Choosing the spouse over the child

[Guest guest]

So back in the day when I was married in my early 20s, my parents loved

loved loved my ex.

And my dad would say 2 or 3 times every time I saw him:

" Wow, if you two broke up, I think I'd rather stay close to son-in-law than

Girlscout. I like you a lot better son-in-law. "

Seriously he said this all the time.

And my marriage was deeply troubled. And it really hurt me.

And then we split up - and as a result of that split I no longer have a

relationship with my father.

I don't know what to think of that .Something someone else wrote just

reminded me.

[Guest guest]

Hm, funny because nada first had reservations about my now ex hubby because

he was 15 years older than me. But she said something similar once! " If

you two break up, I'd like to stay close to him because I like him better

than YOU " . Nice, nada. Real nice.

Since I legally divorced him & metaphorically divorced her... I wonder if

they're hanging around town, gallivanting around together? LOL. The visual

of that makes me laugh. But, I don't think ex would do that... he saw first

hand how she was and knew she was nuts.

Mia

On Mon, Mar 14, 2011 at 7:18 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

>

>

> So back in the day when I was married in my early 20s, my parents loved

> loved loved my ex.

>

> And my dad would say 2 or 3 times every time I saw him:

> " Wow, if you two broke up, I think I'd rather stay close to son-in-law than

> Girlscout. I like you a lot better son-in-law. "

>

> Seriously he said this all the time.

>

> And my marriage was deeply troubled. And it really hurt me.

>

> And then we split up - and as a result of that split I no longer have a

> relationship with my father.

>

> I don't know what to think of that .Something someone else wrote just

> reminded me.

>

>

[Guest guest]

My father chose his girlfriend of 8 months over me. Realistically he chose every

woman he was involved with over me, considering he left me in the care of a

lunatic.

I feel your pain.

In fact, he just requested to be my friend on FB, and frankly I don;t think I

want to be his friend.

>

> So back in the day when I was married in my early 20s, my parents loved

> loved loved my ex.

>

> And my dad would say 2 or 3 times every time I saw him:

> " Wow, if you two broke up, I think I'd rather stay close to son-in-law than

> Girlscout. I like you a lot better son-in-law. "

>

> Seriously he said this all the time.

>

> And my marriage was deeply troubled. And it really hurt me.

>

> And then we split up - and as a result of that split I no longer have a

> relationship with my father.

>

> I don't know what to think of that .Something someone else wrote just

> reminded me.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

My father chose his women over me and he preferred my husband to me.

Sometimes I wonder if he gave his women the impression he preferred me just

to keep them insecure. They always hated me so much like he was doing that.

>

>

> My father chose his girlfriend of 8 months over me. Realistically he chose

> every woman he was involved with over me, considering he left me in the care

> of a lunatic.

>

> I feel your pain.

>

> In fact, he just requested to be my friend on FB, and frankly I don;t think

> I want to be his friend.

>

>

>

> >

> > So back in the day when I was married in my early 20s, my parents loved

> > loved loved my ex.

> >

> > And my dad would say 2 or 3 times every time I saw him:

> > " Wow, if you two broke up, I think I'd rather stay close to son-in-law

> than

> > Girlscout. I like you a lot better son-in-law. "

> >

> > Seriously he said this all the time.

> >

> > And my marriage was deeply troubled. And it really hurt me.

> >

> > And then we split up - and as a result of that split I no longer have a

> > relationship with my father.

> >

> > I don't know what to think of that .Something someone else wrote just

> > reminded me.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Mia, that's interesting - you split from nada at the time of your divorce?

Me too. Wonder why? I guess you are just reshuffling relationships at that

point anyway. Maybe its kind of a 2 for 1.

On Mon, Mar 14, 2011 at 9:53 PM, Millicent Kunstler <

millicentkunstler@...> wrote:

> My father chose his women over me and he preferred my husband to me.

> Sometimes I wonder if he gave his women the impression he preferred me just

> to keep them insecure. They always hated me so much like he was doing that.

>

>

>

> >

> >

> > My father chose his girlfriend of 8 months over me. Realistically he

> chose

> > every woman he was involved with over me, considering he left me in the

> care

> > of a lunatic.

> >

> > I feel your pain.

> >

> > In fact, he just requested to be my friend on FB, and frankly I don;t

> think

> > I want to be his friend.

> >

> >

> >

> > >

> > > So back in the day when I was married in my early 20s, my parents loved

> > > loved loved my ex.

> > >

> > > And my dad would say 2 or 3 times every time I saw him:

> > > " Wow, if you two broke up, I think I'd rather stay close to son-in-law

> > than

> > > Girlscout. I like you a lot better son-in-law. "

> > >

> > > Seriously he said this all the time.

> > >

> > > And my marriage was deeply troubled. And it really hurt me.

> > >

> > > And then we split up - and as a result of that split I no longer have a

> > > relationship with my father.

> > >

> > > I don't know what to think of that .Something someone else wrote just

> > > reminded me.

> > >

> > >

> > >