OMG, so passive-aggressive

[Guest guest]

My father sent my 13 year old son a birthday card in the mail the other day. I

handed it to him and he pulls out a $25 check. I was thinking, " Wow, he

actually remembered! " until I read the card.

Oh, the Hallmark part was nice -- to my grandson, happy birthday. It was what

he wrote on the inside that was ri.dic.u.lous.

This is verbatim... " Happy Birthday. You are a wonderful grandson. I wish I was

as good of a grandfather. "

OHHHH BAAAAARUUUUUUUUUUTHER.

[Guest guest]

LOLOL.

Yep! BTDT!

Teen's response is usually along the lines of, " $25 is $25.... there is NO crazy

at the bank! "

Lynnette

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> My father sent my 13 year old son a birthday card in the mail the other day.

I handed it to him and he pulls out a $25 check. I was thinking, " Wow, he

actually remembered! " until I read the card.

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> Oh, the Hallmark part was nice -- to my grandson, happy birthday. It was what

he wrote on the inside that was ri.dic.u.lous.

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> This is verbatim... " Happy Birthday. You are a wonderful grandson. I wish I

was as good of a grandfather. "

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[Guest guest]

One of my favorite authors, Heinlein, said, " To me, the highest

form of prose is contained in the phrase " Pay to the order of "

Doug

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> > My father sent my 13 year old son a birthday card in the mail the

other day. I handed it to him and he pulls out a $25 check. I was

thinking, " Wow, he actually remembered! " until I read the card.

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was what he wrote on the inside that was ri.dic.u.lous.

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> > This is verbatim... " Happy Birthday. You are a wonderful grandson. I

wish I was as good of a grandfather. "

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[Guest guest]

Sigh, so manipulative of him.

did your son ask about his wackadoo message??

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> My father sent my 13 year old son a birthday card in the mail the other day.

I handed it to him and he pulls out a $25 check. I was thinking, " Wow, he

actually remembered! " until I read the card.

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> Oh, the Hallmark part was nice -- to my grandson, happy birthday. It was what

he wrote on the inside that was ri.dic.u.lous.

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> This is verbatim... " Happy Birthday. You are a wonderful grandson. I wish I

was as good of a grandfather. "

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[Guest guest]

No. I don't think he even read the card to be honest. I should have known

better, but he's 13 and it had his name on it and so I gave it to him to open. I

never open mail that my name isn't on. But I think he was blinded by the money

and never read the card, lol. I didn't bring it to his attention. I just

showed it to my husband and put it in my purse because I want to show my

therapist on Monday.

Re: OMG, so passive-aggressive

Sigh, so manipulative of him.

did your son ask about his wackadoo message??

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> My father sent my 13 year old son a birthday card in the mail the other day. I

handed it to him and he pulls out a $25 check. I was thinking, " Wow, he actually

remembered! " until I read the card.

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> Oh, the Hallmark part was nice -- to my grandson, happy birthday. It was what

he wrote on the inside that was ri.dic.u.lous.

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> This is verbatim... " Happy Birthday. You are a wonderful grandson. I wish I

was as good of a grandfather. "

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> OHHHH BAAAAARUUUUUUUUUUTHER.

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[Guest guest]

- my mom NEVER sent my son any money in a card. She was always too busy

playing the waif and buying garbage off of QVC. My son actually brought this up

a few weeks ago. He said, you know, other peoples' grandparents send a card

with five bucks, or a check. My other grandparents did this. But Grandmother

NEVER did. " I said, " well, honey, she did try to give you an electric towel

warmer when you were 8 or 9, but I told her you couldn't use it. " (it had been

on QVC and was one of the random things she'd buy and then try to foist off as

gifts.) He said, " Yeah, but that's what grandparents DO. " I had to agree. So

- he's older, and recognizes that she's not what a grandparent should be like.

I feel sad that he couldn't even get a five dollar bill in a card (or even a

card!) from her. But you know what? He doesn't miss her. Not at all. And it

has saved him from being emotionally involved with someone who would have

damaged him.

[Guest guest]

My daughter hasn't received a thing, card or anything, from my stepmom and dad

since she was 9.  She's 15 now.  My daughter's bday is one month

after Christmas, and one year, she sent my daughter a gift card

for Christmas,

and then a gift card for her bday.  But, in between that time, both of us

caught

the flu, and I had fallen on some ice at work and was dealing with that injury,

so I forgot to have my daughter send them a thank you.  When she said something

about not being thanked, I explained what happened, apologized and took the

blame for them not getting a thank you, thanked them, and told them what my

daughter used the gift cards for.  My daughter never heard a thing from them

again.  Fortunately, she has other grandparents that more than make up for my

stepmom and dad.

Janet

 

 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own

understanding.

 In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

 Be not wise in thine own eyes: fear the LORD, and depart from evil.

 It shall be health to thy navel, and marrow to thy bones.

Proverbs 3:5-8

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To: WTOAdultChildren1

Sent: Sun, March 27, 2011 8:04:30 AM

Subject: Re: OMG, so passive-aggressive

 

- my mom NEVER sent my son any money in a card. She was always too busy

playing the waif and buying garbage off of QVC. My son actually brought this up

a few weeks ago. He said, you know, other peoples' grandparents send a card with

five bucks, or a check. My other grandparents did this. But Grandmother NEVER

did. " I said, " well, honey, she did try to give you an electric towel warmer

when you were 8 or 9, but I told her you couldn't use it. " (it had been on QVC

and was one of the random things she'd buy and then try to foist off as gifts.)

He said, " Yeah, but that's what grandparents DO. " I had to agree. So - he's

older, and recognizes that she's not what a grandparent should be like. I feel

sad that he couldn't even get a five dollar bill in a card (or even a card!)

from her. But you know what? He doesn't miss her. Not at all. And it has saved

him from being emotionally involved with someone who would have damaged him.