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Guest guest Posted March 12, 2011 Report Share Posted March 12, 2011 That is an excellent article, really very thorough and well -researched, seems to me. I'm one of those the article mentions who has " hyper-clear " and detailed memories of most of the abusive episodes and dealt with it by dissociating from my feelings. (The other route for abused children is to entirely dissociate from remembering that any abuse even occurred. They are both protective mechanisms.) I was chronically emotionally and physically abused by my nada and even quasi-sexually abused by her, and became enmeshed with /subjugated to my abuser, emotionally numb and emotionally immature as a result. I consciously did not want to grow up. I cried so hard when I got my first period; it meant I was turning into an adult woman like my nada. So I self-isolated and avoided adult intimacy, even though I was good at my work and could get along with people I worked with OK. Friendly, but not intimate. Its like the author of the article was taking notes of my life, in that respect! Thanks for sharing the link. Also RE your other post titled " bummer " : I'm sorry about your not getting accepted into the grad program you were hoping to get into, but I think your alternative plans sound very workable and positive! You can weather this disappointment, you're a strong, capable woman and a setback like this won't stop you. There is more than one road to success. We're rooting for you! -Annie > > http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/ > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 13, 2011 Report Share Posted March 13, 2011 Oh thanks Annie, yeah, I'll figure out the school thing. Continuing long term with what I'm doing career wise isn't going to happen. . . I need more responsibility, I'm bored, the people are unkind to me, and I'm ready to move on to a more interesting challenge - with less abuse from the alpha dogs and with more control over my life. About the article - it seriously took me several days to get through the whole thing. It was so so so spot on for my experiences - esp the clear, clinical, emotionless memories of what happened. Kinda difficult to let all that info into my brain at once. Hugs, have a great Sunday. On Sat, Mar 12, 2011 at 7:48 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > That is an excellent article, really very thorough and well -researched, > seems to me. I'm one of those the article mentions who has " hyper-clear " and > detailed memories of most of the abusive episodes and dealt with it by > dissociating from my feelings. (The other route for abused children is to > entirely dissociate from remembering that any abuse even occurred. They are > both protective mechanisms.) > > I was chronically emotionally and physically abused by my nada and even > quasi-sexually abused by her, and became enmeshed with /subjugated to my > abuser, emotionally numb and emotionally immature as a result. > > I consciously did not want to grow up. I cried so hard when I got my first > period; it meant I was turning into an adult woman like my nada. So I > self-isolated and avoided adult intimacy, even though I was good at my work > and could get along with people I worked with OK. Friendly, but not > intimate. Its like the author of the article was taking notes of my life, in > that respect! Thanks for sharing the link. > > Also RE your other post titled " bummer " : I'm sorry about your not getting > accepted into the grad program you were hoping to get into, but I think your > alternative plans sound very workable and positive! You can weather this > disappointment, you're a strong, capable woman and a setback like this won't > stop you. There is more than one road to success. We're rooting for you! > > -Annie > > > > > > http://adultsurvivors.blogspot.com/ > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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