Re: Re: Raging/doug

[Guest guest]

hear, hear, doug..!!  go for it!

 

besides, i love to tell people what to do and believe and think too.!!

 

oh course its bull shit to deny it..

 

love to all,

ann

Subject: Re: Raging

To: WTOAdultChildren1

Date: Wednesday, March 23, 2011, 12:05 AM

 

I hate to tell anyone what to do. OH bullshit, no I dont.

You should never accept abuse from a BP parent just because they are 1.

BP, or 2. Old. They will only get older, and the BP grows like fungus.

You are never responsible for her poor choices.

I would have a face to face with her, and set some boundaries.

Mom, if you ever call my home again and rage at me like you did , for

any reason, I will stop taking your calls for at least a week. If you

can be polite after that, I will talk to you. I will call you when it

is convenient for me, because I have things to do like babysitting. I

don t want to hear you go on about any other family member. What they

say or do is up to them. I d like to talk to you, and I will, but I

will not accept that sort of abuse from you again. Not ever. If you can

t behave on the phone, I will change my phone number and stop calling

you at all or taking your calls.

Consider, changing your landline number, and getting a cell phone. Give

her just the cell number. If she starts to go off, just turn the damn

thing off.

And btw, mom, if you want to move back to an apartment in the last

state, I ll rent a truck and take you tomorrow.

Thats my take on it. Amazing how, once you finally determine to stand

up and not take it from your nada, you have no tolerance for someone

elses nada being such a bitch!

Doug

>

> Just had the phone hung up in my face for the third time today by my

> nada.The first one early in the AM asking if I was going to call her(I

> had told her I was babysitting early)I told her it would be too early

to

> call and anyway she calls numerous times.WERE you going to call today?

> Faint " yes " .. " HA " Lying again!!Hang up.Just now she calls me, tenth

call

> of the day,and starts blaming me for the weather, having forced her to

> leave her appartment,give up her car etc...She is the one who insisted

> on following me and my family to another state.She is 93 years old,had

> numerous small car accidents and no state would renew her driver's

> licence-She is also quite deaf and refuses to wear a hearing aid.The

> conversation went on to blaming me for my son in law who had the

> courage( a year ago )to stand up to her as she was badmouthing his

wife

> (Her grand daughter,my daughter).I told her I did not want to listen

to

> her accusations anymore.Hang up.Thank you all for letting me vent.I

know

> I will find sympathetic ears. It is so hard to live for so long with a

> raving lunatic.At least I know I am not alone.I do not want to burden

my

> children with this,and I get the brunt of her rage .I am still new to

> this group but it has made me feel so empowered and less vulnerable. I

> read your letters and light bulbs light up.I have a Christmas tree in

my

> head! I recognize so many characteristics and so many events going

back

> to my early childhood that I share with so many of you.Thank you,

thank

> you for being part of my life.

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