Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and had 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed with a couple who were friends. A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly she bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in prison. Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. The thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality review team. I had no idea I was abused too. Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for themselves? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 Hugs.... I used to work in social services and came across this stuff all the time... I didn't know I was abused either. About 5 years ago I started to wonder if I had been. December 2007 I got my answer. The world hasn't looked the same ever since. I 'hear' you. LYnnette > > Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. > > Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and had > 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad > stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed with a > couple who were friends. > > A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly she > bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the > autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in prison. > Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. > > I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. The > thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality review > team. I had no idea I was abused too. > > Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and > reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to > understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for > themselves? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 That is so incredibly sad; another innocent little life snuffed out, killed by mentally ill and/or possibly alcohol-addled or drugged-up adults who are supposedly her caregivers. So, its the dead child's bio-mom whom they suspect of beating her to death, or is it the man whose home she was staying in, or both? To me, the bigger question is how is it that the WIFE of the guy whose home the bio-mom and child were living in saw nothing and heard nothing? How is it that this child's daddy abandoned her to the care of someone who was likely to beat her to death, or allow her to be around those who were likely to beat her to death? Mentally ill people shouldn't be around children, let alone be given the responsibility of raising them; so me personally, I place the larger share of the blame on the non-mentally-ill spouses and/or family members. -Annie > > Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. > > Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and had > 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad > stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed with a > couple who were friends. > > A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly she > bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the > autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in prison. > Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. > > I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. The > thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality review > team. I had no idea I was abused too. > > Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and > reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to > understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for > themselves? > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 So, so sad. I think part of the " reason " people do these things and think they are " ok " is because what was done to them was often " so much worse. " As in, " I've never threatened you with a gun or broken your nose like my father did to me. You don't know what abuse IS! " Thanks for the insight, Nada. So glad to know that as long as weaponry and broken bones aren't involved Im not being abused. And I totally agree with Annie - the non-ill spouse is equally if not more to blame. Of course, in my family I got a mentally ill parent as well as a personality disordered one and I think that happens a lot. Anyway, poor poor little baby. So very very tragic. > > > > Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. > > > > Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and had > > 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad > > stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed with a > > couple who were friends. > > > > A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly she > > bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the > > autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in prison. > > Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. > > > > I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. The > > thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality review > > team. I had no idea I was abused too. > > > > Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and > > reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to > > understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for > > themselves? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 I struggle with this, " How is it that this child's daddy abandoned her to the care of someone who was likely to beat her to death, or allow her to be around those who were likely to beat her to death? Mentally ill people shouldn't be around children, let alone be given the responsibility of raising them; so me personally, I place the larger share of the blame on the non-mentally-ill spouses and/or family members.' EVERY SINGLE DAY! And thank God every single day that step dad stepped up and in - regardless of what Nada did to him pre/during/post marriage.... because bio dad was a chicken and abandoned me. Permanently. Lynnette > > > > Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. > > > > Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and had > > 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad > > stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed with a > > couple who were friends. > > > > A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly she > > bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the > > autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in prison. > > Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. > > > > I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. The > > thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality review > > team. I had no idea I was abused too. > > > > Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and > > reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to > > understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for > > themselves? > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 20, 2011 Report Share Posted February 20, 2011 Oh Lynnette, it gets worse - the dad is still defending the mom to the hilt, saying she and the family friend didn't do it and it was a blood disorder. Here's the full article: http://www.cityweekly.net/utah/article-13301-sex-death-and-videotape-the-death-o\ f-rebecca-bluff.html On Sun, Feb 20, 2011 at 3:27 PM, yp_lynnette_cameron_park < h_l_maston@...> wrote: > > > I struggle with this, > > > " How is it that this child's daddy abandoned her to the care of someone who > was likely to beat her to death, or allow her to be around those who were > likely to beat her to death? > > Mentally ill people shouldn't be around children, let alone be given the > responsibility of raising them; so me personally, I place the larger share > of the blame on the non-mentally-ill spouses and/or family members.' > > EVERY SINGLE DAY! > > And thank God every single day that step dad stepped up and in - regardless > of what Nada did to him pre/during/post marriage.... because bio dad was a > chicken and abandoned me. Permanently. > > Lynnette > > > > > > > > > Reporters in my area are doing investigative stories on another case. > > > > > > Essentially, a young, Mormon-sounding couple got married very young and > had > > > 2 daughters. When the oldest daughter was age 4 they split up. The dad > > > stayed in Canada, the mom took the daughters back to Utah and stayed > with a > > > couple who were friends. > > > > > > A few weeks later, the 4 year old was dead. Essentially beaten so badly > she > > > bleed to death from bruises. I knew the medical examiner who did the > > > autopsy. The mom and the man in the couple she stayed with are in > prison. > > > Sex toys and an S and M video tape are in evidence. > > > > > > I don't know what to say think or do about this. My mind is just blown. > The > > > thing is, back when i was a muggle, I worked on the child fatality > review > > > team. I had no idea I was abused too. > > > > > > Who does this shit and how do they think it is okay? I'm reading and > > > reading and reading but I don't know where to put my feelings or how to > > > understand. Is it just that some people can't take responsability for > > > themselves? > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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