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Yep, I was NC with my sociopath brother as soon as I could get out of the house.

I saw him occasionally when it couldn't be avoided, but mostly steered clear.

Nada paid his bills, cosigned on mortgages and car loans that he defaulted on,

let him and his alcoholic skank girlfriend move in when he got her pregnant -

and at one point she was calling me to help pay her bills, then using money I'd

sent her to pay HIS bills for him. That was truly the beginning of my

realization that there was something wrong, permanently, unfixably wrong, with

my FOO. It was also the beginning of my total disengagement from them both. I

stayed firmly NC with my brother for well over 10 or 15 years.

So he died in a car wreck (not wearing a seatbelt, everyone else in the car

walked away without a scratch, go figure), and Nada begged me to go to the

funeral. I have to admit, I wasn't very gracious. I was sitting there while

people eulogized him, thinking WTF? He was a a thief, a bully, a boor, a

deadbeat father, a waste of oxygen. (Um, no, I don't miss him.)

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> But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me to die.

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Yes, I am almost to two years with my psycho BP brother. As opposed to my

nada my brother is scary to me. He was the one who made threats, he is the

one who wanted to take me to a party in a graveyard, he is the one who when

I woke up one morning he was lying at the bottom of the bed faced down with

his arms wrapped around mine and my sisters legs, he is the one who

threatened to kill and sadly, he is the one nada protects... go figure. Cuz

I can't figure it out... I guess BP's of a feather flock together... and

another shiver!

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> Anyone Anyone Anyone

> But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me to die.

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OMG this is an issue I know I need to tackle but I don't know how or where

to start.

My brother was cruel to me my entire childhood. He used to drown my favorite

bug and make me watch. Did the same with a rat or mouse he caught. I was

horrified.

He still contacts me even now. I haven't spoken to him or responded to his

attempts to contact me in 8 years. His new wife stalked me.

I believe he won't be happy until I " m dead. I don't have proof of that. I

think maybe he has grown up a lot. But there is something evil about him.

Could there just be something evil about the golden son of a BPD mother?

Were your brothers first born?

On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:19 PM, Cuddle Kettle wrote:

> Yes, I am almost to two years with my psycho BP brother. As opposed to my

> nada my brother is scary to me. He was the one who made threats, he is the

> one who wanted to take me to a party in a graveyard, he is the one who when

> I woke up one morning he was lying at the bottom of the bed faced down with

> his arms wrapped around mine and my sisters legs, he is the one who

> threatened to kill and sadly, he is the one nada protects... go figure. Cuz

> I can't figure it out... I guess BP's of a feather flock together... and

> another shiver!

>

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> On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:46 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

> girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

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> > Anyone Anyone Anyone

> > But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me to

> die.

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Mines a middle..

On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 8:26 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

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>

> OMG this is an issue I know I need to tackle but I don't know how or where

> to start.

>

> My brother was cruel to me my entire childhood. He used to drown my

> favorite

> bug and make me watch. Did the same with a rat or mouse he caught. I was

> horrified.

>

> He still contacts me even now. I haven't spoken to him or responded to his

> attempts to contact me in 8 years. His new wife stalked me.

>

> I believe he won't be happy until I " m dead. I don't have proof of that. I

> think maybe he has grown up a lot. But there is something evil about him.

>

> Could there just be something evil about the golden son of a BPD mother?

>

> Were your brothers first born?

>

> On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:19 PM, Cuddle Kettle <cuddlekettle02@...

> >wrote:

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>

> > Yes, I am almost to two years with my psycho BP brother. As opposed to my

> > nada my brother is scary to me. He was the one who made threats, he is

> the

> > one who wanted to take me to a party in a graveyard, he is the one who

> when

> > I woke up one morning he was lying at the bottom of the bed faced down

> with

> > his arms wrapped around mine and my sisters legs, he is the one who

> > threatened to kill and sadly, he is the one nada protects... go figure.

> Cuz

> > I can't figure it out... I guess BP's of a feather flock together... and

> > another shiver!

> >

> >

> > On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:46 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

> > girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

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> > >

> > > Anyone Anyone Anyone

> > > But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me to

> > die.

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....although he was the first born son!

On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 8:30 PM, Cuddle Kettle wrote:

> Mines a middle..

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> On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 8:26 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

> girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

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>>

>> OMG this is an issue I know I need to tackle but I don't know how or where

>> to start.

>>

>> My brother was cruel to me my entire childhood. He used to drown my

>> favorite

>> bug and make me watch. Did the same with a rat or mouse he caught. I was

>> horrified.

>>

>> He still contacts me even now. I haven't spoken to him or responded to his

>> attempts to contact me in 8 years. His new wife stalked me.

>>

>> I believe he won't be happy until I " m dead. I don't have proof of that. I

>> think maybe he has grown up a lot. But there is something evil about him.

>>

>> Could there just be something evil about the golden son of a BPD mother?

>>

>> Were your brothers first born?

>>

>> On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:19 PM, Cuddle Kettle <cuddlekettle02@...

>> >wrote:

>>

>>

>> > Yes, I am almost to two years with my psycho BP brother. As opposed to

>> my

>> > nada my brother is scary to me. He was the one who made threats, he is

>> the

>> > one who wanted to take me to a party in a graveyard, he is the one who

>> when

>> > I woke up one morning he was lying at the bottom of the bed faced down

>> with

>> > his arms wrapped around mine and my sisters legs, he is the one who

>> > threatened to kill and sadly, he is the one nada protects... go figure.

>> Cuz

>> > I can't figure it out... I guess BP's of a feather flock together... and

>> > another shiver!

>> >

>> >

>> > On Wed, Mar 23, 2011 at 7:46 PM, Girlscout Cowboy <

>> > girlscout.cowboy@...> wrote:

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>> > >

>> > >

>> > > Anyone Anyone Anyone

>> > > But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me to

>> > die.

>> > >

>> > >

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Animal abuse in childhood or teen years can be an indicator of some

really unpleasant stuff.

Doug

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> > > But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me

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" The Macdonald Triad " is a set of three behavioral characteristics that are

associated with sociopathic (aka psychopathic) behavior when they occur together

in an older child or teen. The triad was first identified by J.M. Macdonald in

" The Threat to Kill " , a 1963 paper in the American Journal of Psychiatry.

The three behaviors are:

animal torture,

starting fires, and

bed-wetting.

These have been called " the trifecta of psychopathy. "

Its just chilling to think that a parent would not get help for their child who

exhibits these and other negative, dangerous, violence-prone symptoms. AND by

ignoring these alarming, abnormal behaviors in their " golden child " put their

other children at risk of injury or even death as a result. Its very chilling

indeed.

-Annie

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> > > > But me? 8 years now. . . he still scares me. I believe he wants me

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> OMG this is an issue I know I need to tackle but I don't know how or where

> to start.

>

> My brother was cruel to me my entire childhood. He used to drown my favorite

> bug and make me watch. Did the same with a rat or mouse he caught. I was

> horrified.

>

> He still contacts me even now. I haven't spoken to him or responded to his

> attempts to contact me in 8 years. His new wife stalked me.

>

> I believe he won't be happy until I " m dead. I don't have proof of that. I

> think maybe he has grown up a lot. But there is something evil about him.

>

> Could there just be something evil about the golden son of a BPD mother?

>

> Were your brothers first born?

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> My brother raped me when I was 11 and had been bullying me and threatening me

my whole life. I am terrified of him, and got out of his life 3 years ago, but I

am still scared to answer my door, or run into him on the street. You are NOT

alone in this! and yes...he's firstborn and apple of nadas eye!

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