10 things I like about myself

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Girlscout, my nada was the worst stage mom. Vicariously living through me and

all my talents. Do you remember me saying on another thread that for my 16th

birthday she wanted to throw a surprise party and I wanted it to be about me and

have nothing but cake with my brothers? Yes, she pushed me to do many things

that she wasn't capable of, either because she wasn't smart enough or brave

enough, creative enough, or talented enough. I feel like most of my life, before

I turned maybe 25 was directed by her. That means only the last 5 years have

been mine! Ug, that makes me sad.

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cool.  go for it!!

Subject: Re: 10 things I like about myself

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Saturday, February 19, 2011, 5:01 PM

 

I don't think the problem is that you guys hate yourself. It's a matter of

creativity and vocabulary. We've been beaten into 'black and white feeling'

just like some people we know. Our feelings just don't flow about when we think

about ourselves. Try to remember what physical thing you did that made you have

any feeling at all. I used to love my legos. That makes me feel that I'm

creative. I love science fiction movies. That makes me feel inspired and

philosophical, etc. I love plaster sculpture. Makes me feel worldly, important

and perceptive. Don't have any other thought than that.

We feel like we're scamming ourselves if we aren't critical. Get used to the

feeling of defrauding yourself and after a while you forget it's a scam and it

becomes real. Takes practice.

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> > > I like that idea. It's really unfortunate I'm ambidextrous.

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> > >And you don't think being ambidextrous is a really neat and unique

characteristic that makes you, you. Put that on your list and while you're at

it, add that Kay likes your posts on WTO and thinks you write well. While

I'm at it, everyone of you who has posted you don't know what to write about

yourselves should add that to your lists, because all of you are on this site

and you are all expressing your situations with great eloquence. So all of you

add that to your list!

> > Okay, who else needs help finding good things about themselves? I'm open for

support. Folks this is an important exercise, it saved my life, my marriage and

my kids twenty-five years ago and taught me to like myself, and I want that for

all of you.

> > May we all continue to heal all of our lives.

> > Much love and support to all of you.

> > Kay

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[Guest guest]

Ann I love your list!

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> Subject: Re: 10 things I like about myself

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Saturday, February 19, 2011, 5:01 PM

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> I don't think the problem is that you guys hate yourself. It's a matter of

> creativity and vocabulary. We've been beaten into 'black and white feeling'

> just like some people we know. Our feelings just don't flow about when we

> think about ourselves. Try to remember what physical thing you did that made

> you have any feeling at all. I used to love my legos. That makes me feel

> that I'm creative. I love science fiction movies. That makes me feel

> inspired and philosophical, etc. I love plaster sculpture. Makes me feel

> worldly, important and perceptive. Don't have any other thought than that.

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> We feel like we're scamming ourselves if we aren't critical. Get used to

> the feeling of defrauding yourself and after a while you forget it's a scam

> and it becomes real. Takes practice.

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> > > > I like that idea. It's really unfortunate I'm ambidextrous.

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> > > >And you don't think being ambidextrous is a really neat and unique

> characteristic that makes you, you. Put that on your list and while you're

> at it, add that Kay likes your posts on WTO and thinks you write well.

> While I'm at it, everyone of you who has posted you don't know what to write

> about yourselves should add that to your lists, because all of you are on

> this site and you are all expressing your situations with great eloquence.

> So all of you add that to your list!

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> > > Okay, who else needs help finding good things about themselves? I'm

> open for support. Folks this is an important exercise, it saved my life, my

> marriage and my kids twenty-five years ago and taught me to like myself, and

> I want that for all of you.

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> > > May we all continue to heal all of our lives.

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> > > Much love and support to all of you.

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> > > Kay

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[Guest guest]

Maybe this one could go on others' lists as well: I never give up. Despite

overwhelming odds, I refuse to lay down in a ditch and die. I pick myself up and

keep trudging onward, no matter the obstacles, injuries, handicaps or sabatoge

that comes my way. I do not quit.

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> Subject: 10 things I like about myself

> To: WTOAdultChildren1

> Date: Friday, February 18, 2011, 2:00 PM

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> My T and I are working on teaching myself how to re-parent myself.

Apparently we or I have a good parent in my head and a bad parent. The bad

parent, spawning from my parents--specifically nada, is a perfectionist, far too

hard on me, punishes me cruelly, and sabotages me. The good parent is

supportive, encouraging, positive, but very very weak in comparison to the bad

parent voice in my head. So I have been charged by T to make a list of 10 things

I like about myself. You would think this would be easy. In fact, I thought it

WOULD be easy. But everytime I start to write down something I like, I'm able,

even before I write it to find a reason to dislike that quality or ability and

dismiss it or even find myself hating it. Or if there is something that I like

about myself I find myself angry at myself for liking something about myself.

Like I'm angry at myself for being so conceited or self-centered that I like

something about myself. I know this is

> truly warped thinking. Even as a write it and think about it here I know that

I have to silence these negative thoughts. But it's very hard to do that.

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> So I'm going to work on my list here...anyone else who wants to work on it

with me is free to join a long.

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