sad but funny too

[Guest guest]

As I have mentioned before, my fiance's ex is likely BPD. Tonight when we

took the kids back, she pulled him in the other room to talk to him. He

told me what she said later and it is sad & funny...

My 11 year old step daughter will be in middle school next year, so she &

her mother (the likely BPD) went to a meeting at the school. I guess

afterwards, her mom said they could go grab something to eat and that she

was in the mood for Chinese food. Step daughter said, " We get Chinese food

a lot with daddy, can we get something else? " Her mom said, " Well, I don't

get it very often " . Step daughter looked at her & said, " Well maybe if you

were nicer to daddy he'd invite you " .

I just about fell over when fiance told me that. Step daughter is a very

bright girl, and yes, she is all ready picking up on her mother's behavior

towards my fiance. Good grief. Like I said, sad and funny.

How could she not pick up on it? After a text message argument fiance & the

kids' mother got into one night, the next day step daughter stayed home from

school. When fiance asked why, he was told by his ex mother in law, " Step

daughter was so upset after hearing you and her mother argue last night " .

Funny how she can HEAR an argument in text message.

Anyway, BM (baby momma, as I call their mom) asked fiance if we were

badmouthing her in front of the kids. Absolutely NOT. I wouldn't do that

because as a child of divorce I know how awful it made me feel when my

parents & step parents did that to me. I suspected if step daughter " heard "

that argument that BM was likely ranting & raving about it (how else would

the kiddo know?). So I think BM's got it backwards.

It's ok though. Her daughter's picking up on it. That's to me all that

counts. We won't bad mouth BM, she does a good enough job of making herself

look bad.

Mia

[Guest guest]

And yes, I 'LOLed " when fiance told me what step daughter said to BM!

Mia