Re: parenting with spirituality advice -- thanks!

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It is hard. You are a KO, so you have fears about parenting. And

special needs kids have, well, special needs.

http://www.musicforthesoul.org/music/wholeinthesightofgod.html

<http://www.musicforthesoul.org/music/wholeinthesightofgod.html>

This is a link to Music for the Soul. They have a number of CD s of

music for folks dealing with tough issues, such as Breast Cancer,

suicide, and, Special needs kids. This one , Whole in the Sight of God,

is the one for that need.

Doug

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> Hi, I just wanted to say thank you for all the advice I got yesterday

and today on the issue with my son and church. I would say names, but I

dont want to forget anybody, so please just know I read all of your

replies and take each one to heart.

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> As of now, my son hasn't brought the idea up anymore and neither did

I. I also had a session with my therapist this morning. She had a

disabled child who passed away, but she pretty much said everything all

of you did in what I should say from a spiritual and yet realistic

perspective.

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> One thing I never do is lie to my kids. In saying that, I also try not

to tell them things that are not age appropriate. In other words, if

something comes up - like me worrying my daughter at 10 was going to

start her period and I was wigging out about what to say, I want what I

tell them to be just enough that they get what I'm saying but not so

much they feel overwhelmed. And that's the way this issue hit me. What I

think and believe about the world and science and God and creation and

evolution is not necessary to say in order to explain why my son can't

walk. He has plenty of time later to consider theses types of things for

himself. And I think that's what I ultimately got from all of you too --

be honest and realistic and yet don't crush his faith by not explaining

it where he can understand. After all, he is barely 13 (had a birthday

this month) and hasn't had a lot of experiences other kids his age have

due to his disability.

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> By the way, I know this is off the subject, but do you all think

people who didnt have BPD parents have to put this much thought into

parenting? I'm just curious.

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> So, back to the topic -- I'm sure this will come up again and probably

soon, but I think I now have a better handle on what to say. So thank

you!

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