She insulted the MONKEES!!!!

March 15, 2011

So, I am friends with my boss, but she has been much of the focus of my

boundary setting with my T. She is not a wholey bad person, but she

definitely doesn't fall into the " safe " category and so I have to guard

myself and use boundaries.

Yesterday she told me a story that really emphasized why I feel I need

boundaries with her.

She said her daughter (just a couple years younger than me) was totally in

love with the silly band the Monkees when she was little. So when daughter

was in jr high, they took her to meet the Monkees at a record store. The

daughter was so moved by meeting her idols that tears started rolling down

her face. My boss told me she leaned in and HISSED at her daughter " Stop

your crying, these are just old men just like your dad. "

Now maybe you have to hear her voice when she says it, but it sounds almost

like the snake language in Harry Potter when she hisses like that. And she

totally shut down her little girl and told her she had no right to feel the

emotions that were coursing through her.

I was so freaking appalled. In my mind a door slammed shut with the cry -

" unsafe! " And I feel terrible for her child.

The funny part is the Monkees heard her do that. Can you imagine insulting

Davey ? My god he's a dream boat!!!!!!!

Kay, not really the deepest story ever but it is a good example of why I

need to protect myself and my emotions. She leaned over 3 people at our

Christmas Office Girlfriend lunch to tell me that I was enjoying my gifts

too loudly and other people in the restaurant were giving her crusties

because of my behavior. Same thing. Same exact thing! I let her statement

flop down right there on the table and didn't pick it up and take it home

and put it under my pillow. If she cares about the expression on the face of

a total stranger more than me enjoying my gifts from my besties then she can

just go somewhere else and hiss at someone else. Or hiss there all by

herself and let it fall on deaf ears.

March 15, 2011

Good for you for not allowing her rude comment about the gifts in.!

> So, I am friends with my boss, but she has been much of the focus of my

> boundary setting with my T. She is not a wholey bad person, but she

> definitely doesn't fall into the " safe " category and so I have to guard

> myself and use boundaries.

>

> Yesterday she told me a story that really emphasized why I feel I need

> boundaries with her.

>

> She said her daughter (just a couple years younger than me) was totally in

> love with the silly band the Monkees when she was little. So when daughter

> was in jr high, they took her to meet the Monkees at a record store. The

> daughter was so moved by meeting her idols that tears started rolling down

> her face. My boss told me she leaned in and HISSED at her daughter " Stop

> your crying, these are just old men just like your dad. "

>

> Now maybe you have to hear her voice when she says it, but it sounds almost

> like the snake language in Harry Potter when she hisses like that. And she

> totally shut down her little girl and told her she had no right to feel the

> emotions that were coursing through her.

>

> I was so freaking appalled. In my mind a door slammed shut with the cry -

> " unsafe! " And I feel terrible for her child.

>

> The funny part is the Monkees heard her do that. Can you imagine insulting

> Davey ? My god he's a dream boat!!!!!!!

>

> Kay, not really the deepest story ever but it is a good example of why I

> need to protect myself and my emotions. She leaned over 3 people at our

> Christmas Office Girlfriend lunch to tell me that I was enjoying my gifts

> too loudly and other people in the restaurant were giving her crusties

> because of my behavior. Same thing. Same exact thing! I let her statement

> flop down right there on the table and didn't pick it up and take it home

> and put it under my pillow. If she cares about the expression on the face of

> a total stranger more than me enjoying my gifts from my besties then she can

> just go somewhere else and hiss at someone else. Or hiss there all by

> herself and let it fall on deaf ears.

>

March 15, 2011

I have to admit I read this post cause I thought it was about a zoo trip and you

were just being silly with spelling.

Now I think your boss is a red-assed, turd, flinging baboon.

First of all, Davy ? Off limits! Foul! The poor daughter was set up!

Second, evil eye'd anonymous person? OMG ... that's a totally made up lie!

There WASN'T any such person. If this person existed for any of us (because

we've all been exposed to a Nada or other BPD who tried to control our

enthusiasm because it made them uncomfortable and somehow SOMEHOW this 'other

person' was always there forcing Nada-esque insane folks to take heed and make

the situation bad and redirect focus of control back to THEM - my God)

IFIFIFIFIF that person existed... THEY'D TELL US (or at very least the

restaurant manager)... not send the BPD'er out to 'save the world of the over

abundance of laughing folks. God... what a complex!

Lynnette