Hello...again

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Hello,

I joined the group a bit ago but have since gotten super busy with

schoolwork. Because of the heavy workload hubby and I have been getting

along well. We seem to have a better marriage when we remain busy. We can

talk civilly and there is no time for him to demand that I do chores ect. I

know the issues are not resolved but for now it is peaceful. It is becoming

clear that our primary issue is a difference in how to handle

" responsibilities " . He seems to feel that we need to put all other concerns

aside until everything is perfect and I (still learning to deal with life

after being raised by nada) need to take time for my personal sanity. This

is no way excuses his behavior but I feel hopeful that we can at least

attempt to compromise. (just an update on the original post I made)

I have received a card from nada recently which, surprisingly, did not upset

me too much. I still hate that the few times she sends mail that she

addreses it to one of my children. I know it is manipulation but I still

cannot help but wonder what I will do if this continues once my daughters

can read. I am so afraid that they will want to see it if it is addressed

to them.

I am still struggling will feelings of guilt that are inappropriate. I had

a person at school who became very offended and angry over a simple

discussion of the interpretation of the law pertaining to harassment and

assault. I know that his assertion that the perpetrator can claim to not

understand the request (don't touch me) as not clear enough prevents any

charges is absurd but I still tend to be a people pleaser and do not want to

hurt him. I cannot, though, agree that it is ever OK to persist in ANY

unwanted physical contact after being told to stop.

That's my recent life/issues in a nutshell. I am going to catch up on the

posts now.

BB