Guest guest Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 Randi, the group owner's, email address? I would be so grateful if someone could pass it along to me :-) > > > Hi , > > Assuming that they're not being physically abused, I think the > best things you can do for them is be available for them to talk > to and enourage them in whatever they want to pursue in life. > They almost certainly need to have someone telling them that > they can suceed and that they should pursue their own dreams. > > I have a half-sister who's 20 years younger than me. I ended up > persuading my nada to move to the city where I live so that my > sister would have a sane and responsible adult in her life. I > let her know on a constant, but low-key basis that our nada was > mentally ill and that her lack of satisfaction and general > nastyness were her own fault, not ours. I wouldn't try pushing > your sisters to accept the idea that your nada has BPD. If > they're ready to talk about what the problem is, by all means > start sharing that, but in the meantime I'd recommend just > reassuring them that what is going on with her isn't their > fault. The more times they hear that, the more likely it is to > sink in. If you show confidence in them, that's likely to sink > in too. Also, if you can, get them out or the house and help > them get time away from your nada on a regular basis. They need > to have time to just be teenage girls without having to worry > about their mother and her problems. > > > At 11:44 PM 03/23/2011 wrote: > >I'm becoming increasingly certain that my mother has BPD. I > >know that the amount of help that I can offer her is limited. > >However, I think that my little sisters (15 and 17) are having > >trouble understanding why their mom says hurtful things to > >them. I know it sounds like they're old enough to get the hint, > >but my mom's been a lot harder on them than she has been on me. > >I've tried explaining the situation to them, but they've both > >been hurt so badly, it's still hard for them to accept. Is > >there anything I can do to help them know that this isn't their > >fault? > > -- > Katrina > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Guest guest Posted March 24, 2011 Report Share Posted March 24, 2011 thank you Doug! > > > > > RandiBPD@... > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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