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I do not know where to start. I am new to this group and since I started reading

your letters,I have found it to be so helpful to know that others have suffered

the same outrageous treatment from their nada.l 

I have experienced so many of the events you are talking about.Only child of a

cold mother,raised by nannies.I don't remember being hugged or kissed for that

matter. It was always about her,her needs ,her looks.She left my father for her

best friend 's husband and I was sent away to boarding school at age 6. I moved

away as far as I could to go to college and things only got worse and worse.The

control, the rages,the narcissism ,the accusations and the need to project on me

and accuse me of the things she knew she was herself guilty of. She is now 93

and in good health, she has moved to the town where I live,as well as my

children and grand children and is making our lives miserable.My children at

least can remove themselves and not respond to all her demands.She is

unrelenting ( I have counted up to 15 calls a day) and she expects me to do

everything for her. (Just had to stop typing to get a call from her asking

me-telling me- to pick her up tomorrow

to run errands).She lives in a beautiful retirement home where all is done for

her:food, transportation ,activities etc.. She complains about everything and

has antagonized everyone there.The few people who tried to befriend her, were

promplly rejected if they did or said anything to displease her( the Queen!) She

of course complains of being all alone and that the family never does anything

for her.Well, thank you for letting me vent .It is so good to know that so many

others have shared this experience. Any advice will be greatly appreciated!