Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I belong to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also has a co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce Your Parents " . Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to you? -Annie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Hi Annie: Beverly Engel's " How To Divorce Your Parents " is the book that got the ball rolling for me. A pal loaned it to me about 8 years ago. Therapists were trying to lead me down the " forgiveness " path, and that was resulting in night sweats, terror attacks, crying jags--it was awful. I couldn't understand my own reactions until I read Beverly's book. Beverly knew the score. she knew my situation, and that book was a life raft. I recently tried to buy it and it's out of print and hard to find. However, I purchased it for used on Amazon. AFB > > These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I belong to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also has a co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) > > Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce Your Parents " . > > Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to you? > > -Annie > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Is this it? The title is different. Kinda expensive. http://www.amazon.com/Divorcing-Parent-Healthy-Choice-Children/dp/0929923189/ref\ =sr_1_14?s=books & ie=UTF8 & qid=1300485811 & sr=1-14 On Fri, Mar 18, 2011 at 3:43 PM, awayfromborderland < awayfromborderland@...> wrote: > > > Hi Annie: > Beverly Engel's " How To Divorce Your Parents " is the book that got the ball > rolling for me. A pal loaned it to me about 8 years ago. Therapists were > trying to lead me down the " forgiveness " path, and that was resulting in > night sweats, terror attacks, crying jags--it was awful. I couldn't > understand my own reactions until I read Beverly's book. Beverly knew the > score. she knew my situation, and that book was a life raft. > > I recently tried to buy it and it's out of print and hard to find. However, > I purchased it for used on Amazon. > AFB > > > > > > > These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I belong > to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my > mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also has a > co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and > antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) > > > > Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce > Your Parents " . > > > > Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to > you? > > > > -Annie > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Aha! Thanks for the correct title, GS: " Divorcing a Parent: The Healthy Choice for Many Adult Children " by Beverly Engel. Funny how some books that seem most relevant to our bpd-parent situation are now rare, out of print, and/or expensive, like " Understanding The Borderline Mother " . I wish these books would be re-issued as new editions, possibly with older material revised and updated to reflect the most recent studies on mental disorders. Or maybe they will become available in one or more of the new electronic formats, such as e-books. We can only hope! -Annie > > > > > > These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I belong > > to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my > > mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also has a > > co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and > > antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) > > > > > > Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce > > Your Parents " . > > > > > > Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to > > you? > > > > > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Here's a way you can afford reading these books, coming from a librarian-in-training http://www.worldcat.org/ and you can see if it's in a library near you. Worst case, interlibrary loan (ILL) would only knock you back a few dollars at most. Holly (the Librarian) On Fri, Mar 18, 2011 at 5:04 PM, Girlscout Cowboy < girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote: > Is this it? The title is different. Kinda expensive. > > http://www.amazon.com/Divorcing-Parent-Healthy-Choice-Children/dp/0929923189/ref\ =sr_1_14?s=books & ie=UTF8 & qid=1300485811 & sr=1-14 > > On Fri, Mar 18, 2011 at 3:43 PM, awayfromborderland < > awayfromborderland@...> wrote: > > > > > > > Hi Annie: > > Beverly Engel's " How To Divorce Your Parents " is the book that got the > ball > > rolling for me. A pal loaned it to me about 8 years ago. Therapists were > > trying to lead me down the " forgiveness " path, and that was resulting in > > night sweats, terror attacks, crying jags--it was awful. I couldn't > > understand my own reactions until I read Beverly's book. Beverly knew the > > score. she knew my situation, and that book was a life raft. > > > > I recently tried to buy it and it's out of print and hard to find. > However, > > I purchased it for used on Amazon. > > AFB > > > > > > > > > > > > These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I > belong > > to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my > > mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also > has a > > co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and > > antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) > > > > > > Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce > > Your Parents " . > > > > > > Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to > > you? > > > > > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 What an awesome library service, Holly! Thanks for the link! -Annie > > > > > > > > These two have been getting some good reviews at the other Group I > > belong > > > to, a support Group for the adult children of narcissistic pd parents (my > > > mother was formally diagnosed *twice* with bpd, but I believe she also > > has a > > > co-morbidity of narcissistic pd, with a smattering of histrionic pd and > > > antisocial pd traits, PLUS obsessive-compulsive pd traits.) > > > > > > > > Beverly Engel's books " Healing Your Emotional Self " and " How To Divorce > > > Your Parents " . > > > > > > > > Has anyone here read either of these, and if so, did they seem good to > > > you? > > > > > > > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 18, 2011 Report Share Posted March 18, 2011 Yes, the link you sent is correct. I got a softcover edition, used, for $30. It's a real shame that the book is so expensive because it's out of print. It might be worth emailing Beverly and telling her there's still a demand for the book. Wouldn't it be great if she could release an e-version! AFB Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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