Why is it so hard to stay on Board? (Pun is intended!) :)

[Guest guest]

Everyone,

I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like to

take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again. Sometimes I

think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some things can

trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to read the recent

topics.

Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really bad,

I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just wanted to

thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk. The

discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so incredibly

needed.

I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not... anyone

agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??... whereas,

if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope with.

Thoughts...?

- Cvidz.

[Guest guest]

Don't feel bad - we all tune in and out from time to time.

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>

> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like

> to take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again.

> Sometimes I think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some

> things can trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to

> read the recent topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really

> bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just

> wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk.

> The discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

> incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

> anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

> everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??...

> whereas, if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope

> with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Well, the board is a support group, so it's a safe place to vent & get

advice as well as realize you're not alone by reading others' posts & giving

advice back, so it has a very nice therapeutic effect =)

It can be hard to get on and check it as regularly as we'd like when we have

a lot going on too. I love love love the group but it will be much more

difficult for me to check in as regularly as I like to with school starting

back up for me next week. But, I plan to check in and read when I can =)

I'll probably miss lots of stuff though =(

Don't sweat it if you can't be on every day, week, whatever. Trust me, I

think we'll all understand that life is what it is... BUSY! =)

Mia

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>

> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like

> to take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again.

> Sometimes I think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some

> things can trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to

> read the recent topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really

> bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just

> wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk.

> The discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

> incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

> anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

> everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??...

> whereas, if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope

> with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Truly, there are no " shoulds " or " oughts " about how often to visit, read or post

here. Its simply about what works best for you. What helps most with your

healing, peace of mind, etc.? You're the only one who can answer that question.

(I read and/or post virtually every day; that may not work for most people but

its what I need right now.)

-Annie

>

> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like to

take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again. Sometimes I

think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some things can

trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to read the recent

topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really

bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just

wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk. The

discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??... whereas,

if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>

[Guest guest]

True, true... we're all busy. I guess there is no correct amount of time to

spend on here--whatever works best for different schedules, situations etc. I

think I just realized that it's more " therapeutic " (good word choice!) and

helpful for me rather than something to be avoided.

Many thanks!!

All the best

- Cvidz

>

> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like to

take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again. Sometimes I

think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some things can

trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to read the recent

topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really

bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just

wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk. The

discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??... whereas,

if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>

[Guest guest]

I don't tend to be superstitious, but when it comes to astrological signs I

guess this is where I really am a Libra... I like balance! lol. So I think

the trick is going to be trying to keep things in balance without getting

overwhelmed. I obviously won't be able to check in every day as I have in

the past, but why not once or twice a week? Or if I can't for a whole

week... well, I can't. It's ok.

Hopefully both of us can figure out that balance so we can continue to give

& receive support as well as keep up with a hectic busy life =) Because I

agree, it is helpful to be here. And to top it off, it's a great bunch of

people and I consider them friends & my " KO family " (as someone else said

hehe).

Mia

>

>

> True, true... we're all busy. I guess there is no correct amount of time to

> spend on here--whatever works best for different schedules, situations etc.

> I think I just realized that it's more " therapeutic " (good word choice!) and

> helpful for me rather than something to be avoided.

>

> Many thanks!!

>

> All the best

>

> - Cvidz

>

>

> >

> > Everyone,

> >

> > I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I

> like to take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again.

> Sometimes I think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some

> things can trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to

> read the recent topics.

> >

> > Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel

> really bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but

> I just wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to

> talk. The discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

> >

> > The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

> incredibly needed.

> >

> > I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

> anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

> everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??...

> whereas, if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope

> with.

> >

> > Thoughts...?

> >

> > - Cvidz.

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Life happens. There are times I am so busy I can t get on for a bit.

Then there was the period recently where depression was killing me and

it was hard to do.

And yes, it can be intense, because our BP parents were so intense.

Think of this as an oasis of cool waters in a turbulent desert. Friends

gather in the cool to rest and refresh. Sometimes, one of us is able to

cup his hand and hold a cool drink up to parched lips.

But no obligations to come, no fear you will be rejected if you are away

for a while, and no guilt that you don t solve every problem every time.

Homey don t DO FOG!

Doug

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> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I

like to take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and

again. Sometimes I think it's too hard to come on and read the

posts--because some things can trigger the memory--but days like

today... it's so validating to read the recent topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel

really bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others,

but I just wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and

WILLING to talk. The discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than

not... anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here

and " forget " everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it

even MORE??... whereas, if I get on the board, it then seems much, much

easier to cope with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>

[Guest guest]

Hi,

Yes, I think that's the nature of this board and completely ok - that we're

dealing with a lot of pain and it makes sense to take a break when it's too

much.

I have done that for sure; sometimes I just don't want to think about it anymore

and come back when I'm feeling ready for it.

I think it's good to be honest about that. I also think the other thing that's

so fantastic about this board is that there isn't any guilt or obligation -- we

of all people certainly don't need more of that. It's almost an unspoken policy

- " come or go; you're always welcome to come or go, and accepted as you are. "

Fiona

>

> Everyone,

>

> I haven't been on this board in a few months, I think. It seems that I like to

take a " leave of absence " and only come through every now and again. Sometimes I

think it's too hard to come on and read the posts--because some things can

trigger the memory--but days like today... it's so validating to read the recent

topics.

>

> Does anyone else come and go every few months or week or so? I feel really

bad, I know I should contribute more and try to help out others, but I just

wanted to thank everyone for being HERE and being OPEN and WILLING to talk. The

discussions and discussion topics are very helpful.

>

> The validation that what we went through was not our faults is so, so

incredibly needed.

>

> I think stopping by more often would actually be more helpful than not...

anyone agree or disagree? Sometimes I'd rather try and sit here and " forget "

everything... but sometimes that makes me think about it even MORE??... whereas,

if I get on the board, it then seems much, much easier to cope with.

>

> Thoughts...?

>

> - Cvidz.

>