Need help with Will/Estate

[Guest guest]

Dear Friends,

A pal of mine with NPD mom/BPD dad suspects he is being shut out of his

grandfather's will. The grandad died in 2009 in Nassau County (Long Island) New

York. Is there any way he can get a copy of the will from someone other than the

family lawyer or family members? Would it be on file with the county?

All suggestions welcome. Thank you.

AFB

[Guest guest]

SFB:

Regarding access to a will, I know in is some states, if the decedent has a

secured box in a bank where the will is located, anybody who is a possible

beneficiary to the will can get a judge to order the box opened. Not sure about

NY, but my guess is if you do a little digging (everything is online these days)

you might find similar provisions for NY beneficiaries. Even if the estate is

small, somebody needs to turn the will over to a judge. I am guessing you just

need to find out where the probate court is in Nassau County and call them and

ask the clerk what the procedure is for people who want to file a claim. Am sure

they are going to want to verify the facts with some evidence of the

relationship. Good luck!

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Wed, February 23, 2011 12:42:55 PM

Subject: Need help with Will/Estate

Dear Friends,

A pal of mine with NPD mom/BPD dad suspects he is being shut out of his

grandfather's will. The grandad died in 2009 in Nassau County (Long Island) New

York. Is there any way he can get a copy of the will from someone other than the

family lawyer or family members? Would it be on file with the county?

All suggestions welcome. Thank you.

AFB

[Guest guest]

Hi AFB,

As the current executor of a will (in VA not NY), I can tell you a little bit

from my experience.

First of all, does your friend think he was included in the will but has not

received/will not receive what was due to him? If so, there is definitely

recourse he can take.

If your friend thinks his grandfather was manipulated into not including him in

the will, that is more difficult to prove.

If the will was probated, your friend should be able to contact the local court

and get a copy of the will since they are public documents (unless the assets

were placed in a trust).

However, I think there are usually deadlines for making claims on probated

wills, so tell your friend to contact the court ASAP.

Also, depending on the state, he may not be entitled to anything if the children

of the deceased are still alive.

Let me know if you have other questions. I'm not a professional but I've done a

lot of research on this stuff since I'm the executor of my grandmother's estate.

-J

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> Dear Friends,

> A pal of mine with NPD mom/BPD dad suspects he is being shut out of his

grandfather's will. The grandad died in 2009 in Nassau County (Long Island) New

York. Is there any way he can get a copy of the will from someone other than the

family lawyer or family members? Would it be on file with the county?

>

> All suggestions welcome. Thank you.

> AFB

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks so much J, this is very helpful. The situation is that there are a few

items that his mother and aunt have admitted are coming to him, but they are

" too busy " or it's " not convenient " to give to him. Whether these items were

actually stipulated in the will has not been revealed. Both nada and sister are

verrrry careful with revealing information. What is known is that my pal was

close to his grandfather and had been verbally promised items. A painting, which

is now in his possession, was in dispute because the sister wanted to remove the

frame of the picture and keep it before giving the actual picture. Hearing of

this, my alarm bells went off. It is common knowledge that each sister just

received somewhere in the range of $400,000 from the sale of grandpa's house. I

also think it's unusual for a grandfather to stipulate a will and only mention

his two daughters and none of his grandchildren in it.

AFB