Guest guest Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account so she could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone calls. She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting scriptures and odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of her HS friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior was concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's family and harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off Facebook. For awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her through Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the account be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was really stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but then she was also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up logging back on and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed her mind about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of a month or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her quotes. Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for Lent and has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 " Gave up facebook for Lent " something about that struck me as hilarious. Good luck with your mother. :-) > > > I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account so she > could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone calls. > She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting scriptures and > odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of her HS > friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior was > concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's family and > harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered > reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off Facebook. For > awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her through > Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the account > be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was really > stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but then she was > also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up logging back on > and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed her mind > about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of a month > or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her quotes. > Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for Lent and > has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 8, 2011 Report Share Posted April 8, 2011 If only Lent never ended (for her)... > > > > > > > I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account so she > > could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone calls. > > She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting scriptures and > > odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of her HS > > friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior was > > concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's family and > > harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered > > reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off Facebook. For > > awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her through > > Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the account > > be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was really > > stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but then she was > > also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up logging back on > > and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed her mind > > about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of a month > > or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her quotes. > > Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for Lent and > > has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 Oh geez - I see elements of psychosis in these behaviors. We need to call in the big gun (Annie) for diagnosis. I believe she would say your mother has a co-morbid disorder, and that BPD can at times become psychosis. But ANNIE help And yes that is awesome to give up Fbook for Lent. I love that. > > > If only Lent never ended (for her)... > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account so > she > > > could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone > calls. > > > She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting scriptures > and > > > odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of her > HS > > > friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior was > > > concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's > family and > > > harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered > > > reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off Facebook. > For > > > awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her > through > > > Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the > account > > > be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was really > > > stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but then > she was > > > also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up logging > back on > > > and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed her > mind > > > about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of a > month > > > or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her > quotes. > > > Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for Lent > and > > > has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 9, 2011 Report Share Posted April 9, 2011 (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) The behaviors I find the most concerning are: (a) your nada harassing someone, a former boyfriend's relative, via the Internet and ( her feelings of paranoia RE " the mafia and the government watching her " via FaceBook. I hope that your nada will consider seeing a psychologist about these behaviors. I am not a psychologist, and all I can offer here are my own personal opinions, but I feel I can say with confidence that such behaviors are not normal. One of the diagnostic traits of borderline pd is: #9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe dissociative symptoms Only a psychologist or psychiatrist can determine whether your nada's behaviors are part of her borderline pd, or if there's something else going on as well. Psychosis must by definition involve true breaks with reality. Paranoia, delusional thinking and dissociative symptoms *seem* like breaks with reality, but apparently (if I understand what I've read correctly) it has to do with frequency and intensity, and one of the defining points of psychosis is that the patient is having hallucinations that seem real to him or her. True psychosis means the patient can no longer tell what is real and what isn't. I hope that you or someone can convince your nada to talk with a psychotherapist about her negative behaviors before they get her into legal trouble for harassment, and I hope that she can be convinced to stay off of social networking sites altogether. -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account so > > she > > > > could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone > > calls. > > > > She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting scriptures > > and > > > > odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of her > > HS > > > > friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior was > > > > concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's > > family and > > > > harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered > > > > reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off Facebook. > > For > > > > awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her > > through > > > > Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the > > account > > > > be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was really > > > > stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but then > > she was > > > > also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up logging > > back on > > > > and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed her > > mind > > > > about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of a > > month > > > > or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her > > quotes. > > > > Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for Lent > > and > > > > has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Thanks Annie and GirlscoutCowboy. She doesn't know that we know everything that we do so it might be hard to talk to her about seeing a psychologist. Plus her psychologist wasn't very helpful as far as we could tell. She told us that he said she could come if she wanted to but didn't have to come if she didn't want to. I think she was lying. Either way, the information on psychosis is very helpful. I've been attending the Family to Family class provided by NAMI and they gave us a Crisis File which has also been very helpful. We're starting to sort through things slowly but surely as a family. Thanks to everyone for your support! On Sat, Apr 9, 2011 at 12:02 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > The behaviors I find the most concerning are: (a) your nada harassing > someone, a former boyfriend's relative, via the Internet and ( her > feelings of paranoia RE " the mafia and the government watching her " via > FaceBook. > > I hope that your nada will consider seeing a psychologist about these > behaviors. I am not a psychologist, and all I can offer here are my own > personal opinions, but I feel I can say with confidence that such behaviors > are not normal. > > One of the diagnostic traits of borderline pd is: > #9. Transient, stress-related paranoid ideation, delusions or severe > dissociative symptoms > > Only a psychologist or psychiatrist can determine whether your nada's > behaviors are part of her borderline pd, or if there's something else going > on as well. > > Psychosis must by definition involve true breaks with reality. Paranoia, > delusional thinking and dissociative symptoms *seem* like breaks with > reality, but apparently (if I understand what I've read correctly) it has to > do with frequency and intensity, and one of the defining points of psychosis > is that the patient is having hallucinations that seem real to him or her. > True psychosis means the patient can no longer tell what is real and what > isn't. > > I hope that you or someone can convince your nada to talk with a > psychotherapist about her negative behaviors before they get her into legal > trouble for harassment, and I hope that she can be convinced to stay off of > social networking sites altogether. > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > I made the huge mistake of setting nada up with a Facebook account > so > > > she > > > > > could keep up on our family's lives and we could cut down on phone > > > calls. > > > > > She added a bunch of high school friends and started posting > scriptures > > > and > > > > > odd messages (e.g., how men should treat their wives, etc.). One of > her > > > HS > > > > > friends e-mailed me awhile ago to let me know that nada's behavior > was > > > > > concerning. Apparently nada was contacting her former boyfriend's > > > family and > > > > > harassing one of them over facebook to the point that he considered > > > > > reporting her to Facebook. He actually ended up getting off > Facebook. > > > For > > > > > awhile she thought that the government and mafia was watching her > > > through > > > > > Facebook. She would remove all of her pictures and request that the > > > account > > > > > be closed so that no one could hurt her or our family. She was > really > > > > > stressed that it takes 14 days to remove a Facebook account but > then > > > she was > > > > > also obsessed with the guy she was harassing so she'd end up > logging > > > back on > > > > > and re-opening the account before it was even closed. She changed > her > > > mind > > > > > about the Facebook account multiple times a day over the course of > a > > > month > > > > > or more. Meanwhile, my siblings and I were embarrassed about her > > > quotes. > > > > > Thank goodness for her commitment to God. She gave up Facebook for > Lent > > > and > > > > > has been Facebook free so far as I can tell! > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Bet that s the first time you ve been compared to an artillery piece! Doug > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 10, 2011 Report Share Posted April 10, 2011 Well, I've been told I shoot my mouth off a lot, so maybe that's similar? Lol! -Annie > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 Ha!!! I'd describe Annie as a 44 magnum handgun - you only use it if you are serious. Now who is weirded out that I know my guns? Don't worry, its an " occupational " hazard of growing up as a little cowboy. So what is this crisis file like? On Sun, Apr 10, 2011 at 10:25 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > Well, I've been told I shoot my mouth off a lot, so maybe that's similar? > Lol! > -Annie > > > > > > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 Cow GIRL. You aint no BOY! Doc Holliday favored a 44. But being as this a a 44 magnum, the most powerful handgun in the world, and it ll blow your head clean off, you got to ask yourself a question. Do I feel lucky? Well do ya, punk? So should any ask who would presume to F with Annie. Well punk, do ya feel lucky? Doug > > > > > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 Ha ha, I shot a 44 magnum with handpacked cartridges once. Once was enough for a life time. > > > > Cow GIRL. You aint no BOY! > > Doc Holliday favored a 44. > > But being as this a a 44 magnum, the most powerful handgun in the > world, and it ll blow your head clean off, you got to ask yourself a > question. Do I feel lucky? Well do ya, punk? > > So should any ask who would presume to F with Annie. Well punk, do ya > feel lucky? > > Doug > > > > > > > > > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 Told ya you re a girl! > > > > > > > > > Cow GIRL. You aint no BOY! > > > > Doc Holliday favored a 44. > > > > But being as this a a 44 magnum, the most powerful handgun in the > > world, and it ll blow your head clean off, you got to ask yourself a > > question. Do I feel lucky? Well do ya, punk? > > > > So should any ask who would presume to F with Annie. Well punk, do ya > > feel lucky? > > > > Doug Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 11, 2011 Report Share Posted April 11, 2011 LOLOL! -Annie > > > > > > > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2011 Report Share Posted April 12, 2011 I guess I say " boy " because my nada tried to make me into one when I was small. Boy clothes, colors, haircut, you name it. I guess it wasn't literally a boy, but she tried to erase every bit of feminity. It didn't work. On Mon, Apr 11, 2011 at 7:36 PM, anuria67854 wrote: > > > LOLOL! > > -Annie > > > > > > > > > > > > > > (Lol RE me as a " big gun " ) > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2011 Report Share Posted April 12, 2011 Nope, chicky baby, it sure didnt! LOL Doug > > I guess I say " boy " because my nada tried to make me into one when I was > small. Boy clothes, colors, haircut, you name it. I guess it wasn't > literally a boy, but she tried to erase every bit of feminity. It didn't > work. > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 12, 2011 Report Share Posted April 12, 2011 Awww thanks doug > > > > Nope, chicky baby, it sure didnt! > > LOL > > > Doug > > > > > > I guess I say " boy " because my nada tried to make me into one when I > was > > small. Boy clothes, colors, haircut, you name it. I guess it wasn't > > literally a boy, but she tried to erase every bit of feminity. It > didn't > > work. > > > > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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