Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 Wow, T and I talked about so much tonight, and I actually left feeling like we got somewhere. We were focusing on how I judge myself, I'm so hard on myself, unforgiving, and I punish myself if I don't accomplish the things I want--down to the smallest things like doing the dishes. We believe this is connected to the lack of praise from my nada for any of my accomplishments. I mean, I was an accomplished musician and played 5 instruments, a talented dancer and choreographer who received several awards, a straight A AP student and straight A college student who graduated with honors. I run marathons and ride 200 mile bike rides and do things that are just way above average, but I honestly am not impressed or proud of myself at all. And that's because nada never cared no matter how well I did in anything. And when she does say the words: " I'm proud of you " I cringe with horror because it's so empty and false. I have a homework assignment for next week to write down 10 things I like about myself. And I'm supposed to think about how I feel while writing these things. I already hate this exercise. It was interesting the thing he said like " wow, imagine the things you could accomplish if you didn't punish yourself for not being perfect. " It was a good session. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 17, 2011 Report Share Posted February 17, 2011 great post!!.. oh yes, perfectionism.. alive an well in me. Â and a punishing spirit.. oh yes i have a punishing voice inside straight from her. Â and i live on to make some mistakes and still be gentle with myself. Â wow!!blessings to you,ann Subject: Learning to re-parent To: WTOAdultChildren1 Date: Thursday, February 17, 2011, 9:58 PM Â Wow, T and I talked about so much tonight, and I actually left feeling like we got somewhere. We were focusing on how I judge myself, I'm so hard on myself, unforgiving, and I punish myself if I don't accomplish the things I want--down to the smallest things like doing the dishes. We believe this is connected to the lack of praise from my nada for any of my accomplishments. I mean, I was an accomplished musician and played 5 instruments, a talented dancer and choreographer who received several awards, a straight A AP student and straight A college student who graduated with honors. I run marathons and ride 200 mile bike rides and do things that are just way above average, but I honestly am not impressed or proud of myself at all. And that's because nada never cared no matter how well I did in anything. And when she does say the words: " I'm proud of you " I cringe with horror because it's so empty and false. I have a homework assignment for next week to write down 10 things I like about myself. And I'm supposed to think about how I feel while writing these things. I already hate this exercise. It was interesting the thing he said like " wow, imagine the things you could accomplish if you didn't punish yourself for not being perfect. " It was a good session. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 18, 2011 Report Share Posted February 18, 2011 Oh - ditto ditto ditto Well, I don't like to run but other than that. . . . T and I have had very similar sessions. XOXO > > > great post!!.. oh yes, perfectionism.. alive an well in me. and a > punishing spirit.. oh yes i have a punishing voice inside straight from her. > and i live on to make some mistakes and still be gentle with myself. > wow!!blessings to you,ann > > > > > Subject: Learning to re-parent > To: WTOAdultChildren1 > Date: Thursday, February 17, 2011, 9:58 PM > > > > > Wow, T and I talked about so much tonight, and I actually left feeling like > we got somewhere. We were focusing on how I judge myself, I'm so hard on > myself, unforgiving, and I punish myself if I don't accomplish the things I > want--down to the smallest things like doing the dishes. We believe this is > connected to the lack of praise from my nada for any of my accomplishments. > I mean, I was an accomplished musician and played 5 instruments, a talented > dancer and choreographer who received several awards, a straight A AP > student and straight A college student who graduated with honors. I run > marathons and ride 200 mile bike rides and do things that are just way above > average, but I honestly am not impressed or proud of myself at all. And > that's because nada never cared no matter how well I did in anything. And > when she does say the words: " I'm proud of you " I cringe with horror because > it's so empty and false. > > I have a homework assignment for next week to write down 10 things I like > about myself. And I'm supposed to think about how I feel while writing these > things. I already hate this exercise. > > It was interesting the thing he said like " wow, imagine the things you > could accomplish if you didn't punish yourself for not being perfect. " > > It was a good session. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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