About to start a new phase with Nada

[Guest guest]

Hey group,

I just learned that I am pregnant with my first baby. My significant other and

I will soon inform Nada and my dad. I expect them to be excited, but I wonder

what good ole Nada will pull out of her back pocket. I know my significant

other will never be good enough to her.

I have had many conversations with him about her. He definitely wants to set

boundaries and keep her at a distance.

I am hoping for the best. I'll certainly give you all an update. Nada has kind

of mellowed out in her old age. I am hoping she will keep it together.

*fingers crossed*

Latasha

[Guest guest]

Congrats!!! Are you LC? Maybe get your LC plan ready just in case.

On Sat, Mar 19, 2011 at 5:46 PM, Latasha wrote:

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>

> Hey group,

>

> I just learned that I am pregnant with my first baby. My significant other

> and I will soon inform Nada and my dad. I expect them to be excited, but I

> wonder what good ole Nada will pull out of her back pocket. I know my

> significant other will never be good enough to her.

>

> I have had many conversations with him about her. He definitely wants to

> set boundaries and keep her at a distance.

>

> I am hoping for the best. I'll certainly give you all an update. Nada has

> kind of mellowed out in her old age. I am hoping she will keep it together.

>

> *fingers crossed*

>

> Latasha

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>

>

[Guest guest]

Congratulations!

Here's a possibility to consider: wait a few months before telling nada and dad.

On the other hand, though, if you make a general announcement on Facebook or

share the news with other family right away, that won't be a viable option.

You and your boyfriend are the only ones who can decide how you want to handle

the announcement and the boundary-setting with the 'rents.

Here's hoping that it will all go smoothly.

best wishes!

-Annie

>

> Hey group,

>

> I just learned that I am pregnant with my first baby. My significant other

and I will soon inform Nada and my dad. I expect them to be excited, but I

wonder what good ole Nada will pull out of her back pocket. I know my

significant other will never be good enough to her.

>

> I have had many conversations with him about her. He definitely wants to set

boundaries and keep her at a distance.

>

> I am hoping for the best. I'll certainly give you all an update. Nada has

kind of mellowed out in her old age. I am hoping she will keep it together.

>

> *fingers crossed*

>

> Latasha

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for the suggestions!

I was NC for awhile. I then had to contact her for a favor. It was

excrutiating to do so, too. She has been fine since then.

I do think I need to hv an LC plan all ready just in case. He & I will have

enough adjustments to make without any sabotage or typical BP behavior entering

the picture.

I considered waiting too, Annie, but my body is changing rapidly. My Nada has a

sixth sense about pregnancy, but she & my dad also know my body type well enough

that they will immediately know something's up. My boyfriend thinks it's a

better idea to face the possible BP rampage and just tell them in the next week

or so.

I have a feeling that she knows me well enough to know I'll cut her off at the

drop of a dime and I'll go NC again. She'll want to be a part of the pregnancy

and be a part of my baby's life. My boyfriend has been ready to tangle with her

since the beginning. He saw her for who she was from the very beginning. He

happened to observe her ordering my dad around like he was a small child. He

complies swiftly and without argument.

This is my opportunity to try to do things right. I will do the very best that

I can.

)

Latasha

[Guest guest]

I wish you luck. My first baby came with many many changes in me. I became

extremely overprotective and was incredibly firm with my boundaries. She crossed

them, she got cut off. I made it very clear that she shall play by my rules from

there on out or she'd be out of the game. It was essentially the first time I

stood up to her and was firm with them. Before she'd manipulate me back into her

drama.

She, unfortunately could not handle it, and I went completely NC just three

years later.

Stay firm. If she truly wants to be a part of your and your families life, she

will play nice.

>

> Thanks for the suggestions!

>

> I was NC for awhile. I then had to contact her for a favor. It was

excrutiating to do so, too. She has been fine since then.

>

> I do think I need to hv an LC plan all ready just in case. He & I will have

enough adjustments to make without any sabotage or typical BP behavior entering

the picture.

>

> I considered waiting too, Annie, but my body is changing rapidly. My Nada has

a sixth sense about pregnancy, but she & my dad also know my body type well

enough that they will immediately know something's up. My boyfriend thinks it's

a better idea to face the possible BP rampage and just tell them in the next

week or so.

>

> I have a feeling that she knows me well enough to know I'll cut her off at the

drop of a dime and I'll go NC again. She'll want to be a part of the pregnancy

and be a part of my baby's life. My boyfriend has been ready to tangle with her

since the beginning. He saw her for who she was from the very beginning. He

happened to observe her ordering my dad around like he was a small child. He

complies swiftly and without argument.

>

> This is my opportunity to try to do things right. I will do the very best

that I can.

>

> )

>

> Latasha

>