Neighbors Visit to Nada and Latest

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Becky and her husband visited nada last night. Becky was VERY upset and

crying when she called me. Nada is definitely dying and has very little time

left (though except for the hospice social worker no one is telling me that

with certainty). She isn't able to eat anymore and seldom drinks - only sips.

She isn't urinating or defecating of course (nothing in - nothing out). She

isn't speaking hardly at all now and is sleeping most of the time, but will

acknowledge you by looking at you if you say her name for one minute or less and

then nods off to sleep again. Otherwise no.

Her gangrene has gotten much worse and I was told yesterday it is 'a very

aggressive form of gangrene and unless amputation is done NOW, that's it' by the

social worker saying she has less than a week left. I still feel I am doing the

right thing with no amputation because as her doctor said she will not make it

through any surgery (she told me that months ago saying if she ever FELL that

would be it let alone this with all these added problems).

Becky the neighbor said nada had asked her if she wanted anything to eat or

drink and there is nothing in the room! Becky also said that nada at one point

looked up towards the ceiling and put her arms up as if she were reaching for

someone to hug them. I believe her mother or my Uncle , but I can't be

sure of that of course but she was smiling at whoever it was and dozed off

again.

She is on oxygen but keeps pulling it off and they said they can't force her to

keep it on. The oxygen level in her is 'below 80' and requires it but she isn't

having difficulty breathing. I have no idea what that means since I always

equated oxygen with difficulty breathing.

I feel she has one to two days left, but I might be wrong. Who knows but if

you're not eating and hardly drinking and in that condition, the end is very,

very, very close. Her doctor is off on Fridays but was texted a pic of her

gangrened foot by the hospice head nurse in the office Ellen yesterday. So I

can't talk to her until Monday which is a shame.

Yes I want her to go in peace now and not suffer any more. I was crying about

that. Despite my abusive childhood at her hands and her verbal abuses up until

very recently when all this started, she is still my mother and yes that's

cliche and I hate that coming from other people but it is true, isn't it. I

have to remember the good times which can only be viewed as precious jewels

because they were so few really as I look back.

Well that's the latest. Thanks to all who suffer through my long blogs with me

and for caring.

[Guest guest]

Hugs

>

>

> Becky and her husband visited nada last night. Becky was VERY upset

> and crying when she called me. Nada is definitely dying and has very little

> time left (though except for the hospice social worker no one is telling me

> that with certainty). She isn't able to eat anymore and seldom drinks - only

> sips. She isn't urinating or defecating of course (nothing in - nothing

> out). She isn't speaking hardly at all now and is sleeping most of the time,

> but will acknowledge you by looking at you if you say her name for one

> minute or less and then nods off to sleep again. Otherwise no.

>

> Her gangrene has gotten much worse and I was told yesterday it is 'a very

> aggressive form of gangrene and unless amputation is done NOW, that's it' by

> the social worker saying she has less than a week left. I still feel I am

> doing the right thing with no amputation because as her doctor said she will

> not make it through any surgery (she told me that months ago saying if she

> ever FELL that would be it let alone this with all these added problems).

>

> Becky the neighbor said nada had asked her if she wanted anything to eat or

> drink and there is nothing in the room! Becky also said that nada at one

> point looked up towards the ceiling and put her arms up as if she were

> reaching for someone to hug them. I believe her mother or my Uncle ,

> but I can't be sure of that of course but she was smiling at whoever it was

> and dozed off again.

>

> She is on oxygen but keeps pulling it off and they said they can't force

> her to keep it on. The oxygen level in her is 'below 80' and requires it but

> she isn't having difficulty breathing. I have no idea what that means since

> I always equated oxygen with difficulty breathing.

>

> I feel she has one to two days left, but I might be wrong. Who knows but if

> you're not eating and hardly drinking and in that condition, the end is

> very, very, very close. Her doctor is off on Fridays but was texted a pic of

> her gangrened foot by the hospice head nurse in the office Ellen yesterday.

> So I can't talk to her until Monday which is a shame.

>

> Yes I want her to go in peace now and not suffer any more. I was crying

> about that. Despite my abusive childhood at her hands and her verbal abuses

> up until very recently when all this started, she is still my mother and yes

> that's cliche and I hate that coming from other people but it is true, isn't

> it. I have to remember the good times which can only be viewed as precious

> jewels because they were so few really as I look back.

>

> Well that's the latest. Thanks to all who suffer through my long blogs with

> me and for caring.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

(((hugs))) It reminds me of my husband's grandmother. She died at home too.

Prayers that she go in peace.

On Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 7:46 AM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

> Hugs

>

> On Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 5:42 AM, Romantic Libra

> wrote:

>

> >

> >

> > Becky and her husband visited nada last night. Becky was VERY

> upset

> > and crying when she called me. Nada is definitely dying and has very

> little

> > time left (though except for the hospice social worker no one is telling

> me

> > that with certainty). She isn't able to eat anymore and seldom drinks -

> only

> > sips. She isn't urinating or defecating of course (nothing in - nothing

> > out). She isn't speaking hardly at all now and is sleeping most of the

> time,

> > but will acknowledge you by looking at you if you say her name for one

> > minute or less and then nods off to sleep again. Otherwise no.

> >

> > Her gangrene has gotten much worse and I was told yesterday it is 'a very

> > aggressive form of gangrene and unless amputation is done NOW, that's it'

> by

> > the social worker saying she has less than a week left. I still feel I am

> > doing the right thing with no amputation because as her doctor said she

> will

> > not make it through any surgery (she told me that months ago saying if

> she

> > ever FELL that would be it let alone this with all these added problems).

> >

> > Becky the neighbor said nada had asked her if she wanted anything to eat

> or

> > drink and there is nothing in the room! Becky also said that nada at one

> > point looked up towards the ceiling and put her arms up as if she were

> > reaching for someone to hug them. I believe her mother or my Uncle ,

> > but I can't be sure of that of course but she was smiling at whoever it

> was

> > and dozed off again.

> >

> > She is on oxygen but keeps pulling it off and they said they can't force

> > her to keep it on. The oxygen level in her is 'below 80' and requires it

> but

> > she isn't having difficulty breathing. I have no idea what that means

> since

> > I always equated oxygen with difficulty breathing.

> >

> > I feel she has one to two days left, but I might be wrong. Who knows but

> if

> > you're not eating and hardly drinking and in that condition, the end is

> > very, very, very close. Her doctor is off on Fridays but was texted a pic

> of

> > her gangrened foot by the hospice head nurse in the office Ellen

> yesterday.

> > So I can't talk to her until Monday which is a shame.

> >

> > Yes I want her to go in peace now and not suffer any more. I was crying

> > about that. Despite my abusive childhood at her hands and her verbal

> abuses

> > up until very recently when all this started, she is still my mother and

> yes

> > that's cliche and I hate that coming from other people but it is true,

> isn't

> > it. I have to remember the good times which can only be viewed as

> precious

> > jewels because they were so few really as I look back.

> >

> > Well that's the latest. Thanks to all who suffer through my long blogs

> with

> > me and for caring.

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

((((Marilyn)))) I'm sorry this is hard and drawn out of your mother and for you.

Remember to take special care of yourself during this time - eating some good

food, trying to get enough rest though those things probably feel unimportant

now.

>

> Becky and her husband visited nada last night. Becky was VERY upset

and crying when she called me. Nada is definitely dying and has very little

time left (though except for the hospice social worker no one is telling me

that with certainty). She isn't able to eat anymore and seldom drinks - only

sips. She isn't urinating or defecating of course (nothing in - nothing out).

She isn't speaking hardly at all now and is sleeping most of the time, but will

acknowledge you by looking at you if you say her name for one minute or less and

then nods off to sleep again. Otherwise no.

>

> Her gangrene has gotten much worse and I was told yesterday it is 'a very

aggressive form of gangrene and unless amputation is done NOW, that's it' by the

social worker saying she has less than a week left. I still feel I am doing the

right thing with no amputation because as her doctor said she will not make it

through any surgery (she told me that months ago saying if she ever FELL that

would be it let alone this with all these added problems).

>

> Becky the neighbor said nada had asked her if she wanted anything to eat or

drink and there is nothing in the room! Becky also said that nada at one point

looked up towards the ceiling and put her arms up as if she were reaching for

someone to hug them. I believe her mother or my Uncle , but I can't be

sure of that of course but she was smiling at whoever it was and dozed off

again.

>

> She is on oxygen but keeps pulling it off and they said they can't force her

to keep it on. The oxygen level in her is 'below 80' and requires it but she

isn't having difficulty breathing. I have no idea what that means since I

always equated oxygen with difficulty breathing.

>

> I feel she has one to two days left, but I might be wrong. Who knows but if

you're not eating and hardly drinking and in that condition, the end is very,

very, very close. Her doctor is off on Fridays but was texted a pic of her

gangrened foot by the hospice head nurse in the office Ellen yesterday. So I

can't talk to her until Monday which is a shame.

>

> Yes I want her to go in peace now and not suffer any more. I was crying about

that. Despite my abusive childhood at her hands and her verbal abuses up until

very recently when all this started, she is still my mother and yes that's

cliche and I hate that coming from other people but it is true, isn't it. I

have to remember the good times which can only be viewed as precious jewels

because they were so few really as I look back.

>

> Well that's the latest. Thanks to all who suffer through my long blogs with

me and for caring.

>