteristics/split good, everyone thinks she did a good job. Second *gag* -stepping off my cynical soapbox for the afternoon- Latasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 #4. Being overly concerned about what others think of you. My husband and I went out to eat and I asked for water with my meal and then half way through noticed I had only taken one sip. I started gulping at the water so the waitress wouldn't think I was a jerk for asking for water and then not drinking it, and then I had an aha moment and stopped myself. I keep reminding myself not to worry about what other people think of me. Kay > > Jgar's post about mothers brought out another flea- > > 3. Having to justify or remind ourselves that what we suffered happened and that we aren't crazy.... > > Sometimes this happens... " maybe I just don't remember it correctly " ... " I was small. She might've just seemed imposing, because I was small " . Nada never owns up to anything. She now pulls out her Bible and makes it seem like we are demons accusing her of ???? Afterall, she sacrificed and made us who we are. *gag* And because I am so self-sufficient, responsible, smart all the other golden child characteristics/split good, everyone thinks she did a good job. Second *gag* > > -stepping off my cynical soapbox for the afternoon- > > Latasha > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 19, 2011 Report Share Posted February 19, 2011 oh yessss, i remember saying to myself, 'oh no, this never really happened to me, i am just imagining it..' Â i had told myself a lie so many years that i half actually believed it.. was thinking i must be nuts to think this way, and yet, the truth, awful as it was has still won out and yes, it has set me free.. not free from the struggle or pains of life but free to be able to feel my own feelings and be my very own self!! and i count my blessings every day because of it.ann Subject: Re: Being an observer To: " WTOAdultChildren1 " <WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Friday, February 18, 2011, 3:23 PM Â Jgar's post about mothers brought out another flea- 3. Having to justify or remind ourselves that what we suffered happened and that we aren't crazy.... Sometimes this happens... " maybe I just don't remember it correctly " ... " I was small. She might've just seemed imposing, because I was small " . Nada never owns up to anything. She now pulls out her Bible and makes it seem like we are demons accusing her of ???? Afterall, she sacrificed and made us who we are. *gag* And because I am so self-sufficient, responsible, smart all the other golden child characteristics/split good, everyone thinks she did a good job. Second *gag* -stepping off my cynical soapbox for the afternoon- Latasha Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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