Re: Re: parenting with spirituality advice -- thanks!

[Guest guest]

Hi, I just wanted to say thank you for all the advice I got yesterday and today

on the issue with my son and church. I would say names, but I dont want to

forget anybody, so please just know I read all of your replies and take each one

to heart.

As of now, my son hasn't brought the idea up anymore and neither did I. I also

had a session with my therapist this morning. She had a disabled child who

passed away, but she pretty much said everything all of you did in what I should

say from a spiritual and yet realistic perspective.

One thing I never do is lie to my kids. In saying that, I also try not to tell

them things that are not age appropriate. In other words, if something comes up

- like me worrying my daughter at 10 was going to start her period and I was

wigging out about what to say, I want what I tell them to be just enough that

they get what I'm saying but not so much they feel overwhelmed. And that's the

way this issue hit me. What I think and believe about the world and science and

God and creation and evolution is not necessary to say in order to explain why

my son can't walk. He has plenty of time later to consider theses types of

things for himself. And I think that's what I ultimately got from all of you

too -- be honest and realistic and yet don't crush his faith by not explaining

it where he can understand. After all, he is barely 13 (had a birthday this

month) and hasn't had a lot of experiences other kids his age have due to his

disability.

By the way, I know this is off the subject, but do you all think people who

didnt have BPD parents have to put this much thought into parenting? I'm just

curious.

So, back to the topic -- I'm sure this will come up again and probably soon, but

I think I now have a better handle on what to say. So thank you!