My daughter is what matters

[Guest guest]

Recently my father died. My nada wants a relationship after years of rejecting

me and my family. this has been driving me crazy of late, although I recently

wrote her a letter that I am at peace with in terms of it being as good as it

can be under the usual catch-22 situation that is created by a nada bpd mom.

i have been suffering about this, but you know what? It is not that important

compared to my little 9 year old daughter. she has some protein in her urine in

addition to a bit of blood, and this has been progressing gradually. It may not

be something serious, or it may be, a specialist will have to tell us. Now THAT

is something important to put my energy into, making sure that the outcome of

this is as good as it can be under the circumstances. the other stuff is not

worth sinking my energy into.

!!!

Carolyn

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Sending you positive thoughts and vibes. I am so sorry to hear about your

daughter. I will be praying that it is nothing serious. It is amazing how our

own daughters give us the strength to do the things we could not before. My

daughter is my everything and I can remember a time when she was very sick and

nothing else in the world mattered. She is healthy now, but it is because of her

that I have the strength to have NC with nada. Even with a healthy child, the

drama our nadas causes can be overwhelming. (((HUGS))) to you and your little

girl.

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> Recently my father died. My nada wants a relationship after years of rejecting

me and my family. this has been driving me crazy of late, although I recently

wrote her a letter that I am at peace with in terms of it being as good as it

can be under the usual catch-22 situation that is created by a nada bpd mom.

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> i have been suffering about this, but you know what? It is not that important

compared to my little 9 year old daughter. she has some protein in her urine in

addition to a bit of blood, and this has been progressing gradually. It may not

be something serious, or it may be, a specialist will have to tell us. Now THAT

is something important to put my energy into, making sure that the outcome of

this is as good as it can be under the circumstances. the other stuff is not

worth sinking my energy into.

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> !!!

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> Carolyn

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[Guest guest]

Hi Carolyn,

So sorry for what your daughter is going through. And I know how scary it is,

the whole wait-and-see of medical issues. You are spot-on, though. Your

daughter comes first and needs you most.

I avoid telling my mother things like this (not that I am suggesting you do the

same) b/c she usually starts off with " WHATT?????? is she ok?????? oh my God,

you gave me a heart attack. what does the dr say? I bet you're not asking

everything you should. blab blab blab.... "

Best wishes to your little one. I have a friend whose daughter also had protein

in her urine and it eventually did clear up. I think she had to change her diet

a bit.

Keep us in the loop!

Fiona

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> Recently my father died. My nada wants a relationship after years of rejecting

me and my family. this has been driving me crazy of late, although I recently

wrote her a letter that I am at peace with in terms of it being as good as it

can be under the usual catch-22 situation that is created by a nada bpd mom.

>

> i have been suffering about this, but you know what? It is not that important

compared to my little 9 year old daughter. she has some protein in her urine in

addition to a bit of blood, and this has been progressing gradually. It may not

be something serious, or it may be, a specialist will have to tell us. Now THAT

is something important to put my energy into, making sure that the outcome of

this is as good as it can be under the circumstances. the other stuff is not

worth sinking my energy into.

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> !!!

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> Carolyn

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