Today's mail brought more joy via Nada's irresponsibility.

[Guest guest]

,that is a brilliant suggestion! Lynnette, I'd be furious too - there's

not excuse in the world that makes what your nada is doing okay. You could

probably even take her to civil court over this.

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> Because you have her current address, why don't you file a change of address

form from your address to that address just for her. The mail will stop coming

to you and start going to her, plus the post office notifies the social security

administration and DMV etc. ( we moved four years ago and were pleasantly

surprised by how easy they made the address change.)

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> Sent from my blueberry.

[Guest guest]

Ha ha ha Damn the Torpedos! You are so funny Doug!

So this situation - with calling the debt collectors and what they are going

to say - reminds me of my " sister-in-law " stalking me. I'd never heard her

name, never met her, didn't go to her wedding, didn't get an invite, didn't

know my brother got married, didn't care, haven't seen or spoken to my

brother in in more than 8 years. All of a sudden, someone with a long,

hyphenated name with my last name woven in is sending me hate mail about

what a shitty daughter I am and how my mother deserves better!!!!!!! I

called the cops of course. The weird thing is, the cop was like " This is

your sister-in-law doing this. " Me - " She may or may not be my sister-in-law

technically, but I've never met her so I wouldn't know. What IS true is that

a total stranger is sending me hate mail and I need you to tell her to

stop. " Cop - " But this is your relative, a member of your family. " Me -

" No, this is a total stranger, I've never seen her face, heard her voice or

shaken her hand. " Cop - " But you do realize this is your sister-in-law. " Me

- " That may technically be true, but it is also possible for someone to be a

relative by marriage and also be a total, complete, and utter stranger. "

And on and on it went. Looking back, I'm pretty damn proud of myself for

holding my ground. I wonder if he needed to classify it under family and

domestic abuse for the investigation or something, but it felt like he was

saying it was okay for a relative to act that way.

So anyway, my point is, Lynnette, when you call the cops or whatever, say

yes this is my biological mother, but she is also doing something illegal

and then stick with it.

XOXO

On Wed, Feb 23, 2011 at 1:37 AM, climberkayak wrote:

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> ,that is a brilliant suggestion! Lynnette, I'd be furious too -

> there's not excuse in the world that makes what your nada is doing okay. You

> could probably even take her to civil court over this.

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> > Because you have her current address, why don't you file a change of

> address form from your address to that address just for her. The mail will

> stop coming to you and start going to her, plus the post office notifies the

> social security administration and DMV etc. ( we moved four years ago and

> were pleasantly surprised by how easy they made the address change.)

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> > Sent from my blueberry.

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[Guest guest]

Dear Lynette

Thanks for posting this thread - it gave me the courage to open NADA FADAs mail

today....

Contents : One letter from the tax office issuing a declaration to allow them

to NOT PAY CAPITAL gains tax as they are APPARENTLY NOT RESIDENT in UK....

: TWO letters from the Pension Office advising that now that they ARE RESIDENT

IN THE UK their pensions will increase ????

So now I am confused as to whether they are :

a)wilfully committing fraud using my address

planning to return to live here ( PLEASE GOD NO!!!!)

c)forgetful? (Please can it be option c!!!)

I now have to read over Lynnettes answers again to see what I should do. I

deliberately ripped the envelopes so they would find out I had opened them. Am

trying to be dangerously BRAVE!!!